Sound advice badly needed.

keithsfleet

I'm at a point in my life that has me feeling like poop.

Recently was dumped by a lady that I cherished and unfortunately nothing can change that but the other driving factor in my depression is my job.
I'm a manager of a staff of 4 in a very quiet small retail unit in a small shopping centre.
I gave up looking for a job about a year ago as myself and her were going to move to Canada this January.

I earn a modest wage in my current job and have no idea what I want to do or what I should do.
I dropped out of school when I was 15 and started an apprenticship as a motor mechanic but dropped out when I went through a bad patch in my life so only got a far as my 3rd year.

I've done menial jobs like security, call centres, , petrol station work etc etc.
I've always survived financially by buying and selling cars or doing little nixers like servicing.
I would need to go finish my apprenticeship to go any further down that avenue though and I'm not in a position to that at the moment.

I've recently completely a fetac level 3 in welding and was intending to do it to a fetac level 6 when the further courses came up but I've realised welding is not something I'd like to do.

I genuinely think I'd be happier off on the dole than this demoralising joke of a job but i'm not going that avenue.
I've no idea what I'm expecting the folks of boards.ie to say but any advice is hugely appreciated. Or if other people that have been in this position what did you do.

Keith.

LOTD

Could you still not move to Canada, or were you only interested going with your ex.

keithsfleet

I don't think I'd be able to after all the planning and talking about it with the ex. I saw Canada as ours and started seeing it as somewhere we would eventually call our home.

LOTD

Ah I get you, could you go travelling for like a month around the States or anywhere you like, maybe it could clear your head. Just a suggestion.

draiochtanois

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IrishIrish

keithsfleet wrote: »

I don't think I'd be able to after all the planning and talking about it with the ex. I saw Canada as ours and started seeing it as somewhere we would eventually call our home.

If your going to let it hold you back then nothing is going to change. You have the option to go to Canada and start fresh but your choosing not to.

'If you do what you always did, you'll get what you always got'.

keithsfleet

Taking any time more than a week off in my current job is an absolute no no but I do intend to travel and see some sights if I do have to leave Ireland.
Is Canada and Australia my only option, would I find work with no skills in Saudi or UAE?

I honestly have no idea what my dream job would be, I've thought about it all day and I can't come up with a single idea. My only hobbies the last few months have been jogging and drinking (not together)

MouseTail

keithsfleet wrote: »

Taking any time more than a week off in my current job is an absolute no no but I do intend to travel and see some sights if I do have to leave Ireland.
Is Canada and Australia my only option, would I find work with no skills in Saudi or UAE?

I honestly have no idea what my dream job would be, I've thought about it all day and I can't come up with a single idea. My only hobbies the last few months have been jogging and drinking (not together)

The most obvious thing to do is to finish your apprenticeship. Why are you ruling this out? with an investment of a year you will have a trade you can travel with. Its going to be very difficult to travel anywhere without a leaving cert or trade.

keithsfleet

Yes that's what I was thinking with the welding, I might go back and finish it as a fall back option as it's only another 2 part time courses.

I dropped out of my apprenticeship at the beginning of the third year so it's not just the one year. The massive reduction in wages would be one of the main factors but there is also the issue of finding someone willing to take on an apprentice, I've not looked but I've heard from people that there isn't that many taking them on.

LOTD

My thinking is, you were all set for Canada and the your relationship ended. What has stopped Canada being this new life, yes in your earlier post you saw yourself and ex making a life there. Your not happy with your job, are you happy in Ireland.

You seem to be questioning your skillset, wouldn't it have been the same if you had left with your ex.

keithsfleet

I guess I see Canada, at the minute, as i see many places and songs and that's as bad memories or roots to bad memories.
I would of been quite happy going out to Canada with the ex as she was trained in an area that she would easily find work, I was happy to go out and try my hand at whatever I could get and try find a path to a career.

I'm not so much questioning my skillset as questioning possibilities for someone unskilled anywhere in the world.
I'm a quick learner and eager to learn but I've no idea what to learn.

I'm hoping someone has been in similar position, found a path and willing to share their story as to how they found it.
I'm not happy in life and at 29 most of my friends are considering mortgages and pensions, and starting families all while I'm still p!ss!ng around in a job I started as a stop-gap when I was 22 and never intended to stay in any more than a year.

griffdaddy

Get some cash together and go a working holiday visa to Australia or Canada. Travel around and do bits and pieces of welding or whatever work here and there. See where you are this time next year. The very least you'll have had is a great experience

Coles

You're only 29! Lucky you. And you're not tied down to debt? Even luckier! It's very easy to focus on the disappointments in life but there really is no point. Just look forward.

I reckon you need to challenge yourself, either in education or travel. Both experiences will stand to you for the rest of your life.

Best of luck with it. You'll read over this thread in a few years time and you'll laugh at it.

taytobreath

You should go to college. best experience you will ever have, new friends new life and new ideas, start off with a foundation course first to get you started in the first year with maths, every college has them, then onto a degree course, it takes years but its a wonderful achievement.

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