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What's your thoughts of holding a wedding but having the guests pay the expenses?

  • 16-12-2013 7:32pm
    #1
    BetterThanThou
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 944 ✭✭✭


    Someone I know has their wedding booked, and I've heard they're having the guests pay for the meal and hotel. No one seems to be batting an eyelid, but this is something I've never heard of. Is this a done thing in this day and age? I always went by the assumption that all expenses(not drink and such, obviously) should be paid for the guests and if you can't afford that you just don't have a big wedding.


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  • #2
    awec
    Administrators Posts: 54,424 Admin ✭✭✭✭✭awec


    Expecting your guests to fund any part of your wedding is laughable. Pretty rude, to be honest.

    They come, they buy their own drinks and they bring a gift of whatever value they deem they want to bring.

    It begs the question do people see guests as people they want to spend their day with, or people they think they can get some cash off?


  • #3
    Meangadh
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 3,963 ✭✭✭Meangadh


    Well if I had to pay for my meal they wouldn't be getting a present. It's either one or t'other.


  • #4
    Frank Black
    Closed Accounts Posts: 4,296 ✭✭✭Frank Black


    BetterThanThou wrote: »
    Someone I know has their wedding booked, and I've heard they're having the guests pay for the meal and hotel.

    One, I doubt you do know anybody like this.
    Two, even if you did, you heard wrong.


  • #5
    BetterThanThou
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 944 ✭✭✭BetterThanThou


    Frank Black wrote: »
    One, I doubt you do know anybody like this.
    Two, even if you did, you heard wrong.
    I do know somebody like this, and I definitely didn't hear wrong.


  • #6
    SV
    Closed Accounts Posts: 9,534 ✭✭✭SV


    Just wouldn't go to it. If they want lots of people to come to their wedding then pay for it themselves. Weddings are a dime a dozen nowadays, nothing special about the 'holy matrimony'


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  • #7
    Huckster
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 63 ✭✭Huckster


    Guests already pay for the wedding. It's called a 'gift'.


  • #8
    [Deleted User]
    Posts: 0 ✭ [Deleted User]


    I'd imagine there'll be a lot of people not going!


  • #9
    hairyslug
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 2,596 ✭✭✭hairyslug


    Ive never been to a wedding that has covered the cost of a stay on the hotel, yeah the meal and a drink or two have been paid for, that's a given but I would never expect the couple to cover the cost of a bedroom for the night


  • #10
    Daqster
    Closed Accounts Posts: 723 ✭✭✭Daqster


    If they're short money they should just sell the engagement ring and buy everyone a fecking meal.


  • #11
    awec
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    hairyslug wrote: »
    Ive never been to a wedding that has covered the cost of a stay on the hotel, yeah the meal and a drink or two have been paid for, that's a given but I would never expect the couple to cover the cost of a bedroom for the night

    I think the OP meant the cost of hiring the function room in the hotel for the food and dance.


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  • #12
    Red Pepper
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    It will still be utterly boring.


  • #13
    Merkin
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    BetterThanThou wrote: »
    I do know somebody like this, and I definitely didn't hear wrong.

    They'd be better just being honest and calling it a Benefit or Fundraiser then :rolleyes:


  • #14
    cantdecide
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 11,465 ✭✭✭✭cantdecide


    If they're too hard up to spring for something proper they could just have an immediate family/ close friends thing and for a reception, they could have a huge bbq like the garden of a house of a family member. This type of thing can be far more memorable and unique than the standard off the shelf wedding everyone has these days.

    If they're just too mean, eff 'em, don't go. They might come to your wedding and will expect to be fed.


  • #15
    looking_around
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 2,491 ✭✭✭looking_around


    Least they're being honest about it :pac:


  • #16
    Warper
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    Tightass


  • #17
    Red21
    Closed Accounts Posts: 594 ✭✭✭Red21


    BetterThanThou wrote: »
    Someone I know has their wedding booked, and I've heard they're having the guests pay for the meal and hotel. No one seems to be batting an eyelid, but this is something I've never heard of. Is this a done thing in this day and age? I always went by the assumption that all expenses(not drink and such, obviously) should be paid for the guests and if you can't afford that you just don't have a big wedding.
    If they're saying strictly no gifts/cash in cards, it's actually more honest than the standard wedding


  • #18
    Sh1tbag OToole
    Closed Accounts Posts: 3,973 ✭✭✭Sh1tbag OToole


    Red21 wrote: »
    If they're saying strictly no gifts/cash in cards, it's actually more honest than the standard wedding

    'Free' food and drinks but expecting everyone to bring a gift that exceeds the cost of the food and drink, carefully inviting only generous people is a lot worse.


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