Wtf like

Geomy

I was dating someone who I met online for 6 weeks, it got very intense and then she just pulled the plug.

On the 3 of January she called it off.
Anyway I was left in tatters, didn't know wtf was going on.

She told me I wasn't her type, so she had enoug and she didn't feel the same way about me, but she couldn't keep her hands off me up until a few days before.

She initially went back online, even flirted with a friend of mine, in fairness she didn't know he wasn't my friend, that didn't bother me.
She's entitled to do what she wants, nobody owns anyone.

Anyway I went back online made up a new profile I get mail from her today, how are you etc...
Then it went a bit negative from her side, she told me that I was the only guy who never made her feel like a princess, I never asked her out for dinner, I did actually.
And asked her away for a weekend, which she brushed over. ...
I didn't make any effort etc

The scenario is she's gucci cuture, im the earthy
kinda grounded guy...

Would that every work together, she couldn't keep her hands off me ....

Was it only an attraction ?

Is she kinda sorry she pulled the plug

skepticalone

shes a head melt , yer well rid .

CaraMay

She is not into you but she is willing to play games with you. Move on

LegacyUser

Any grown woman who goes on about being 'treated like a princess' is not worth the inevitable head wreck. Or wallet wreck.

banquo

Sounds like she did you a favour by pulling the plug early tbh. Sucks but it's just part of life.

The getting back in touch thing sounds like she just wants attention. Avoid like the plague tbh, ain't nobody got time for that.

Teyla Emmagan

You dodged a bullet there!! If the only complaint I had about my exes was that they didn't treat me like a princess I'd be doing well :-) She broke up with you because she is selfish, immature and avaricious. She is not missing you, just trying to punish you. You are well out of it.

Payton

Life is too short for that type of crap, she done you a massive favour....learn from it and move on. Don't be over thinking it, the right lady will come along.

Geomy

You're right and the strange thing is she's in her mid 40's and behaving like that.
We agreed after breaking up we'd be on friendly terms, but after last night's rant, im well rid.

From reading it,she sounded like she was fairly well on the vino and venting away.

A break from the dating could be good for me.

Well more than likely bump into one another from time to time.

Is it a good idea to block her or just say, wishing you well, sure I hope you meet the right guy...

Merkin

Geomy wrote: »

Is it a good idea to block her or just say, wishing you well, sure I hope you meet the right guy...

Don't engage with her any longer. It's like dealing with a life size troll, don't pay them any attention and they go away. Just block her and ignore all future correspondence from her.

ash23

I'd say she doesn't want you but doesn't want to see you moving on either. She wants you to pine over her, not to be moving on and getting over her and dating again so she decided to try and decimate your confidence by being an utter b!tch.

Block her on the dating site and social media and move on. She's clearly still stuck in her teenage years if she'd carry on in such an immature way where she makes other people feel bad about themselves so that she can feel better about herself.

maria34

I would say she cant pull anyone else so shes trying to catch your attention to feel wanted again.

As she is over 40, id say she wont change so just block her.

Geomy

Blocked her.
Thanks for the suggestions.
I just hope that's the door closed on it.

Big Bag of Chips

You could be talking about someone within my extended family, OP! She is early-mid 40s. Separated, and very little money! She had a bf who was very similar to her, no money - but he had a credit card. The things he used to buy for her, and do for her (all on credit) were ridiculous. But she thought he was the best things ever. Then (when the credit started to run out) things changed and she dumped him. She then got with a fella, who none of us could believe!! He was mature, sensible, had a few quid, but didn't "treat her like a princess"! Instead he more or less redecorated her entire house for her. She rowed with him constantly because.. get this... he didn't just bring home flowers to her on a random weekday evening, for no reason other than to "treat" her. He didn't buy her "stuff" (he renovated her entire house - but that wasn't jewellery and flowers and lavish nights out!) So she dumped him, and is now back with the other fella who seems to have a new credit card (He just paid for Christmas for her and her 4 kids!)

Anyway - moral of the story - she thought she was onto a good thing with you. She found out you weren't into all that, so she moved on looking for someone who will "treat her like a princess" (which is a bit sad for a woman in her 40s!) There is nothing wrong with treating someone nicely, and being kind and generous etc. When it is expected and almost demanded, is when it stops becoming romantic, or even fun.

