depression and anxiety

anthony112

hi all, im new to this forum and am on medication for the above illnesses, please help me with this as i feel im being bullied. the story goes like this

I was listening to music at approximately 15.50pm in the afternoon when this incident arose. I honestly didn’t think the music was too high as my wife and two sons were in bed. My wife came running into the kitchen in an awful temper, shouting and roaring that everyone was in bed and I was playing the music too loud and she was sick, shouting obscenities at me that I got hard to comprehend as I am not a man for cursing or shouting abuse. She said she had texted me to turn it down but it was after her entrance i got it. She continued over to the stereo where she hit it a bang and caused the stereo to become incapacitated for a short while. This was followed by my son the older one who also entered the room shouting obscenities and with a very angry face on him. He continued with the shouting and all I could understand was him shouting the music was too loud which I didn’t think it was so at this stage I was getting afraid and felt I should defend myself before the situation got out of control so I said to him that he plays his guitar until all hours of the night without concern for anybody. I don’t think he understood what I was saying as he continued to shout depravities and then told me to ****ing shut up and it sounded like he meant or else which I seen as provocation. I probably shouldn’t have felt provoked but I had become afraid. At this point I said to him say that again and he did so I rose from my seat and approached him and now was standing face to face with him and asked him again to repeat his obscenity toward me and he did. At this stage I had become very agitated and went to hit his head with my head but failed to make contact. At this stage my wife and son were overly agitated with temper and I sat down again. I don’t remember all the obscenities toward me at this point but my son the same one went over to the stereo, picked it up brought it outside the front door and smashed it on the pavement. He then came back in and some of the obscenities included, you are a ****ing lunatic get some help, go see a doctor, you are driving us mad. At this stage everything has calmed down except for my wife still being very angry, as when I put on a bit of music on my laptop which I am still listening too as I am writing this and it is very low she put her head in the door a few minutes ago and said, still at it. I have noticed lately that my wife and my son do not like me playing music but i have no comprehension why, only that my wife has made a few comments that I shouldn’t be listening to music as it is a sign that I am sick and need to see a doctor. What I can’t comprehend is if she is so worried about me being unwell as she sees it, why is she shouting obscenities at me and is very angry with me all the time.

Penny Tration

The situation sounds more conplex than being purely about the music. I thnk it's something you should discuss with your wife when things have calmed down.

If you got to the point where you attempted to hit your son, I'd recommend that you go back to your doctor, as hitting anybody is completely unacceptable.

I'm sorry I can't be of more help, but I really think it's something you need to discuss in a calm manner with both your wife and your doctor