Asshole ... Or not lol ???

Niamh1111

Hi.

Littlelulu13

You're 15 meeting a stranger from the internet that claims to be 18 which they may or may not be? Hmmmm

Have you told anyone about this? Parents, friends, family?

I presume you have heard of people pretending to be younger than they are on the internet and they have motives for it. Bad things have happened!

I was 15 once upon a time too and like that but now that i'm older I look back and see how naive I actually was. The internet was only becoming popular when I was 15 (dial up internet, it was torture) and the amount of utter creeps that were on it even then prowling! I'm not trying to be condescending but be very careful what you get mixed up in with strangers especially people that you don't know at all or have any connections to the person other than knowing them on the internet. Just because he has a facebook page doesn't mean its a real facebook page or the people liking his page may not be real people either. Chances are he is genuine but you just don't know!

Apart from that, if people drift away then leave them. I spent years chasing friendships that were drifting and it was a waste of time. If someone wants to be a friend then they make an equal effort. One sided friendships are pointless. That is a lesson for life and as you get older friendships will come and go.

hallo dare

Op, catch a grip of yourself, i think you feel you're in some Hollywood chick flick or something! Go enjoy life outside or something for God sake, you're only 15. and get off those bloody computers. Too many young folk are brain washed these days with the net and tv.

CaraMay

Op value yourself. 15 is very young to be chasing all these guys (saw your other post). Take a step back and spend time with your friends and family. There are plenty of years for guys when you are better able to handle it emotionally.

bp

When I was about your age I got chatting to 'lovely' guys on the internet. We were meant to meet up. Thank god they stood us up (myself and a friend). They then gave me such hassle until I threatened to go to the police.

Anyways you don't know this guy so I would be very careful. That, and sorry to sound harsh, you are coming across way to needy and that is a turn off. Thirdly when you get to 18 you will realise that 15 year olds hold no interest for you - there is a massive maturity difference that you don't see until you are older.

Good luck and be interet savvy please and stay safe - people lie, especially online

ElleEm

OP, your posts are really hard to read with the lack of proper punctuation and all the spelling mistakes (text speak).

This guy is clearly no longer interested in you. But you don't need to be chatting with lads on the internet, it's a dangerous game. Go out with your friends, have fun being with yourself. Stop getting so caught up in guys while you are so young!

jacksie66

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Penny Tration

Hiya. So, it was your birthday last week? Which means that for all of the time you were talking to this guy, you were only fourteen?

Do you not see how wrong it is for an adult of his age to associate with a child of your age? My little sister has just turned sixteen and I'm crack up if any older guys were talking to her online!

Aside from the danger, he's not speaking to you. He's grown bored and you need to stop chasing him.

You obviously have feelings for him, but it would never work, you live in different countries! If you were both adults with good, well paid jobs it could work because you could go see each other lots, but this will never work.

He stopped taking time to be your friend. That's all you need to know. He's bored, not interested in you, decided he doesn't like you, whatever. Either way, he doesn't have any interest now.

I read your other thread too and seriously lay off guys for a while. When I was a little bit older than you, I went from relationship to relationship and they never worked out. It was only when I stayed single by choice, had fun with my friends, focused on my career and then a year later started seeing somebody, that it worked.

You really don't need a boyfriend. At your age, all they bring is drama, believe me, I've been there!

Niamh1111

Littlelulu13 wrote: »

You're 15 meeting a stranger from the internet that claims to be 18 which they may or may not be? Hmmmm

Have you told anyone about this? Parents, friends, family?

I presume you have heard of people pretending to be younger than they are on the internet and they have motives for it. Bad things have happened!

I was 15 once upon a time too and like that but now that i'm older I look back and see how naive I actually was. The internet was only becoming popular when I was 15 (dial up internet, it was torture) and the amount of utter creeps that were on it even then prowling! I'm not trying to be condescending but be very careful what you get mixed up in with strangers especially people that you don't know at all or have any connections to the person other than knowing them on the internet. Just because he has a facebook page doesn't mean its a real facebook page or the people liking his page may not be real people either. Chances are he is genuine but you just don't know!

Apart from that, if people drift away then leave them. I spent years chasing friendships that were drifting and it was a waste of time. If someone wants to be a friend then they make an equal effort. One sided friendships are pointless. That is a lesson for life and as you get older friendships will come and go.

Ive been video chatting with him lol hes definitely not some 40 year old creep hahahaha :P thx anyways :P

Big Bag of Chips

Niamh1111, I am going to lock both of your threads until you read the Charter for our Forum and confirm to me by sending me a PM that you understand what is the standard of posting expected in Personal Issues.

You have broken a number of the rules - no txtspk being one. It makes your post very difficult to read and puts people of offering advice. And it is also against our Charter to start multiple threads in a short period of time.

Please decide which thread you would like to remain open and I will reopen it. And please do not use txtspk anymore or you will pick up a ban from Personal Issues.

Edit: Thread reopened, with a warning to the OP, that anymore txtspk will result in a 1 week ban.

username123

Niamh1111 wrote: »

Ive been video chatting with him lol hes definitely not some 40 year old creep hahahaha :P thx anyways :P

If he was found out to be video chatting and otherwise chatting with you it would be seen as "grooming" and he could find himself in very serious trouble with the police in the UK and the Gardai in Ireland.

He is an adult in the eyes of the law and you are a minor. That he is engaging in this behaviour with you is worrying tbh.

Do your parents know about this?

Niamh1111

for a start i dont know what "grooming" is hahaha and I'm definitely not worried so other people shouldn't be haha I only wanted to find out if people thought he was telling the truth about being "busy" or if he's just an 18 year old ass.

username123

Niamh1111 wrote: »

for a start i dont know what "grooming" is hahaha and I'm definitely not worried so other people shouldn't be haha I only wanted to find out if people thought he was telling the truth about being "busy" or if he's just an 18 year old ass.

Grooming basically means telling you a bunch of lies to make you trust him but hiding the real motive.

I'm not sure what, if any, responsibility boards.ie has to disclosures of this nature but I would respectfully suggest that this thread is closed and appropriate action taken.

You haven't done anything wrong OP, but it is possible that you are being fooled.

Matteroffact

He is showing signs of not being interested anymore. You are too young to read the signs, but they are there. Forget about him. He will not say the words "I am not interested, go away", so you have to be able to read between the lines and when I read between the lines it says "NOT INTERESTED". The next step you have to take is delete him from your contacts, and find something more interesting to do with your time.

Big Bag of Chips

Niamh1111 - It is time to close your thread. And it is time for you to find someone else to occupy your time. This guy is too old for you. Maybe he has decided that you are too young for him, and is backing away from you without being rude. As matteroffact says, you are too young to realise this. Which is why you are too young for any sort of relationship/friendship with an 18 year old.

Please be careful in future. Don't ever meet anyone from the internet without letting a parent know where you will be. If you feel you cannot tell your parent, then you know what you are doing isn't exactly right.

If you really must chase boys, we advise that you stick to boys your own age. An 18 year old is a MAN, you are a child.

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