How long between your first date and your wedding vows?

emmabrighton

Since we are poking into other peoples business today...

How much time did you wait between your first date and your wedding vows? And, if you have reached that stage yet, between your wedding vows and getting divorced/separated?

I have been going out with my baby daddy for 11 years now… I am pretty sure there must be people who have met their wife/husband, dated, got married and gotten divorced in that time… and probably dated and married again, if I am honest...

sorry, don't know how to do that poll

jasonb

First date in Nov. 2002 and got married in Sep. 2008, so just less than 6 years...

J.

D1stant

emmabrighton wrote: »

Since we are poking into other peoples business today...

How much time did you wait between your first date and your wedding vows? And, if you have reached that stage yet, between your wedding vows and getting divorced/separated?

I have been going out with my baby daddy for 11 years now… I am pretty sure there must be people who have met their wife/husband, dated, got married and gotten divorced in that time… and probably dated and married again, if I am honest...

Your WHAT?

whiskeyman

emmabrighton wrote: »

I have been going out with my baby daddy for 11 years now

Dafuq?

Geuze

3 yrs from first date to wedding.

Dolbert

Eight and a half years

emmabrighton

D1stant wrote: »

Your WHAT?

Wait... is that not what the kids are calling it these days???

SCOOP 64

6 years form first date to wedding, don't rush into things.

krudler

emmabrighton wrote: »

Wait... is that not what the kids are calling it these days???

If you're on a daytime US chat show where the baby daddy is delighted he's not actually the baby daddy after the test yeah.

martinedwards

never heard of such a thing!

4 yrs 3 months, but we had been pals for about 8 years before we started dating

silly

Aug 06 to Sept 11 - So, 5 yrs.

zl1whqvjs75cdy

Going out with herself 6 years this year. Marriage is a long long way off. HAven't even thought about it.

SEPT 23 1989

engaged 14 years:D

About three and a half years.

Fratton Fred

First time, thirty.months first date to wedding vows, which she forgot five years later. The divorce took two years. So it was just over nine years between first date.and decree absolute.

Second time, six years and one baby between first date and wedding. Married for seven years now. Second time around I married my best friend.

drunkmonkey

donkeyoaty0099 wrote: »

Going out with herself 6 years this year. Marriage is a long long way off. HAven't even thought about it.

You mightn't have but she already knows what her dress is like and what color flowers are on the wedding tables.

weisses

8 Years ....and only for tax reasons

xXxkorixXx

3 years from first date to the time he made an honest woman out of me

sunflower27

drunkmonkey wrote: »

You mightn't have but she already knows what her dress is like and what color flowers are on the wedding tables.

You know, not all women are obsessed with getting married and what the dress/flowers will be like. It is a myth that all women want to marry their partners.

Dravokivich

#N/A

Borboletinha

I've been married twice. Both times I was dating a little over a year. I like being married although I do understand why some people wouldn't. I also second only marrying your best friend!

emmabrighton

sunflower27 wrote: »

You know, not all women are obsessed with getting married and what the dress/flowers will be like. It is a myth that all women want to marry their partners.

True, I am financially better off the way things are... wait, that makes me sound like a skanger... It wasn't meant to sound like that... lol

jcrowbar

First met - August 17th 2012

Wedding - August 17th 2013

anncoates

About four years between first meeting and marriage.

Married nearly 7 years.

I was at a wedding last week where the bride and groom first met a little over two years ago. It was disgusting how in love there were :pac:

Hoop66

Dec '99 to May '03.

So that's errrm.....3-and-a-half years. 6 months of that was long-distance relationship with the memsahb in Dublin and me in London. I really enjoyed popping over here every other weekend.

Now I'm bleedin' stuck here!






I should point out, in case herself reads this, that we are ten years happily married!

Atletico56

9 years, didn't even bother having sex our wedding night.

OnTheCouch

I suspect this is going to strongly depend on the age the people in the couple were when they got together, or more specifically the woman, if she intends going down the traditional courting, wedding, children timeline.

If two teenagers get together at 16, if they make it work, they may not feel the need to get married until ten years later, or perhaps even longer.

However, should the two get together at 30, (not to mention 35) then it's a whole different ball game and you often see shotgun weddings from 1-3 years after they first start dating.

I would imagine for most people it's around 5-6 years however, especially if they meet in the 25-30 bracket, when they have time to get to know each other without having any biological urges to settle down and start a family the day after.

Of course, bear in mind, these estimates are based on the assumption that the couple is of similar age. With age gaps, there are totally different factors that have to be taken into consideration.

caustic 1

first date 19 June 1987
married 03 Oct 1992
Still married.

Popinjay

October 07 to November 14

krudler

jcrowbar wrote: »

First met - August 17th 2012

Wedding - August 17th 2013

Jesus, there's a half eaten bag of pasta in my press I've known longer.

duchalla

May 03 to June 09. Still happily married. reminds me of the time I bumped into a fella I went to school with. Hadnt seen him in the 10 years since we left school. He wouldnt say boo to a cat in school, but now you just coudnt shut him up. He told me (in an american accent) that after school he emirgrated to the States, had been married and divorced twice in that space of time, but life was good man!

