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How to take the next step towards friends?

  • 14-10-2013 6:16pm
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭


    Hi all, just looking for some advice in relation to making friends.

    I don't have many friends that have the same interests as me so I've been making an effort lately to seek out some.
    I work with 3 women but they are all older than me by at least 10 years and they all have kids so I've been trying to figure out if any of the 3 of them would have any similar interests to me. 2 of them live a bit of a distance away from me and our nearest town and 1 of them lives close enough to me and our nearest town.

    I have a lot of similar interests with the 1 who lives near me and although she does have a child she has a bit more freedom than the other 2 when it comes to her social life.

    I just don't know how to take the next step to suggesting a drink or dinner or something like that? I know I should just ask her and get it over with but I'm afraid she'll say no and I'll be mortified.
    Does anybody have any advice?


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  • #2
    pharmaton
    Closed Accounts Posts: 2,192 ✭✭✭pharmaton


    It's coming up to Christmas why not see if they would be up for a staff night out? It would at least be a talking point and might get the ball rolling. It's easy to strike up conversation about clothes or make up or womany stuff (bless) I'm useless for shopping and find female friends or family usually very willing to give advice or assistance on where to go, it might be easier to meet up to go and check out a few stores or get some samples from perfume to hair products. I know it might sound very stereotypical but shopping is always a good starting place.
    Likewise if they are interested in an area you have some expertise in, like the arts or music or theatre, maybe you know a great gym if someone is hinting at getting fit for example so don't be afraid to offer suggestions for places to visit with yourself as a personal guide, you could always just add on a coffee or lunch at the end time permitting. Don't try and force it though, if you've got things in common just take it from there.


  • #3
    ruaille buaille
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 123 ✭✭ruaille buaille


    It can be hard to make new friends sometimes. Try to open up your chances and not just limit it to people that you work with. Try to join groups in your area, you could go to a fitness class, do a nightcourse or join a gym. Also meetup.com is a great way to make new friends. Good luck!


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