A bit stalky or not

LegacyUser

Galway based. In early December was in a queue for lunch and got talking to a lovely lady in the queue of front me. We talked for several minutes, where we worked, where we are from etc but I never got her name.

2 weeks later I was in the same place and I was in the queue with a group of friends. I didn't she her but she spotted me as she was leaving and she waved over, said "Hi , Happy Christmas and don't forget where I work"

Since I know where she works would it be a bit stalky to ring her work place (non public office but they take client phone calls (Planners)) and ask to be put through to her and ask her out for lunch ?

Should I wait and hope I see her again ?

ibarelycare

How will you ask to be put through to her if you don't know her name?!!

Meauldsegosha

ABitStalkyOrShouldIRing wrote: »

Galway based. In early December was in a queue for lunch and got talking to a lovely lady in the queue of front me. We talked for several minutes, where we worked, where we are from etc but I never got her name.

2 weeks later I was in the same place and I was in the queue with a group of friends. I didn't she her but she spotted me as she was leaving and she waved over, said "Hi , Happy Christmas and don't forget where I work"

Since I know where she works would it be a bit stalky to ring her work place (non public office but they take client phone calls (Planners)) and ask to be put through to her and ask her out for lunch ?

Should I wait and hope I see her again ?

You don't know her name, how can you ask for her?

boomchicawawa

Crikey ! Woman's viewpoint here.....she could not have made it any more obvious that she likes you .... check it out, surely you know someone who knows someone who is her aunts sister...we all live in a giant fishbowl that is Ireland !!! Hope she's worth the chase :rolleyes:

Big Bag of Chips

Surely you'll bump into her again. Keep going to the same shop and keep an eye out for her.

Calling the office without knowing her name and having to give a sketchy description could backfire... And embarrass her!

You'll bump into her again. Ask her for her name and number and go from there.

freshpopcorn

I think you should go to the same place for lunch and theirs a good chance you'll bump into her!

thegreatgonzo

Sounds like she definitely likes you. I don't think you should phone the office because you will sound nuts but would you send flowers to the office or something? It would brighten up my January if that happened to me.

LegacyUser

Big Bag of Chips wrote: »

Surely you'll bump into her again. Keep going to the same shop and keep an eye out for her.

I can't always go there as it depends on the day/week/work etc. Could take weeks/months to bump into her again.

Big Bag of Chips wrote: »

Calling the office without knowing her name and having to give a sketchy description could backfire... And embarrass her!

You'll bump into her again. Ask her for her name and number and go from there.

I had thought it might embarrass her but I was going to ring the office saying she had helped me with a query but couldn't remember her name and ask to be put through.

Maybe I'll go with hope I see her again suggestion.

thegreatgonzo

I met a guy on a night out once was only chatting to him, and I must have told him where I worked because he showed up at my work place with a punnet of strawberries. It was kind of weird but in a cute way. It's nice when people act a bit out of the ordinary and surprise you. If I was this girl and I had told you not to forget where I worked, I'd probably like a surprise at work too.

username123

ABitStalkyOrShouldIRing wrote: »

I had thought it might embarrass her but I was going to ring the office saying she had helped me with a query but couldn't remember her name and ask to be put through.

Seriously dodge. How will you know it's the right person, you could end up arranging a date with someone completely different!

Try and meet her again at the same place and seize the moment. Best not to embarrass people in work either.

Merkin

She made it obvious that she would like you to get in touch, go for it!!

Chucky the tree

thegreatgonzo wrote: »

Sounds like she definitely likes you. I don't think you should phone the office because you will sound nuts but would you send flowers to the office or something? It would brighten up my January if that happened to me.

Hang on, if he rings the office he'll sound nuts but he'll come across as just lovely if he sends flowers instead?

Lux23

I don't see how he can do any of that without her name?

ash23

I would die a death if someone called me at work in that manner. You know where she works, have they got a facebook page or website? There might be other ways to get her name and contact her without going through her workplace.

To me it's really odd that she said "don't forget where I work" when you don't even have her name. I mean, she's clearly interested but I would try a lot of other ways to get her name before I'd consider ringing her workplace trying to find her.

Even if you type her workplace into facebook it might bring up her profile if she's listed herself as working there.

hardCopy

Lux23 wrote: »

I don't see how he can do any of that without her name?

Maybe she works in a small department?

thegreatgonzo

Chucky the tree wrote: »

Hang on, if he rings the office he'll sound nuts but he'll come across as just lovely if he sends flowers instead?

Well yes because if he rings the office he will be trying to describe the girl to a stranger and it's easy to see how that could become confusing and awkward.
But depending on what conversation he had with the girl when they met, some information could have passed between them that he can put on the card with the flowers that will make him identifiable to her. If she works in a place with a lot of staff I wouldn't do it but lots of places are quite small where everybody knows when the letters are delivered.
The only other reason I would tell someone not to forget where I worked would be if I was trying to get extra business so only the OP knows what they spoke about!

