Texting his ex

Socorro

My boyfriend and I have been together for about 6 months. Since near the start of the relationship, I have noticed him texting a girl, most often when we are out drinking. I just see her name pop up on his phone, I've never seen what they're texting about. He's never mentioned this girl in passing to me, even though he's always telling me stories about what's going on with his friends. I've met most of his friends & family and I've never heard her name mentioned. So I've always thought it a bit strange but nothing to worry about, I have no reason not to trust him.

Then today he was tagged in some old facebook photos from about a year to 18 months ago and it turns out this girl is actually his ex-girlfriend. Well I'm 99% sure it's her because it's an unusual enough name and it would just be too much of a coincidence not to be the same girl he's texting now.

I don't think he's cheating on me but I'm not comfortable with this. He can be friends with his ex but I don't want him to hide it from me. I think I should ask him who the girl is he's texting, what do others think?

Thanks.

Czarcasm

Socorro wrote: »

I think I should ask him who the girl is he's texting, what do others think?

I think you should've asked him months ago tbh, and you don't have to be confrontational about it, but when you're out for drinks or whatever, your boyfriend spending your time texting someone else is just plain rude, doesn't matter who he's texting.

If he does open up to you about her, that might be your opportunity then to suggest to him it's time to move on and concentrate his energies on your relationship and let go of the past.

JenEffy

I definitely wouldn't be happy with that. It sounds like he's not over her. If they were just friends he'd have mentioned her. Tell him you say the pictures he was tagged in and ask him about her.