how do you get on with your neighbours?

biddy2013

see a few posts where people have no time for their neighbours, i get on well with most of them , they would ring or text ya if they saw anything wrong, just 1 adjoining blow in whose dog chases my cattle, have a fence ordered going to be put up in the next few weeks to keep his dog in. :cool:

Miname

In every area there will be one person who will just be a pain in the arse.

TUBBY

They could be reading so they are all great.

Seriously though, As said in last post, most are dead sound and will let ya know if they saw anything wrong and all help one another but there is always one forgets they live out the country in every townland. That is also the one who makes most noise too.

We are lucky that our "bloe-ins" are very nice and there is a good community spirit where I live.

visatorro

Have one bastard here that can make everyone's life a misery. There's no one that wouldn't be glad to see the back of him. I know that sounds extreme but this true. The other side of the road is a guy who served time in jail. Iv never seen him outside the house. No harm either. That's two bad eggs but everyone else Is fine and we all get on

Timmaay

Any of the farmer local to me are sound out, we all get on fine in terms of rented land etc also, as the saying goes don't sh&t on your neighbours doorstep ha! In terms of non farmers, similar to visa, had a f£cker of a neighbour living in the house beside the rented land who had a serious conviction against him also! (kiddy fiddling if I remember correctly!), we all obviously stayed the hell away from him, he use to have plenty of lawyers letters sent out to the owner of the land beside him, for likes of silage effluent, lose sheets on a roof that was banging, noisy cattle (disturbing the peace etc!). We were all bloody glad when he eventually sold up and moved the hell away about 5yrs ago!

RobertKK

My neighbours are great and would help you out if needed or it they saw something wrong - like an escaped animal from a field....

This past summer I had animals who loved escaping and making holes - it made the fencing good...but one day they broke out on the road and two different neighbours put them back in the field and did a little fencing to keep them in until I got a chance, I was away in town at the time.
They rang and let me know, you couldn't ask for better, really.

bbam

We're bounded by a few bachelors and they don't interact much with anyone.

We were tortured years ago trying to get them to keep boundaries and at the time relations wouldn't have been that good.

We put up mains fence and that sorted that.

Now it's a matter of waving across the ditch or hello on the road but no great friendliness.
I wouldn't ring one of them if I were in trouble with an animal or stuck with a tractor.

vinnie13

visatorro wrote: »

Have one bastard here that can make everyone's life a misery. There's no one that wouldn't be glad to see the back of him. I know that sounds extreme but this true. The other side of the road is a guy who served time in jail. Iv never seen him outside the house. No harm either. That's two bad eggs but everyone else Is fine and we all get on

if i learned one thing in life theres always a twat,all the neighbours are pretty close and always lending a hand watching for anything hooky,farmers willing to lend machinery no problems.

but the one pain isint even from the area moved in a few years ago and has objected to everything,fell out with the nicest people,told very hurtfull lies about one family,always found it best to keep well clear and have nothing to do with them nod and wave thats about it.
what people like this forget is what go's around comes around

jersey101

All neighbours here are in a little click of there own. So dont really bother with them. When they do come down they want to know when ye pissed last

Aineoil

My neighbours are lovely people.

The farmer neighbour has land to the back of our house. Once his cattle escaped out onto the main road. We rang him and he was very grateful that we did.

My husband put some barbed wire to stop the animals from escaping again. My farmer neighbour put up a wooden fence a few days later.

He's a decent man.

Farrell

No truer statement, what goes around comes around, lots forgot it during the "good times".
It's nice to get on with everyone, but lots of time it's great to keep everyone at arms length.
Sadly we're not able to be independent all the time either

onyerbikepat

Very lucky with neighbours, thank God. The area is well built up now, so a lot of new houses. I dont even know the names of a lot of these. Funny how you can salute people day in, day out and never get talking to them. As for the local farmers, there's a lot of stuck tractors, cows trouble calving, cattle breaking out, etc to meet them all regurly.

moy83

Neighbours here are all pretty sound to us anyhow , but I put that down to the fathey being a good samaratin around the place all his life .
I find the blow ins better than the locals

td5man

I think you all know what I feel on this subject

bob charles

16 houses within 500m of the yard. No issues with 15 and 1 constant complainant, day in day out ringing and writing to anyone body that might listen. I always give him a big stupid wave when I see them on the road as I say it drives them nuts. I dont bother talking to them, I have enough on my own plate without worrying about what the next person is doing

feartuath

Great neighbours around here there is 3 and their sons iI can call on if need be even if I am not there,most of fields around are fenced well on both sides ,
I got my chance to repay everyone last year as I was the only one with spare pit and bale silage,I gave away plenty.

