Social Aniexty

dennynua

Does anybody suffer from this I am 28 live on my own and I am unemployed which doesn't help at all is there something to brake this

exercise is the antidote

dennynua wrote: »

Does anybody suffer from this I am 28 live on my own and I am unemployed which doesn't help at all is there something to brake this

Yes I suffer from it too, wasted many years of my life to it and especially with the no jobs thing in Ireland it can look a little blick. I am only at the start of my recovery, I am back in college. After many years of despair and i am determined to make it work this time.
So I am doing 100%.. Better than I was just last summer

just get back out there and when you get a knock back, don't let it eat you up, keep moving forward
A good quote, 80% of getting on in life is simply turning up!
There's a sticky above on it in case you missed it!

redheadwitch

I have suffered with SA for the past 16 yrs, since i was 15- it has crippled my life and really held me back in so many ways- i cudnt go anywhere without my dad- he was like my carer basically- but he died suddenly in 2010- i had to sell his flat in london and i bought my house here in ireland and moved over with my now 10 yr old son- ive been here 2 and a half years and have never walked outside my front door- i drive everywhere- i definetly have agrophobia mixed in with the SA, so double whammy there. if there was a tablet i cud take just to make it go away,no matter wat price id get the money for it somehow.

dennynua

redheadwitch wrote: »

I have suffered with SA for the past 16 yrs, since i was 15- it has crippled my life and really held me back in so many ways- i cudnt go anywhere without my dad- he was like my carer basically- but he died suddenly in 2010- i had to sell his flat in london and i bought my house here in ireland and moved over with my now 10 yr old son- ive been here 2 and a half years and have never walked outside my front door- i drive everywhere- i definetly have agrophobia mixed in with the SA, so double whammy there. if there was a tablet i cud take just to make it go away,no matter wat price id get the money for it somehow.

yeah its frustrating alright I can go outside ,go to the gym ,go shopping I just wish I wasn't so uptight with people and think so much and just relax and go with the flow ,like the odd night out I have to take xanax, but interveiws ,or any stress and talking to women i just go into meltdown ,it frustrating you just feel like the world is passing you by and everybody is have great lifes except you, aleast you have a child and some legacy and you moved to a new country which i wish i could do ,i really have done nothing with my life

redheadwitch

dennynua wrote: »

yeah its frustrating alright I can go outside ,go to the gym ,go shopping I just wish I wasn't so uptight with people and think so much and just relax and go with the flow ,like the odd night out I have to take xanax, but interveiws ,or any stress and talking to women i just go into meltdown ,it frustrating you just feel like the world is passing you by and everybody is have great lifes except you, aleast you have a child and some legacy and you moved to a new country which i wish i could do ,i really have done nothing with my life

yes im exactly the same- completely freeze around guys, its awful when u just cant relax and be urself. i cope extremely bad under stress aswell, small things that wudnt stress most people out at all. can totally relate, it does feel that life has passed me by these last 15 yrs, it really does. it still feels like it now too. i only moved here as i inherited money from the sale of my dads home, i knew i cudnt waste wat he'd worked his whole life for-so while the prices were low on houses i bought mine here- but ive been on a downward spiral every since- completely isolated, been stabbed in the back wen ive took the chance and trusted people, drank very heavy indoors, gained 2 and a half stone, zero confidence and grieving terribly for my dad- with none of my family bothered with us since he died (my mums dead too), so its pretty lonely.xx

exercise is the antidote

redheadwitch wrote: »

yes im exactly the same- completely freeze around guys, its awful when u just cant relax and be urself. i cope extremely bad under stress aswell, small things that wudnt stress most people out at all. can totally relate, it does feel that life has passed me by these last 15 yrs, it really does. it still feels like it now too. i only moved here as i inherited money from the sale of my dads home, i knew i cudnt waste wat he'd worked his whole life for-so while the prices were low on houses i bought mine here- but ive been on a downward spiral every since- completely isolated, been stabbed in the back wen ive took the chance and trusted people, drank very heavy indoors, gained 2 and a half stone, zero confidence and grieving terribly for my dad- with none of my family bothered with us since he died (my mums dead too), so its pretty lonely.xx

, I am so sorry for your troubles, what sort of area are you in?
I was going to pop in here for abit of courage as I am heading for a Christianing in the morning and I am freaking out about it as I am a godfather for the child, but reading your piece I think I should shut it and get on with it....

I hope you know there is lots of help out there.... just take the first step:).. feel free to p.m me...I hope your days get brighter

dennynua

redheadwitch wrote: »

yes im exactly the same- completely freeze around guys, its awful when u just cant relax and be urself. i cope extremely bad under stress aswell, small things that wudnt stress most people out at all. can totally relate, it does feel that life has passed me by these last 15 yrs, it really does. it still feels like it now too. i only moved here as i inherited money from the sale of my dads home, i knew i cudnt waste wat he'd worked his whole life for-so while the prices were low on houses i bought mine here- but ive been on a downward spiral every since- completely isolated, been stabbed in the back wen ive took the chance and trusted people, drank very heavy indoors, gained 2 and a half stone, zero confidence and grieving terribly for my dad- with none of my family bothered with us since he died (my mums dead too), so its pretty lonely.xx

at least you have son anyway

GreenerGrasss

I've had varying levels of performance anxiety with work and relationships. Some self diagnosed symptoms are: numbness, desensitization, avoiding certain social situations, mild panic attacks, erratic thinking

It's getting better now but when I first started work after uni, I slept very badly and worried excessively.

Edit: Last year I couldn't cope with work stress any longer so went to the doctor and I'm now doing a self Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT) program online. You teach yourself how to stop destructive thinking patterns. I'd recommend it; doesn't cost anything so ask your GP about it.

About CBT Link

MadeMitch

I've suffered with social phobia and agoraphobia since my early teens (I'm 25 now) I find that pushing myself to get out and join something during one of my stronger moments is the best way to break a phase of it.

Support groups that deal with similarly isolating conditions like depression can be a help. I never realised how much people with depression will often withdraw from socialising until I heard a support group speak of it.