Westernyelp

5 years from first date to the wedding day, id say the pressure would have come on if i left it a lot longer than that!

Menas

silly wrote: »

Aug 06 to Sept 11 - So, 5 yrs.

That is 1 month 5 days by my reckoning!

Mint Aero

Atletico56 wrote: »

9 years, didn't even bother having sex our wedding night.

ah jaysis :L

eviltwin

Started going out in March 1996, got married in Oct 2008 so 12 and a half years

anncoates

Atletico56 wrote: »

9 years, didn't even bother having sex our wedding night.

Exactly.

It's not like we'd never done it for the previous 11 years and there was a late bar downstairs with people trying to buy us shots.

qo2cj1dsne8y4k

A girl I know met her now husband on the Internet.

They had their first date on a Thursday and that evening they were in a relationship posting pics of them playing tonsil tennis.

That weekend they were telling each other (and the world) they loved each other via Facebook.

2 weeks later she's moved to Dublin and moved in with him and his housemate. Shortly after his housemate moved out.

4 months (almost to the day) later, they're engaged. 21 months later, they're married.

Now she hates his son, banned the child from the wedding as it was a child free day (despite her cousin bringing her kids), the child's mother put her foot down and said the kid was not missing his dads wedding so she had to relent and let the kid go to the church part of the ceremony. And she feels the need to lie about how long they're together so, I don't hold out much hope.

She also had the bar out of her arm without telling him as he told her he didn't want kids straight away. I don't talk to her anymore but wouldn't be surprised if she was sprogged by now

jcrowbar

krudler wrote: »

Jesus, there's a half eaten bag of pasta in my press I've known longer.

Well it works for us. No point pissing around :pac:

jasonb

LexieOnRale wrote: »

She also had the bar out of her arm

Is that another thing that kids say these days???

J.

Maximus Alexander

I'll be with herself 4 years in February and we knew each other about 4 years before that. Not even considering marriage at the moment.

preston johnny

Atletico56 wrote: »

9 years, didn't even bother having sex our wedding night.

After fifteen years of marriage, sex with my wife is still the same as it was on our wedding night.

Nonexistent.

Cee-Jay-Cee

1st date November 2006. Married June 2008...still going strong.

Dolbert

emmabrighton wrote: »

Wait... is that not what the kids are calling it these days???

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vt2i0ts-uck

Carpenter

Not fu***ng long enough

5starpool

Hoop66 wrote: »

Dec '99 to May '03.

So that's errrm.....3-and-a-half years. 6 months of that was long-distance relationship with the memsahb in Dublin and me in London. I really enjoyed popping over here every other weekend.

Now I'm bleedin' stuck here!






I should point out, in case herself reads this, that we are ten years happily married!

Baby Daddy I get, but what the hell is a memsahb meant to mean?

LexieOnRale

LexieOnRale wrote: »

Now she hates his son, banned the child from the wedding as it was a child free day (despite her cousin bringing her kids), the child's mother put her foot down and said the kid was not missing his dads wedding so she had to relent and let the kid go to the church part of the ceremony. And she feels the need to lie about how long they're together so, I don't hold out much hope.

She also had the bar out of her arm without telling him as he told her he didn't want kids straight away. I don't talk to her anymore but wouldn't be surprised if she was sprogged by now

She bans his kid from his wedding then gets the implant out without telling him?

She sounds like a right cow.

Birneybau

Candie wrote: »

She bans his kid from his wedding then gets the implant out without telling him?

She sounds like a right cow.

My thoughts exactly, wouldn't be marrying some sh!thead that hated my kid enough to try to ban them from the wedding.

5starpool

5starpool wrote: »

Baby Daddy I get, but what the hell is a memsahb meant to mean?

I think he meant memsahib. It's in Indian word for a foreign white woman.

Birneybau

Birneybau wrote: »

My thoughts exactly, wouldn't be marrying some sh!thead that hated my kid enough to try to ban them from the wedding.

And to make him a dad again without his consent. She'll probably try freeze out the first kid altogether if she succeeds. Cow.

Czarcasm

OnTheCouch wrote: »

I suspect this is going to strongly depend on the age the people in the couple were when they got together, or more specifically the woman, if she intends going down the traditional courting, wedding, children timeline.

If two teenagers get together at 16, if they make it work, they may not feel the need to get married until ten years later, or perhaps even longer.

However, should the two get together at 30, (not to mention 35) then it's a whole different ball game and you often see shotgun weddings from 1-3 years after they first start dating.

I would imagine for most people it's around 5-6 years however, especially if they meet in the 25-30 bracket, when they have time to get to know each other without having any biological urges to settle down and start a family the day after.

Of course, bear in mind, these estimates are based on the assumption that the couple is of similar age. With age gaps, there are totally different factors that have to be taken into consideration.

What nonsense is this? Your scenarios aren't "estimates", they're just generalisations and stereotypes based on your own assumptions.


Met in October '97 when she moved in as my housemate, went out for drinks for our birthdays a month later... woke up in the same bed the next morning :pac:

Married 7 years later in April '04 when I got sick of people referring to my then girlfriend as my "partner".