Chronic illness and gay

gayguy2009

I have been to the doctor and have diagnosed with a chronic illness. This has been very tough to deal with and I'm starting to worry about my future. I'm in my early 20's and worried about dating guys. I feel like a minority and I feel that no one will want to date me because of my illness. Is there anyone out there with a chronic illness who has had trouble with dating etc?

playedalive

Hi there! I don't know if this counts but I am a gay man in my early twenties and have been suffering a lot with my mental health since my teens. I have depression, anxiety and suffer a fair bit with low moods. I have met people in the past, and have been upfront about it. But I think it has turned many people off me. Particularly since I can be very anxious and it can show in the way I speak and act. I probably come across as being maybe shy, on edge, chatty in a nervous way, say things in my head that can come out completely unintended without even meaning any harm. Since I can feel very lonely in my head, I can come across as a little bit needy. Like people who know me would take it with a pinch of salt and just disregard it as something I am worrying, etc. Others might see me as a complete turnoff weirdo type if I am not having a good day.

I guess it's just hopefully finding people who like me for me (you for you, etc), which is not always easy even without an illness.

Alfasudcrazy

Its hard to reply if we don't know the nature of the illness. It would all depend on that really.

floggg

Sorry to hear that.

Apll I can really say is that I imagine any difficulties in dating and meeting people which you may have would be no different to those which straight people in a similar position will face.

Rick_

As someone who has dated a guy before who had an illness I can assure you that to the majority of people, having an illness isn't that big a deal, it wasn't for me.

The only thing that mattered was that he turned out to be a lying, cheating príck! Having an illness certainly didn't stop him getting around so! I'm sure you'll find a partner soon enough.

azezil

How strange, I was just thinking of asking a similar question just the other night and then put the question to myself, could I date someone with a disability or long term illness.

My conclusion was it depends. Just a few examples, epilepsy / diabetes / tourettes / false limb / deaf as long as they're mobile sure no problem. That's pretty much my only per-requisite, that they can walk. How easy am I!? :P