"No gifts"

fullstop

I'm going to the wedding of a friend soon, and on the invitation it states no gifts. What's the etiquette here, will they be expecting cash or nothing at all? I've never seen this before.

Berty

For me Cash is a "Gift" so to honour their request I'd give them nothing but my attendance.

sweetie

Unless they are minted and don't want anything at all I presume they are looking for cash. I would call their bluff and give a nice card with a receipt for a donation to a charity that would be close to their hearts. They can't say you were mean and you followed their instructions!

Unless it's a wedding far afield or abroad where you are spending quite a bit of money to get there? people often don't expect gifts at those.

cookiecakes

If I got something that said no gifts, I would understand it to mean that they don't want anything. Not money, not a toaster..nothing at all!
Perhaps i'm just too naive but I wouldn't for a moment think it meant 'we just want money'

A2LUE42

cookiecakes wrote: »

If I got something that said no gifts, I would understand it to mean that they don't want anything. Not money, not a toaster..nothing at all!
Perhaps i'm just too naive but I wouldn't for a moment think it meant 'we just want money'

I would read it that way too.

See this reply to a question about wording as an example
iloveweddings answered 4 years ago
Hi. Of all of those, the first one sounds the best...."Your presence is the only present we desire."

You should definitely use the singular "present" NOT "presents" as that is plural (many gifts.)

Another option (a little classier, I think), is to simply say...."No gifts please."
http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index?qid=20100527133928AAkadHK

Matt_Trakker

You'd presume they still want some dosh though, ask around among others you know that are going.

matrim

I'd take that as no present or cash.

lazygal

I'd take it as nothing to be gifted from any guests, cash or anything else.

I'd still give a card though. Love having our cards as a moment!

Pawwed Rig

Definitely give a card but otherwise cash is a gift so I wouldn't give anything.

John Mason

we put it on our invites and we meant nothing at all.

we just wanted people to come and enjoy themselves, we werent charging an entrance fee

larko

We said no gifts for our wedding in Sept last year but most people gave presents. We know things are tough for people these days and once the people we loved were there that's all that mattered.

I guess you cant force people to do anything but we didnt expect anything. A card maybe but we wouldnt have looked differently at anyone whatever they decided.

DM addict

I would assume it means no gifts at all. If there's something you had in mind to give that you know would be appreciated then perhaps give that.

But otherwise I'd say just go with a card.

Moonbeam

I would take it as they want no cash or present,I would get them something really nice and personal.

fullstop

Thanks for the replies. He's from a wealthy family and he'd be pretty picky about people giving him things he wouldn't like so he probably just doesn't want the hassle of that.

GarIT

fullstop wrote: »

will they be expecting cash or nothing at all?

Yes.








You either give them cash or nothing at all.

Peregrinus

A gift of cash is still a gift. "No gifts" means what it says.

Gatica

agreed. No gift means no gift of any kind, including cash. I'm surprised people do not consider money a gift. Would that mean every wedding we gave cash at they thought we didn't give them a gift?

Personally I'd still want to give them something to commemorate their wedding. Can't say I've great ideas though.

Frigga_92

We stated "no gifts" on our invitations and that meant no cash, no gifts, nothing at all. Weddings are expensive enough, not just for the bride and groom and we didn't want to put our guests to the expense of putting money in a card or going out and buying a present. The majority of our friends have kids or a mortgage and all other things going on in their lives so we wanted it to just be a bit of a party for them too with as little financial pressure as possible.
One or two of our guests still gave us presents, which is fair enough, their choice, but we made sure these gifts were handed over away from our other guests so as not to make anybody feel awkward.

I have to say, some of my friends and workmates were horrified about us putting "no gifts" on our invites. One even said "but how will you pay for the wedding?" :pac:

amdublin

fullstop wrote: »

Thanks for the replies. He's from a wealthy family and he'd be pretty picky about people giving him things he wouldn't like so he probably just doesn't want the hassle of that.

No I'd imagine he's thinking of his guests when he/they put that.

Fair play.