Mac Taylor

Like all walks of life, we have the good the bad and ugly. We get on well enough with them all, it's just we would have more interaction with the good!. There is never a problem to get a loan of something or vice versa, likewise you can get help if pulling a calf etc. To be fair the blow ins are all sound, will ring if anything out of place, we had a fella in one day looking at some heifers (not invited) and one of the neighbours spotted him, asked him what he was up to and basically he scattered. The neighbour came in that evening to explain and apologise for frightening him off!!!!. So overall cannot complain.

exercise is the antidote

Good neighbours here.. Would help you out if you your stuck no problem. It's just my dad is to proud to ask for the help a lot of the time.. don't ask and you will not receive unfortunately !

keep going

The neighbours around our place are grand but where we are renting theres a few that you could do without

kevthegaff

the neighbours here are grand

gozunda

kevthegaff wrote: »

the neighbours here are grand

Similar experience ... There is a Chinese story that I always like to think off...


The Two Travelers and the Farmer


A traveler came upon an old farmer hoeing in his field beside the road. Eager to rest his feet, the wanderer hailed the countryman, who seemed happy enough to straighten his back and talk for a moment.
"What sort of people live in hereabouts'' asked the stranger.

"What were the people like where you've come from?" replied the farmer, answering the question with another question.

"They were a bad lot. Troublemakers all, and lazy too. The most selfish people in the world, and not a one of them to be trusted. I'm happy to be leaving the scoundrels."

"Is that so?" replied the old farmer. "Well, I'm afraid that you'll find the same sort here'

Disappointed, the traveler trudged on his way, and the farmer returned to his work.

Some time later another stranger, coming from the opposite direction, hailed the farmer, and they stopped to talk. "What sort of people live in this country" he asked.

"What were the people like where you've come from?" replied the farmer once again.

"They were the best people in the world. Hard working, honest, and friendly. I'm sorry to be leaving them."

"Welcome," said the farmer. "Indeed You'll find the same sort here too'

Sharpshooter82

all good here too so far

Suckler

Blessed with some of ours. Help foddering when we are away, the odd few borrowed bales are never really counted, it all comes out in the wash. One neighbor is a gifted mechanic, will always have a look at something not running right. Couldn't put a price on them.

simx

One neighbour wouldn't have much time or trust for, anymore around I couldn't say a bad word about them, they would help you out where possible

sea12

Mixed lot around here. Wouldn't be a great community spirit or involment as it falls between two parishes so Theres nothing to unite everyone. We get on grand with most and would help out if asked but would rarely look for help. Have a big family with lots of help. There wouldn't be any borrowing machinery around here though. Doesn't happen. I find it strange with all the mentions of it above.
Two blows in either side of me. One is an alcoholic wife beater who left him. Nobody has anything to do with him. The other is an arogont fcker. Most other neighbours are sound and get on well.

exercise is the antidote

when I started out with my own stock, my neighbour that was previously renting the land left all the fencing up so I didn't have to do it. I thought that was a nice gesture.!

Cultie

I have one neighbour hasn't talked or looked at me for two years. Land beside us came up for sale which he had been renting for a few years. He thought he was entitled to it. He went to 124,000 on it. Other neighbours who are still very friendly with me were also bidding on it and I ended up getting it for 189,000. He talks to the other under bidders but refuses to acknowledge me.
Very uncomfortable as I have never had anyone not talk to me in my life. I continue to wave at him on the road and say hello to him at any local events, he just turns his head which is quite embarrassing. Anyway he has the problem not me. It's a pity because we were reasonably friendly and his son in his early twenties is copying him. Meet the wife and she chats away to me.
Any advice for my situation?

Sharpshooter82

Cultie wrote: »

I have one neighbour hasn't talked or looked at me for two years. Land beside us came up for sale which he had been renting for a few years. He thought he was entitled to it. He went to 124,000 on it. Other neighbours who are still very friendly with me were also bidding on it and I ended up getting it for 189,000. He talks to the other under bidders but refuses to acknowledge me.
Very uncomfortable as I have never had anyone not talk to me in my life. I continue to wave at him on the road and say hello to him at any local events, he just turns his head which is quite embarrassing. Anyway he has the problem not me. It's a pity because we were reasonably friendly and his son in his early twenties is copying him. Meet the wife and she chats away to me.
Any advice for my situation?

