High School Sweetheart.

DEFTLEFTHAND

I talked to a couple last night (late 30s) who met by chance again recently, The first love is the deepest..:):):pac:

Has anyone here stayed with the same man or woman through school to present day, or met up with them again at a latter date? Life is like a storybook at times. :pac:

omahaid

I have, now 3 kids + married. Met when we were in 4th year, now in mid 30s

Muise...

I re-fancied someone once.

I was home for Christmas and a man crossing the road caught my eye. I was halfway through the thought 'oh, he's handsome' when I remembered -



we'd spent an entire youth disco kissing on a couch at the back of the hall, till the lights came on and then we trailed off and never really spoke again. Best kisses ever. He turned out really well and all. I had a good glad eye at 15.

Potential-Monke

My secondary school sweetheart (as i'm not in America) is currently married with 2 kids, so i don't think that relationship will be rekindled!

sureitsgrand

I had two 'high school sweethearts'....






They're both lesbians now

Femme_Fatale

Not me, but a woman I know was with her partner from mid 20s to late 30s and he left her for another woman. He never wanted kids with her either, but became a dad with the woman he left her for. She wasn't from the area that she moved to, to be with him, so she didn't really know many others, making it an extremely lonely, painful time for her.

Then, on top of all that, she got made redundant at work. So she decided to go travelling with the money. On one of her excursions she got chatting to a man by chance at the airport, who turned out to be a guy she was going out with when she was 16! They are now married.

canadianwoman

My dad married his very first girlfriend when he was in his early 70s. They found each other again through Facebook.

Currently, I am searching for a fellow I knew in highschool. I recently found out from another highschool friend that Donald had a crush on me in school. I ran into him a few years after that but never knew about the crush. If I had of known I would have given him my phone number because he had certainly changed in the looks department for the better.

Gee Bag

Potential-Monke wrote: »

My secondary school sweetheart (as i'm not in America) is currently married with 2 kids, so i don't think that relationship will be rekindled!

She's just playing hard to get.

C.K Dexter Haven

High School? As in Rathgar? No, never went there.

returnNull

No but I was mad about a girl when in secondary.Nothing ever happened,suppose 2 of was were too shy.The day the leaving cert finished I was walking where she use to get the bus,she gave me a french kiss before she got on the bus.That was 21 years ago.Never met or heard of her since.

Even tried checking up and seeing if i could find her on linkedin and facebook out of curiousity.

Ciara where are you!!!

Duggy747

Any of the women I was with in secondary school all wound up to be mothers with lots of kids.

My GF sent me a message on Facebook book 3 years ago, we hadn't seen each other since college in 2004. Chatted on it and decided to meet up for a drink to catch up on old times.

Now we live together and have a load of animals. :pac:

D1stant

C.K Dexter Haven wrote: »

High School? As in Rathgar? No, never went there.

I lost the details of my High School Sweetheart. I must have left them in the glove compartment during the drive-in movie or else at the Mall just outside Michelstown.

Gee Bag

D1stant wrote: »

I lost the details of my High School Sweetheart. I must have left them in the glove compartment during the drive-in movie or else at the Mall just outside Michelstown.

Did you check behind the drapes in your condominium or on the side walk beside the mail box?

Agricola

No. If you want to know what I was like during secondary school, think of Dougal meeting that feminist rock singer.

stefan idiot jones

Gee Bag wrote: »

Did you check behind the drapes in your condominium or on the side walk beside the mail box?

He should have got her cell phone number when she was signing his yearbook at the end of last semester.

Fr_Dougal

canadianwoman wrote: »

Currently, I am searching for a fellow I knew in highschool. I recently found out from another highschool friend that Donald had a crush on me in school. I ran into him a few years after that but never knew about the crush. If I had of known I would have given him my phone number because he had certainly changed in the looks department for the better.

Sounds like true love alright...

C.K Dexter Haven

stefan idiot jones wrote: »

He should have got her cell phone number when she was signing his yearbook at the end of last semester.

Did he end up asking her to the prom?

Chucken

returnNull wrote: »

Ciara where are you!!!

She's working in a Maxol station in Kildare

Doc Ruby

I know two couples that did this, both now trapped in loveless marriages with several children depending on them, each day more miserable than the last, filled with regret for all the experiences they missed out on.

Tornaxx

C.K Dexter Haven wrote: »

Did he end up asking her to the prom?

Yes. America. Too much. A bunch of much.

alphabeat

Doc Ruby wrote: »

I know two couples that did this, both now trapped in loveless marriages with several children depending on them, each day more miserable than the last, filled with regret for all the experiences they missed out on.

Jeez , hello Buzz

dirtyden

Femme_Fatale wrote: »

Not me, but a woman I know was with her partner from mid 20s to late 30s and he left her for another woman. He never wanted kids with her either, but became a dad with the woman he left her for. She wasn't from the area that she moved to, to be with him, so she didn't really know many others, making it an extremely lonely, painful time for her.

Then, on top of all that, she got made redundant at work. So she decided to go travelling with the money. On one of her excursions she got chatting to a man by chance at the airport, who turned out to be a guy she was going out with when she was 16! They are now married.

Sounds like could be the plot of a movie starring Jennifer Aniston and Matthew McConaughey, and maybe Matt Damon as the scumbag ex-husband.

KKkitty

A lad I was in primary and secondary school with got his first girlfriend when he was 13/14 and 18 or 19 years later they're married with 4 kids. Had one kiss with someone when I was 17 and hadn't seen him for around 10 years and now we're together 5 years and many more hopefull.

MonkstownHoop

Doc Ruby wrote: »

I know two couples that did this, both now trapped in loveless marriages with several children depending on them, each day more miserable than the last, filled with regret for all the experiences they missed out on.

your'e one of them aren't you?

