Minor problem, feel like a dope

comfortseeker

Minor problem compared to others problems on here but I just feel like such a dope I wanted to get it off my chest. Been poking a guy on Facebook for a few weeks now and really fancy him so decided to send him a happy Xmas mail this morning to get conversation going but got no reply and he has seen the message. I know feel like such a dope, should I just ignore the situation completely?

wirelessdude01

Has he been poking you back?

comfortseeker

wirelessdude01 wrote: »

Has he been poking you back?

Yes he's the one that started the poking?

wirelessdude01

Never any actual messages?

Penny Tration

I'm not trying to be cheeky, but it's Christmas day, so what if he's seen it? I've read about twenty messages today but haven't replied to most of them yet. People are busy on Christmas, just relax and if he replies in the next few days, happy days.

Casshern88

comfortseeker wrote: »

Minor problem compared to others problems on here but I just feel like such a dope I wanted to get it off my chest. Been poking a guy on Facebook for a few weeks now and really fancy him so decided to send him a happy Xmas mail this morning to get conversation going but got no reply and he has seen the message. I know feel like such a dope, should I just ignore the situation completely?

Relax it's only been a few hours at most. Not every one replys to things straight away don't over analysis it. Often I'll see a message but not reply for a while because I'm busy or I just don't particularly feel like it at that time. It's no reflection on person who wrote it. It's Christmas day he might be busy with family not looking at Facebook.

Also there is a slight possibility he may not want to seem over egar and will wait a while before replying. Either way don't worry have some Christmas dinner I'm sure he'll get back to ya later.

comfortseeker

Thanks guys I know I sound like an awful dope to be worrying about something to trivial on Xmas day but I'm not used to this thing so just said I would take a chance and try start a convo today because it seemed easier than any other day and when I seen he seen it and didn't reply panic stations set in and I tought I made a mistake and looked like a right eejit now

Czarcasm

wirelessdude01 wrote: »

Has he been poking you back?

comfortseeker wrote: »

Yes he's the one that started the poking?

wirelessdude01 wrote: »

Never any actual messages?

^ For anyone who ever wonders what they're missing by not being on Facebook - You're nobody until you've been poked...

That aside, fair dues OP for messaging him at least and I do hope it works out for you, Season that's in it and all, but try not to stress too much about it, he's probably not sure what to say now that one of you's done with all the poking and taken the initiative

comfortseeker

Czarcasm wrote: »

^ For anyone who ever wonders what they're missing by not being on Facebook - You're nobody until you've been poked...

That aside, fair dues OP for messaging him at least and I do hope it works out for you, Season that's in it and all, but try not to stress too much about it, he's probably not sure what to say now that one of you's done with all the poking and taken the initiative

Fingers crossed anyway

comfortseeker

He's been online most the day now and no reply! A well..

wirelessdude01

What age are ye?

comfortseeker

wirelessdude01 wrote: »

What age are ye?

Young

wirelessdude01

Relax would ya so.

Penny Tration

You sound way too invested in a guy you don't even converse with.

How do you know he's been online all day? A couple of quick status updates equates to about ten minutes online.

Unless you're repeatedly checking the chat/pm box, because that shows how frequently the person is online. If that's what you're doing, you need to get offline because that's obsessive, sonewhat scary behaviour.

You sent him a message, today. He hasn't replied yet. It's Christmas day. Most people have better things to be doing, to be blunt. Even if it were a normal day, it's been a number of hours since you messaged him, that's nothing!

You didn't come across as an idiot by messaging him, but really, let it go now. You are acting obsessive now and that's a scary trait, not an endearing one.

Apart from him probably being too wrapped up in Christmas to reply, what about you? Surely you should be celebrating and enjoying your day, rather than getting upset over someone you don't even seem to know?

m'lady

No you didn't act like an idiot, but yes a bit obsessive if your checking whether he's online etc.. But I do sort of understand that you like him and wanted a reply.. Just don't send anything else, otherwise you will look like an idiot!

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