Welcome to boards first of all, anyways id say keep doing what your doing and keep the moral high ground so to speak. its your neighbour that has the problem not you.

moy83

Cultie wrote: »

I have one neighbour hasn't talked or looked at me for two years. Land beside us came up for sale which he had been renting for a few years. He thought he was entitled to it. He went to 124,000 on it. Other neighbours who are still very friendly with me were also bidding on it and I ended up getting it for 189,000. He talks to the other under bidders but refuses to acknowledge me.
Very uncomfortable as I have never had anyone not talk to me in my life. I continue to wave at him on the road and say hello to him at any local events, he just turns his head which is quite embarrassing. Anyway he has the problem not me. It's a pity because we were reasonably friendly and his son in his early twenties is copying him. Meet the wife and she chats away to me.
Any advice for my situation?

We had a very similar situation with land the father bought about 15 yrs ago , he kept acknowledging yer man even though he was getting the cold shoulder and last year they started talking at a funeral again out of the blue . Its a long time to wait and I would have turned my arse to him long ago but the father likes to keep the peace .

Cultie

Thanks for the welcome and replies.

It a very uncomfortable situation. I'd prefer not to be in. The neighbours sometimes ask me what the story is but I prefer not to even talk about it or all of a sudden a story could develop of he said/I said this or that.
During the summer his cattle were in his silage ground just before it was ready for cutting. I didn't t like to see this happening to any man so I rang him on the mobile a few times but no answer. I text him and he was down in a couple of minutes taking them out.
Hopefully he will come round at some stage but I'm not sure. We all need our neighbours at some stage. Life is a long winding road and I am sure he will need me and vice versa at some stage.

Marooned75

Cultie wrote: »

I have one neighbour hasn't talked or looked at me for two years. Land beside us came up for sale which he had been renting for a few years. He thought he was entitled to it. He went to 124,000 on it. Other neighbours who are still very friendly with me were also bidding on it and I ended up getting it for 189,000. He talks to the other under bidders but refuses to acknowledge me.
Very uncomfortable as I have never had anyone not talk to me in my life. I continue to wave at him on the road and say hello to him at any local events, he just turns his head which is quite embarrassing. Anyway he has the problem not me. It's a pity because we were reasonably friendly and his son in his early twenties is copying him. Meet the wife and she chats away to me.
Any advice for my situation?

F##k him it's his problem not yours forget about him

mf240

Good neighbours here.

Did you get many acres for the 189, culchie?

bob charles

I hope my one prick of neighbors never need me, I wouldnt piss on them if they were on fire, respect is earned:)

Cultie

28 acres on the deeds. Take off lane, hay shed and hedges about 25 acres. Needs reseeding.

Miname

Cultie wrote: »

I have one neighbour hasn't talked or looked at me for two years. Land beside us came up for sale which he had been renting for a few years. He thought he was entitled to it. He went to 124,000 on it. Other neighbours who are still very friendly with me were also bidding on it and I ended up getting it for 189,000. He talks to the other under bidders but refuses to acknowledge me.
Very uncomfortable as I have never had anyone not talk to me in my life. I continue to wave at him on the road and say hello to him at any local events, he just turns his head which is quite embarrassing. Anyway he has the problem not me. It's a pity because we were reasonably friendly and his son in his early twenties is copying him. Meet the wife and she chats away to me.
Any advice for my situation?

Im in the exact same situation here. just let him on and he will calm someday, if he doesnt is he really worth worrying about? I couldnt give a monkeys what anyone has or hasnt got, they are either decent or not, lifes too short to be constantly trying to either fight or befriend people just for the sake of it.

jomoloney

just saw the following on FB and thought of this thread



A young couple moves into a new neighborhood. The next morning while they are eating breakfast, the young woman sees her neighbor hanging the wash outside. "That laundry is not very clean; she doesn't know how to wash correctly. Perhaps she needs better laundry soap." Her husband looks on, remaining silent. Every time her neighbor hangs her wash to dry, the young woman makes the same comments. A m...onth later, the woman is surprised to see a nice clean wash on the line and says to her husband: "Look, she's finally learned how to wash correctly. I wonder who taught her this? " The husband replies, "I got up early this morning and cleaned our windows." And so it is with life... What we see when watching others depends on the clarity of the window through which we look




on a personal front I get on very well with all my neighbours bar 1.

no matter what window I look through won't change my opinion and I'm not alone.