ManOfMystery

So ....... you know where she works, but not her name, and you're unlikely to see her again anytime soon.

I think asking for her at her work or trying to ask for her name could be a bit OTT, the people you're asking might be wary of giving out the info.

This might be a bit of a long shot, but you could always call to the office and ask the receptionist if they have a notice board. Ask her to stick up something on it - maybe a jokey photo of you smiling & holding a card with your number saying "I'm the guy from the <sandwich shop/coffee shop/etc> - fancy dinner?". A tad embarassing for you perhaps, but very non-threatening and she'll recognise you straight away. And if you hear nothing back, then you'll know it didn't work.

hardCopy

At the risk of making this even more stalker-y, you could search linkedin for her employee and see a list of people that work there, with photos, but then you may have to explain how you found out her name...

shampooman

Jaysus just be upfront and straight about it.

Simply ring receptionist and say the following " Hey how are things? Could you do me a favour (insert receptionists name) I met someone from your company there the other day, for life of me I cant recall her name... she has dark hair, brown eyes, an incredible smile and every time I see her my heart skips a beat ( ok maybe just stick to her actual physical attributes ) Anyways she told me she works here and was wondering could you give her my number and tell her its the guy from the coffee shop. Cheers (insert receptionists name)
Now all the above is said in a care free manner. You do not come across as a creep because you're not looking for her number, you are giving away yours. The receptionist will think its "cute" and the girl will think "fair play" for having the liathroidi to do it plus she will be flattered.

Key here is to not take it too seriously, this is fun... treat it like a bit of craic. Be good fun for the girls at the office too. Anyways play it right and you will get a text back that evening

I want an invite to the wedding by the way!

December2012

shampooman wrote: »

Jaysus just be upfront and straight about it.

Simply ring receptionist and say the following " Hey how are things? Could you do me a favour (insert receptionists name) I met someone from your company there the other day, for life of me I cant recall her name... she has dark hair, brown eyes, an incredible smile and every time I see her my heart skips a beat ( ok maybe just stick to her actual physical attributes ) Anyways she told me she works here and was wondering could you give her my number and tell her its the guy from the coffee shop. Cheers (insert receptionists name)
Now all the above is said in a care free manner. You do not come across as a creep because you're not looking for her number, you are giving away yours. The receptionist will think its "cute" and the girl will think "fair play" for having the liathroidi to do it plus she will be flattered.

Key here is to not take it too seriously, this is fun... treat it like a bit of craic. Be good fun for the girls at the office too. Anyways play it right and you will get a text back that evening

I want an invite to the wedding by the way!

All of this! What will probably happen is that the Receptionist will take your number and give it to the girl who can then decide if she will ring you back. Which she will if she likes you. Which it sounds like she does.

ash23

shampooman wrote: »

Jaysus just be upfront and straight about it.

Simply ring receptionist and say the following " Hey how are things? Could you do me a favour (insert receptionists name) I met someone from your company there the other day, for life of me I cant recall her name... she has dark hair, brown eyes, an incredible smile and every time I see her my heart skips a beat ( ok maybe just stick to her actual physical attributes ) Anyways she told me she works here and was wondering could you give her my number and tell her its the guy from the coffee shop. Cheers (insert receptionists name)
Now all the above is said in a care free manner. You do not come across as a creep because you're not looking for her number, you are giving away yours. The receptionist will think its "cute" and the girl will think "fair play" for having the liathroidi to do it plus she will be flattered.

Key here is to not take it too seriously, this is fun... treat it like a bit of craic. Be good fun for the girls at the office too. Anyways play it right and you will get a text back that evening

I want an invite to the wedding by the way!

OP needs to suss out the office dynamic first. Not every place has a receptionist. It could be the girls supervisor or boss who winds up answering the phone. If it's a direct line to a specific section then it's unlikely that there's a receptionist.

I know my team leader is as likely to answer the phone as anyone else on my team and she has no sense of humour and wouldn't appreciate the craic of it at all.

shampooman

ash23 wrote: »

OP needs to suss out the office dynamic first. Not every place has a receptionist. It could be the girls supervisor or boss who winds up answering the phone. If it's a direct line to a specific section then it's unlikely that there's a receptionist.

I know my team leader is as likely to answer the phone as anyone else on my team and she has no sense of humour and wouldn't appreciate the craic of it at all.

Shur there is always a reason not to do something... he could just return to the shop and wait to bump into her which could take months or he do something about it. Most people receptionist/member of staff/boss would find the good nature in it. I think your team leader would be in the minority and should be shipped out to North Korea immediately.

P.S. How is he going to suss out the office dynamic? Bug the place?

ash23

shampooman wrote: »

Shur there is always a reason not to do something... he could just return to the shop and wait to bump into her which could take months or he do something about it. Most people receptionist/member of staff/boss would find the good nature in it. I think your team leader would be in the minority and should be shipped out to North Korea immediately.

