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Boyfriend going mad

  • 20-12-2013 10:30am
    #1
    LegacyUser
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    My boyfriend's behaviour is incredibly erratic at the moment, he is drinking all night and sleeping all day and it seems he is doing this to run away from a stressful business. He came back tonight after 8 hours boozing and said he was going away for three days leaving me and one member of staff to look after his business on what will be the busiest weekend of the year. Number one I am not sure I can do this on my own as there are a lot of things I can't do on my own and the staff member is only working with us two weeks.

    Secondly, my boyfriend is very loving and he adores me. I know this selfish behaviour is a result of stress, he just can't cope with the business and he's been ignoring what seems to be a serious depression. I have asked him to get help and he says he will after Christmas, but about a half hour ago he said he was going to his family for three days and leaving the business. This can not be the decision of a sane man.

    What do I do? Who can I ask for help? Is there a mental health helpline I can call. I am afraid to talk to his Dad and his sisters as they have no idea what a mess he is in. His friends are of little help and they don't want to interfere anyway. I also feel like I am telling tales a bit. I just don't know what to do and I feel so alone.


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  • #2
    miamee
    Moderators, Social & Fun Moderators, Regional East Moderators, Regional North West Moderators Posts: 12,526 Mod ✭✭✭✭miamee


    Sorry to hear about your situation OP. This link might help you, it's for people supporting someone with depression: http://www.aware.ie/help/information/supporting-others/

    In the meantime, is there anyone you can call in to help out with the business over the next few days? His family will surely be surprised that he can take 3 days off at such a busy time and know that something is up anyway. If you are close to them, perhaps talking to them or asking them to help out is the way to go. He is going to need their support in the long run.

    Best of luck.


  • #3
    Merkin
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 8,230 ✭✭✭Merkin


    I think you should talk to his family. He may be having some kind of breakdown and if he is going to stay with them for three days then it is imperative you tell them


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