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Long Distance Relationship woes

  • 05-12-2013 11:21pm
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭


    hey guys, have been in a LDR for nigh on a year now and for the past while have started to find the situation depressing and feel a bit lonely, despite the fact that I would have good friends, job, active social life etc. Can anyone relate to this or is it understandable?


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  • #2
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    Hi there,

    I'm in pretty much the same situation as you, and for just over a year also so I know exactly how you feel. I don't have any words of wisdom really except to say, just look forward to the next time you see each other and make sure you take the time to talk and listen to each other when you're apart.


  • #3
    CaraMay
    Banned (with Prison Access) Posts: 4,652 ✭✭✭CaraMay


    When is the LD due to finish? Have yourself plans for one to move closer to the other?


  • #4
    s.a.man
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 242 ✭✭s.a.man


    I just got out of a LDR and honestly, the longer you are in it the harder it gets, best to end it now especially if you guys dont have plans to see each other again in the future.


  • #5
    whippet
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 7,718 ✭✭✭whippet


    spent the guts of three years in a LDR .. me in dublin herself in london - it wasn't easy, wasn't cheap and without Ryanair it wouldn't have been possible. Booked 10 flights at a time way in advance, towards the end we were flying on alternate weekends. When the other half had made the effort to fly over we felt the need to arrange something special, nice dinner .. etc ...

    Eventually push came to shove and it was a case of me move to london or her to dublin .. fortunately she ended up getting offered a great job in dublin and the rest is history .. including a couple of kids.


  • #6
    brandom
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 40 ✭brandom


    Currently 2 years plus into a LDR but unlike the poster above Ryanair can't help us out, I am here and he is in Canada so its definitely a tough and expensive undertaking but at the same time I have no regrets. Yes of course its tough at times and there are definitely times when you can feel very alone, but as CaraMay mentioned, having some idea of the end point definitely helps. Making sure that you make time for each other and are there for each other in any way that you can be is so important and we find that setting aside an evening every week for skyping etc is vital, if we can get more time all the better but with time differences and work schedules that can be hard so having at least one guaranteed night to touch base helps with the loneliness. I guess at the end of the day only you can decide if what you are going through now is worth what you will have in the future, but there really does need to be some sort of plan to bring your futures together


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