P.S. How is he going to suss out the office dynamic? Bug the place?

This is the girls job. Her career. Her place of work. I would think that the potential of causing her embarrassment or possible discipline in her job is reason enough to think twice before ringing up and trying to bag a date.
As for how he's meant to suss it out, he knows what she does and where she works. A simple search of the company name on the internet would show if it's a big operation, a small one, if there's one phone number for the reception or various numbers for each specific section.

OP has no idea whether or not this girls employer would appreciate a guy calling up to ask her out. imo it's better to find another way than risk embarrassing her. There are many, many supervisors/bosses/team leaders with zero sense of humour.

shampooman

Actually fair points Ash! Though the girl in question did give out where she works on two separate occasions so it's clear that she would be comfortable if he called to her work environment otherwise why tell him.. twice?

MagicMarker

shampooman wrote: »

Jaysus just be upfront and straight about it.

Simply ring receptionist and say the following " Hey how are things? Could you do me a favour (insert receptionists name) I met someone from your company there the other day, for life of me I cant recall her name... she has dark hair, brown eyes, an incredible smile and every time I see her my heart skips a beat ( ok maybe just stick to her actual physical attributes ) Anyways she told me she works here and was wondering could you give her my number and tell her its the guy from the coffee shop. Cheers (insert receptionists name)
Now all the above is said in a care free manner. You do not come across as a creep because you're not looking for her number, you are giving away yours. The receptionist will think its "cute" and the girl will think "fair play" for having the liathroidi to do it plus she will be flattered.

Key here is to not take it too seriously, this is fun... treat it like a bit of craic. Be good fun for the girls at the office too. Anyways play it right and you will get a text back that evening

I want an invite to the wedding by the way!

Browns eyes and hair eh? There's about 70 women in my office that fits that description.

OP, what you need is her name. I would not under any circumstances ring her place of business with a vague description, it's completely inappropriate.

shampooman

MagicMarker wrote: »

Browns eyes and hair eh? There's about 70 women in my office that fits that description.

OP, what you need is her name. I would not under any circumstances ring her place of business with a vague description, it's completely inappropriate.

Umm the silly description was said in jest If it is a small business though it would work and as I mentioned before she gave out the name of her work place twice on two separate occasions so I do think I'd go down that route. I mean it's a bit obvious she wouldn't find him calling there inappropriate. Each to their own though.... always reasons not to do something. I find doing things but in the right spirit ( in this case slightly carefree/fun ) gets results rather than over thinking, over analysing and thinking on the negatives. Have fun and use common sense.

The reason I responded to this thread is because when I was younger I met a girl after a gig and didn't follow it up. Never seen her again - regretted it. Made a promise after not to let it happen again. Results were great relationship/friendships with the odd rejection. Best promise to myself I ever made!

Blingy

Do a bit more research google company name, linked in etc. otherwise I definitely think she is interested and you should give the office a call. I would keep it uber professional with the receptionist (some people don't like others knowing their private life at work) say she helped you out on a certain aspect and you have mislaid her name. Good luck.

MagicMarker

shampooman wrote: »

Umm the silly description was said in jest If it is a small business though it would work and as I mentioned before she gave out the name of her work place twice on two separate occasions so I do think I'd go down that route. I mean it's a bit obvious she wouldn't find him calling there inappropriate. Each to their own though.... always reasons not to do something. I find doing things but in the right spirit ( in this case slightly carefree/fun ) gets results rather than over thinking, over analysing and thinking on the negatives. Have fun and use common sense.

The reason I responded to this thread is because when I was younger I met a girl after a gig and didn't follow it up. Never seen her again - regretted it. Made a promise after not to let it happen again. Results were great relationship/friendships with the odd rejection. Best promise to myself I ever made!

She reminded him about where she works under the assumption he knows her name. There's nothing wrong with calling her at work if he knows who he's calling, but he doesn't, and what he'd have to do to find out could backfire.

Jack Skellington

I'm just throwing this out there but if the op thinks she's a regular would it be a good/bad idea to go back to the lunch place and see if they know her or recognise her, he could at least leave his number there if she comes in again!

Animord

Would the staff at the coffee shop know her or know her name? If she goes there for lunch every day (or a lot) they probably would.

BanzaiBk

OP I met my partner of 3 years in Subway in a similar manner to the one you've described. I've posted about it on Boards before. I'd keep going to the shop as often as you can tbh. The ringing to give your number advice is cute but has so many pitfalls! Keep plugging away, she clearly likes you.

anthonymax

Simple solution, go to where she works and wait outside for her.

ivytwine

BanzaiBk wrote: »

OP I met my partner of 3 years in Subway in a similar manner to the one you've described. I've posted about it on Boards before. I'd keep going to the shop as often as you can tbh. The ringing to give your number advice is cute but has so many pitfalls! Keep plugging away, she clearly likes you.

Definitely! Plus you live in Galway, it's a small city, you'll meet again!