Virginity..an issue or not ?

Eire_1992

Hi all.. a good friend of mine has just started seeing this new guy and its her first proper relationship and she keeps asking me questions that I have answered but she doesnt seem satisfied so maybe looking for others opinions might help her out ! She doesnt know how long she should wait to her sex with him and she is also a virgin and she thinks this may be a weird subject to bring up with this guy ??? Is virginity a big issue with lads ?

Opinions welcome

wirelessdude01

Tell her to wait until she is ready. Take no crap or pressure from him.

As regards virginity depending on the age of the people it isn't really an issue. The older you get the less inclined you are to find people who are still virgins but there are still some who wait until they are totally certain. Wouldn't really be a religious thing as such any more.

Eire_1992

She is the same age as me so 21..she isnt still a virgin because of religion she just hasnt found anyone yet..

GreeBo

Being a virgin wouldn't be an issue for me anyway, I'm 36 if that's important.

She shouldn't rush to have sex, just to lose her virginity imo, but each to their own.
I lost mine to a girl I loved...but that was nearly 20 years ago now and I havent seen her in 15 or more, so its really not as big a deal looking back on it as itis looking forward to it.

All that said, I still wouldnt just give it away, just to get rid of it.

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21?
Forget about it until you find someone you want to be with.

Penny Tration

Wait til she's ready. Don't let herself be pressured. If the guy likes and respects her, he will wait.

In her stuation, i would tell the guy because for women, losing your virginity can hurt a bit. As such, if the guy knows she's a virgin, he will probably be gentle with her rather than, er, going at it like a typical 21 year old bloke.

Eire_1992

Is virginity a big issue for those who have replied ?

Meauldsegosha

She should wait until she is ready and feels comfortable. If that takes a week, a month or 6 months it shouldn't matter, she shouldn't feel pressurised to do anything she not comfortable with.

I'm female but it wouldn't bother me. If her boyfriend is bothered about it, he's not worth it.

ted1

Eire_1992 wrote: »

Hi all.. a good friend of mine has just started seeing this new guy and its her first proper relationship and she keeps asking me questions that I have answered but she doesnt seem satisfied so maybe looking for others opinions might help her out ! She doesnt know how long she should wait to her sex with him and she is also a virgin and she thinks this may be a weird subject to bring up with this guy ??? Is virginity a big issue with lads ?

Opinions welcome

No, for me its the girl , I could sleep with a girl once off who has experience or I could sleep with a girl and give her experience. Either way if she's right for me I'm going to do whatever works

Penny Tration

Eire_1992 wrote: »

Is virginity a big issue for those who have replied ?

Nope. A few of the people I went out with were virgins. Not a big deal at all, for most people.

Tramps Like Us

In my experience someones virginity only ever seems relevant to their own sex - i.e teen-aged lads slagging one of their peers for being a virgin.

Men don't look down on women if they are virgins, its not viewed as a negative, if thats the question you are asking.

Your friend should wait until she is sure she wants to - there is no formula or set time, when she feels ready is the answer.

emeraldude

I suppose he could settle for blow jobs for the first couple of weeks before commencing boning

reginaflange

Defintley agree with everyone else. If she's having doubts then she should trust her instincts and wait for the right time. If he tries it on with her,she says no and he ****s off then good luck to him. What's meant to be will be.

Taltos

emeraldude - welcome to PI/RI. Post in this manner again and you will find your stay shortlived. We have a low tolerance threshold here, please read our charter and some other responses before you post again.

emeraldude

Taltos wrote: »

emeraldude - welcome to PI/RI. Post in this manner again and you will find your stay shortlived. We have a low tolerance threshold here, please read our charter and some other responses before you post again.

are you threatening me you fascist prick?

Zaph

emeraldude wrote: »

are you threatening me you fascist prick?

Well I'm banning you, if that helps at all?