weddings

patsy sally

hi im getting married this year,i have my other halfs sister as one of my bridesmaids,he is asking his brother to be best man but has 4 other brothers and is saying he might ask one of them to be groomsman,i said you cant ask another brother to be groomsman as he would have to dance with his sister and that would look weird,i said ask a friend to be groomsman it wouldnt look as weird then,am i over reacting to him asking his brother to be groomsman or am i right?my sister is the other bridesmaid so no problem there....

marialouise

Why would it be weird to dance with family at a wedding? I'd probably dance with my brother if I had to (except he wouldn't and that situation will probably never arise!), and I think your OH having a reliable groomsman is the most important thing, whether that's a relative or not he needs someone who'll be able to help with the wedding planning. If he picks a friend to suit the dancing who turns out not to be any help whatsoever, that mightn't be the best end result so just keep that in mind! His groomsman should be his choice anyway and not ruled by what might look odd for a 4 minute boogie?

Moonbeam

you are over reacting,it is one dance and brothers and sisters regularly dance together:)

questionmark?

My wife to be is having four bridesmaids but I'm only having three of my close friends with me.. Could I get a fourth, of course, but every else is on the same level of friendship and I'm not picking one for the sake of it just cause people say you should have the same amount!

Peregrinus

Besides, if the "brother and sister dancing together" thing really bothers you, you can just dispense with the tradition of the groomsmen dancing with the bridesmaids.

stinkle

Yeah the last wedding I was at was a friends and she just went around the gang asking us to please get up and dance asap after the first dance cos we could be relied upon to get the party going. All the groomsmen and bridesmaids were in their own relationships and just danced with their actual partners. I think we'll be doing the same, only one groomsman is currently single and one bm might not have her OH there but I won't be forcing anyone to dance with each other if they don't want to..

flikflak

Nobody HAS to dance.

If you dont want to do it then dont. No big deal. Also what is strange about a brother and sister dancing together? They are not in a nightclub at 3am about to smooch the face off each other. Its a formal occasion dance not a trying to get into someones pants dance.

bohsfan

I have often seen a father dance with the bride at a wedding and wouldn't class that as strange! I think you might be overreacting a tad OP

ElleEm

I agree with the others, OP, you are overreacting. Sure after the bride and groom dance, don't the parents get up and dance? I have often seen the father of the bride dance with his daughter while the mother of the groom dances with her son. Your post seems a bit immature, I just can't believe it is an issue. Do you have brothers? Would you never dance with them or your dad?

If you hate the idea that much, you could scrap the forced dancing idea.

Milly33

yep over reacting. Sure there is nothing weird with that I would dance with my brothers at weddings or things like that.. Not weird in the slightest plus isn't it up to him really who he would like to ask.. Women get their choice and most of them are theirs men should at least get to make one

D3PO

major over reaction.

Not in the slightest bit weird and happens regularly at weddings.

patsy sally

cheers for the replys,i have seeing now it is an overreaction on my part,thanks again nice to get others opinions....