What should I do about my girl crush?

MomijiHime

I'm a 15 year old girl and I've had a big crush on another girl in my class for about a year. She hasn't come out but I think she's at least bi. I mean, she's never had a boyfriend and has talked about how hot she finds certain other girls. That's my reasoning anyways..

She sends a lot of mixed signals to me. We always make eye contact and I've often caught her looking at me only to have her turn away once our eyes meet. She laughs at all my jokes and even when I'm not trying to be funny. At discos that we both went to, she hugged me, danced with me and took a photo with me.

A few weeks ago, we were put into a group together with other people. I'm quite quiet so I didn't say much. I was really annoyed with myself because of this but later on she said to me that she liked that I was quiet compared to other people who are like "blahblahblah". She herself is really sociable and outgoing.

She often finds excuses to talk to my friend and I and once or twice she's pulled a face at me in class... but then there's times where she acts really cold to me. Doesn't look at me or respond to my snaps.

I want to tell her how I feel but I'm scared of rejection. If she doesn't feel the same way, it'll be embarrassing to face her everyday until I finish school. What should I do?

CBX

I'm not sure. It seems to me she is just being a normal 15 year old friend. Girls always call other girls hot - that is nothing new and does not mean they are sexually attracted. Hugging is also common among 15 year old girls, as is taking pictures with each other. The rest of the things you mentioned could just be you two being good friends and I see nothing out of the ordinary.

I would advise you not to say it. At 15 it's hard to know how she'll react, whether she will tell others, etc. I would just be worried that you could end up being bullied as a result of it.

Perhaps you should just put out some feelers, flirt with her and stuff, and see how she responds to these things and use this to gauge whether she is actually interested in you.

Best of luck.

qo2cj1dsne8y4k

I dunno OP.

When I was 15, I had never had a boyfriend either, and even now I'd say if girls were hot or cute but I am nowhere near bi or lesbian. I'm comfortable enough with my own sexuality that I can appreciate a good looking woman.

The rest of the examples, getting into photos with you, hugging you, being nice to you, I personally wouldn't read too much into that she just seems to be a normal 15 year old girl.

I would wonder though, if she's as self confident as she sounds, would she not just come out and say it to you? From your post she seems to be direct enough

thegreatgonzo

Don't do anything OP. As someone mentioned above you could end up getting bullied, you don't know for sure how she will react.
I have 2 lesbian friends who I met in when I was college and afterwards (they didn't know each other, I met them separately). Both of them had experienced the same situation in school which wrecked their heads for years. They each had a best friend who was 'straight' but who liked to keep them hanging by occasionally secretly snogging them and them dropping them for whatever guy came along. My friends had real feelings for these girls who they thought were their best friends but they got hurt time and time again. Just be careful out there, it's difficult at your age, it takes some people a long time to reach emotional maturity and they hurt a lot of people along the way.

ted1

Ask the same question here: ( my initial thought is to do nothing)
Most of the people on that forum will have gone through what your experiencing and can offer real world advice

http://touch.boards.ie/forum/255

hoodwinked

Honestly op, taking gender out of it, i always advise people not to date where they work,


the same applies imo for school or college,

if things go wrong then you are stuck alongside that person for 3,4 or more years and things get awkward,


my advice would be, either wait until she spells it out for you, or see how you feel when you are both finished school, then if you feel the same way by all means go for it as if it goes wrong you will never have to see her again,

MomijiHime

hoodwinked wrote: »

Honestly op, taking gender out of it, i always advise people not to date where they work,


the same applies imo for school or college,

if things go wrong then you are stuck alongside that person for 3,4 or more years and things get awkward,


my advice would be, either wait until she spells it out for you, or see how you feel when you are both finished school, then if you feel the same way by all means go for it as if it goes wrong you will never have to see her again,

Okay, I'll do this.

Thanks for the feedback everyone Much appreciated

qdawg86

Could you hang out with her just as friends initially. Spending time together as friends could allow you to find out more about eachother i.e if she is into girls. And lots of relationships are borne out of friendships anyway, so this could be a good way to start anyway.

If you find out that she is straight then no harm done.