Feel like iv wasted my time

kulareggae

Hi guys i had kids very young, i dont regret them but i do regret the ten years i spent in a abusive relationship, I feel like am trapped things are okish now but always worried there going blow over again, I get quizzed where i go and feel like a child, I want to leave and start a life for myself but am i being selfish?

ivytwine

Without knowing more....

No you wouldn't be selfish at all. If your kids are witness to any abuse, let alone suffering themselves, you have a duty to them to get out.

freshpopcorn

You need to explain more about your situation so people can offer you advice. How is your partner abusing you/your children?
If ye are being abused and you leave the relationship then your not selfish!

kulareggae

ok well he has hit me, he is very controlling, who i am with, what im doing etc. I changed to his religion and women are not allowed have male friends, Id love to meet new women but I seem to mix better with men, Im in council house, It will be 6 months before I get Rent Allowance, Im actually divorced from him but because of the kids, I took him back, I regret now, everything is control, even in the bedroom, He havnt forced himself on me in a few months but I dont know what to do to escape with two kids

Merkin

How has he forced himself on you OP? Has he raped you? What age are your children? You need to contact Womens Aid urgently.The help is out there hon but you have to take the first step in finding it and your situation is not going to improve, it will only get worse.

Merkin

Here's the link for it OP

http://www.womensaid.ie/

December2012

Hi,

You should talk to Women's Aid. They will confidentially help you at your own pace in whatever way you want.

Phone them today to start.

You need to get your children away from him and you need to get out of there safely.

kulareggae

merkin yes he have forced himself on me in the past, im going give womens aid see what my options are thanks hun, i want to run away from him then take kids with me, it would be easier that way

Merkin

I'm so sorry to hear that You have to get away from this man. Contact Women's Aid immediately and tell them everything - they will be best placed to advise you on next steps with regards to your safety/rights and everything else.

kulareggae

am trying to date to open up to have the opportunity to pack and go but il keep trying womens aid thanks guys x

Merkin

Don't put yourself or your children in danger. Talk to the people in W/A first as they will be able to advise you on the best way to go about leaving safely.