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separation

  • 12-01-2014 2:59am
    #1
    mary67107
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 5 ✭


    Hi just looking for advice on what to expect from a legal aid solicitor in a judicial separation. My husband and I had a domestic violence issue and he was barred from the house for 9 months. He then moved back in. Things are difficult. He is a manipulator and I worry about he could do to make me look bad. I don't know. Do I need to keep notes of things or what and we have 2 children aged 10 and 7. They are having counselling. But this situation now can.t be good for them. As he likes to argu in front of them. My solicitor says it is not her job to advise. So who tells me what to do, how to handle this and what to prepare for court?


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  • #2
    animum
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 134 ✭✭animum


    If there is abuse, record everything, take pictures of bruises etc..screen shot abusive messages on your phone etc.

    I will assume he on longer lives with you.
    If he does get out for your own sake and your children.

    If you haven't applied for legal separation then do so immediately and the solicitor will assist you each step of the way legally.

    Emotionally and financially I hope you have friends and family that can help, and try womensaid.ie

    Best of luck


  • #3
    Santa Cruz
    Banned (with Prison Access) Posts: 3,126 ✭✭✭Santa Cruz


    What is the status of the Barring Order? Has a Court agreed to cancel the Barring Order and allow him back in? If you have allowed him back in while a Baring Order is in force you are seriously weakening your case.

    As for your solicitor saying it is not her job to advise. You went to her seeking assistance with the issue and she took you on as a client. It is her job to explain the different options to you and then you make a decision.
    If you want him in the house then get the Barring Order cancelled. You can always have a Protection Order issued which if he breaches means he can be arrested. It is correct that you keep records, photo of injuries but in the end if the Family Law Court think that you are messing about with the system they will not be favourable to you. In any case you will need to make a definite decision about this relationship because living under the shadow of threats of violence etc. is not doing anyone any favours.


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