You'll find someone who isn't so childish!

Geomy

It's the third time in the last 8 year's I have met someone similar.
They're usually very attractive and get loads of attention, but haven't dealt with the past.
Well I learned a valuable lesson,stay away from the glitter lol

NIMAN

Women like them will still be playing the same old tricks when they are 60, cos they won't ever get someone who will satisfy their criteria for what makes a good partner.

You're well rid.

Geomy

NIMAN wrote: »

Women like them will still be playing the same old tricks when they are 60, cos they won't ever get someone who will satisfy their criteria for what makes a good partner.

You're well rid.

Isn't it amazing the way the same advice is given to guy's like me, and I would say the same
to others.
But yet when one gets drawn back into the situation it's like being trapped.
Its so easy to walk away but for some reason
this thought comes to mind, I wonder will it be better things time.

Alas no,it just gets worse and worse...

It's great to be back single again.

I wonder do these princesses have a predatory streak in them, or are they capable of change ?

LegacyUser

IMO, no, she won't change & that kind of woman won't change. As soon as anyone mentions 'princess', I think RUN. And I'm a straight woman. It's a big red flag of entitlement & selfishness. And a woman behaving like a bold immature child.

You really are well rid and have dodged a bullet OP.

Wibbs

Geomy wrote: »

I wonder do these princesses have a predatory streak in them, or are they capable of change ?

In my experience rarely enough, or the madness gets channeled into other areas. God forbid you end up married to one. IMH it's all down to attention. It's what this type of persons emotions and esteem run on and they crave it, bad or good from the world, but especially from men. They usually have many more men "friends" than women friends as the latter have gotten well tired of them early on. Bullet dodged G, bullet dodged.

LegacyUser

Wibbs wrote: »

In my experience rarely enough, or the madness gets channeled into other areas. God forbid you end up married to one. IMH it's all down to attention. It's what this type of persons emotions and esteem run on and they crave it, bad or good from the world, but especially from men. They usually have many more men "friends" than women friends as the latter have gotten well tired of them early on. Bullet dodged G, bullet dodged.

So true in my own experience! Have known a 'princess' who actually stamped her foot & had teary eyes one night out - because we didn't move to a venue she wanted to. She is a family connection, so I had to let things drift, instead of dropping her like I wanted to! It always struck me though, even before I became fully aware of what a selfish entitled bitchy person she was, that she had no female friends. Not one. And how they'd all 'wronged' her in some way. Na - they just weren't susceptible to her looks, and dumped her as a 'friend' due to her bad behaviour!

Wibbs

Princess Syndrome wrote: »

Na - they just weren't susceptible to her looks, and dumped her as a 'friend' due to her bad behaviour!

Pretty much. The type usually looks to attention from men, to replace the attention of her dad, or the lack of attention from her dad. Other women don't get a look in very much as you say they don't get carried away with her looks, so scrape the type off not long after the school gates close. Or they have women "friends" but they're on a conveyer belt and they rarely last long.

However there will be enough men(who should know better) giving attention for even the plainest Jane to keep the attention addiction going, so they never really learn to be not so narcissistic(or learn much later in life). Another indicator for this type is look at her dating history, you'll find that it's very rare for her not to be in a relationship. They go from one bloke to the next, stopping the gap(if one occurs), with male "friends" who think they have a chance to keep this attention level topped up. Some of them will keep the "friend" guys around as backups, extra attention providers even when going out with the primary guy(often complaining about the boyfriend to these guys).

A few years back I remember a conversation with one such woman who was majorly like this in her 20's. Life had thrown her a few wobbles and the realisation had started to dawn on her that she might have been acting in a well dodgy manner. To be fair she was trying to see this, but what struck me was how simple human responses that normal people would take for granted actually came as mini revelations for her. She was that self focused, like some narcissistic autism going on.

The OP dodged such a bullet as he was lining up for a perfect example of the type. The rapid escalation of emotions and sexual energy and equally rapid come down from them, followed by the sense of entitlement in the aftermath is another dead giveaway and red flag and at 40 plus, she's no spring chicken to be pulling that kind of guff.