case 956

I've 1 neighbour and he is a prick towards me since I took over the farm because he was hoping our place be sold, he doesn't acknowledge me or my girlfriend, but wen I see him I salute him and say hello and that drives him mad but he has the prob not me and I don't care, all my other neighbours are sound and we give each other a dig out when needed, actually I sursprised a lot of them at a young age

MFdaveIreland

biddy2013 wrote: »

see a few posts where people have no time for their neighbours, i get on well with most of them , they would ring or text ya if they saw anything wrong, just 1 adjoining blow in whose dog chases my cattle, have a fence ordered going to be put up in the next few weeks to keep his dog in. :cool:

Heard of people throwing a llama in with sheep, ended up killing two dogs trying to get at sheep as they are very protective, wonder if it works for cattle

Bizzum

We're lucky enough with our neighbours, never a bother out of them, except one lad who's a bit of a law onto himself, but we would rarely see him as he rents the ground.
We have another very high profile neighbour, who I never clapped eyes on but I'm told he visits by chopper the odd time!

Sharpshooter82

Bizzum wrote: »

We're lucky enough with our neighbours, never a bother out of them, except one lad who's a bit of a law onto himself, but we would rarely see him as he rents the ground.
We have another very high profile neighbour, who I never clapped eyes on but I'm told he visits by chopper the odd time!

Does he own an airline

Bizzum

Sharpshooter82 wrote: »

Does he own an airline

No. I'm not in your county! He owns an oilfield :-)

Sharpshooter82

Bizzum wrote: »

No. I'm not in your county! He owns an oilfield :-)

The b*****d

biddy2013

MFdaveIreland wrote: »

Heard of people throwing a llama in with sheep, ended up killing two dogs trying to get at sheep as they are very protective, wonder if it works for cattle

We already shot his dog on our land but he bought another dog

20silkcut

I have an uncle who is a planning officer in Dublin. He said to me jokingly one time that since he left the home place here back in the late 1960's there have been 19/20 different extensions modifications to our house and farm yard that would have required planning and probably drawn numerous objections if we had neighbours living on top of us like in central Dublin.

We have no issues with neighbours ourselves but an English couple up the road took their neighbours to court over the roots of trees growing in under their fence.

dzer2

Have the best neighbours in the world Thank god. Would have to say all the people here are native they might have married people for else where but have settled on their family land. Only 2 farms have changed hands in this area in 40 yrs. Only thing is I end up doing most of the calving for a good few of them.

towzer2010

bob charles wrote: »

I hope my one prick of neighbors never need me, I wouldnt piss on them if they were on fire, respect is earned:)

I agree with you there. I have one cu*t of a neighbour who has been a complete asshole since he and his family moved in. He stopped talking to all the close neighbours shortly after and one day about 15 years ago his wife called to our door and asked if I would help her with a cow calving as he was away. Anyway being young and naïve I went over to help. I pulled the calf with the jack, milked the cow and stomach tubed the calf on my own. The prick came home in the meantime and fu*ked me out it and ran me.

Now I would p!ss on him if he was on fire but only if I was on hard sprits for a week and my p!ss was flammable.

delaval

Called by my neighbour just before lunch to lift slates and chippy up to do repairs after the storm.

The house is only about 5-6 years old and the two two lads hurled together. The chippy was the guy who roofed it originally, well the craic was mighty and when it came to paying the abuse was something shocking. If you didn't know them you'd swear they were mortal enemies. Great entertainment, an odd comment here and there was enough to keep it going, even though I was busy fencing it was worth the interruption.

Birdnuts

Neighbours around the place in North Mayo are all sound enough. Some of them have given up farming but allow me to graze stock occasionally so their land doesn't become overgrown with briars - a nice arragement which benefits all concerned.Had a dispute with one lad about a right of way a few years back but we laugh about it now.

onyerbikepat

I think society is changing a lot though in this regard. In the old days people depended a lot more on their neighbours. No TV, so calling to each others house late at night was the done thing. 'An chuairt', they used to call it. Now you can live next door to someone and never have to talk to them.

Sharpshooter82

onyerbikepat wrote: »

I think society is changing a lot though in this regard. In the old days people depended a lot more on their neighbours. No TV, so calling to each others house late at night was the done thing. 'An chuairt', they used to call it. Now you can live next door to someone and never have to talk to them.

this is true when you think about it

Milked out

Non farming neighbours are grand mostly no issues but not a whole lot of contact, the farming neighbour is super, helped to keep the place going when things got tough, all he said when thanked is only returning the favour to the father, Have always being going over and back for years, its priceless really to have someone like that