Doc Ruby

MonkstownHoop wrote: »

your'e one of them aren't you?

No, in fact I am not. It sounds true though doesn't it? Because it is. We all know people like this, and with the divorce rate climbing every year more and more miserable unions are coming to light.

Bottom line is this, lads and ladies, we aren't made to be monogamous. There's this whole massive industry built around marriage and lately divorce, hammering at you from every side. Pressure from friends, pressure from families, pressure from partners who have bought into it, the church telling you your children will be bastards, the government telling you you'll save a few euros on taxes. Marry your childhood sweetheart, isn't that romantic, it's the American Way. Soap operas, comedies, movies, magazines, newspapers, settle down, get married, it's the natural thing to do!

But it isn't. The entire edifice looks exactly like the spiel during the property bubble because it's the same sort of oul tat being peddled. Now I know a lot of people are married, and some of them may even be happy - good for you. But it's not the natural order of things, nor is it desireable.

If two people really care about one another they don't need a legal contract to prove it. They'll just stay together. If you don't have certain rights without being legally bound to a life partner, that's a problem with the law not an expression of human nature.

The flipside of saying that "it helps people stay together when times are tough" is that it keeps people together when they really shouldn't stay together, and gives license to abusive and manipulative individuals to pull stunts that would have gotten them dumped instantly if there was not this massive pressure and a legally binding contract.

I've seen way too much pain and not nearly enough happiness come from that most peculiar institution to support the idea of marriage. If you aren't married, don't do it.

yellowcrayon

I had my first kiss with a fella when I was 13 and in 1st year, he was a few years older but he didnt want to be my boyfriend because he said he didnt like me that much at the time

We both moved to different schools and then when I finished school when I was 17 I looked him up on Facebook. He was in college, not that far from where I ended up moving to.

So he seemed to like me this time around (must have improved in the looks department ) and we've been together ever since

Toots

I met my husband when I was 17, in 5th year of secondary school. (He was 19), we're still together ten years later, married with one child

markomuscle

No, us high school geeks on boards.ie didn't have high school sweethearts, i was attracted more to my teachers anyway

anncoates

Met my school sweetheart when she was 15.

Lost touch with her when the school sacked me though.

stefan idiot jones

anncoates wrote: »

Met my school sweetheart when HE was still 9.

Lost touch with HIM when the school sacked me though.

FYP.

tosspot15

Never been in a relationship, never felt any particular attraction or "love" for another person, not even in secondary school.

I think my year had about 7 girls in it, and 40 boys.

returnNull

yellowcrayon wrote: »

We both moved to different schools and then when I finished school when I was 17 I looked him up on Facebook. He was in college, not that far from where I ended up moving to...... we've been together ever since

please dont tell me you're 17 and a half:pac::pac::pac::pac::pac::pac:

rannerap

I never went out with anyone while I was in school

RhubarbCrumble

When I was in sixth year a guy in the same class started going out with a girl in second year. He was 18, she was 14 and it was 'a scandal in the parish' when word got round that they'd gone to some concert in Dublin and STAYED OVERNIGHT!!! Fast forward to present day and they've been married for about ten years now and have three kids.
I have no idea whether they're happy or not, but I have wondered if she ever feels as though she missed out on a lot in life. He'd been out with other girls before he met her, but he was her first boyfriend and she was only about 21 when they got married.

johnayo

All boys were at my school .Didn't have the inclination to go out with any of them.:rolleyes:

kowloon

Going to a wedding later in the month, pair of them have been together since school. Worked with someone who was married to her boyfriend from school.

johnayo wrote: »

All boys were at my school .Didn't have the inclination to go out with any of them.:rolleyes:

What happens at Eton stays at Eton.

uch

Met me Mot when I was 21, married when I was 30, 2 kids, 9 grand kids and 1 greatgrand kid, and I'm still only 34

princess-lala

uch wrote: »

Met me Mot when I was 21, married when I was 30, 2 kids, 9 grand kids and 1 greatgrand kid, and I'm still only 34

Um.......how does that work ??

Gee Bag

princess-lala wrote: »

Um.......how does that work ??

Viagra. Lots of viagra.

princess-lala

He met her at 21
Married at 30
2 kids
9 grandkids
1 great grandchild
and hes 34

pharmaton

never had one

astonaidan

Muise... wrote: »

I re-fancied someone once.

I was home for Christmas and a man crossing the road caught my eye. I was halfway through the thought 'oh, he's handsome' when I remembered -



we'd spent an entire youth disco kissing on a couch at the back of the hall, till the lights came on and then we trailed off and never really spoke again. Best kisses ever. He turned out really well and all. I had a good glad eye at 15.

Sooooo is this one of those times where you hooked up with the minger/loser cause you saw potential for him in the future?

Cause Ive never done that with any girl ever!!!!

astonaidan

sureitsgrand wrote: »

I had two 'high school sweethearts'....






They're both lesbians now

If its with each other you should be proud, they couldnt find someone who understood them aswell as you so they got the next best thing.
If not, sorry dude

canadianwoman

Gee Bag wrote: »

Viagra. Lots of viagra.

You only need one.....pill that is.

Muise...

astonaidan wrote: »

Sooooo is this one of those times where you hooked up with the minger/loser cause you saw potential for him in the future?

Cause Ive never done that with any girl ever!!!!

No.

I liked him a lot there and then. I sat beside him in a few classes at school. Then I sat beside him on that couch at the back of the hall. He said something to me. I didn't catch it, so turned around to say 'what?' and BOOM!

astonaidan

Muise... wrote: »

No.

I liked him a lot there and then. I sat beside him in a few classes at school. Then I sat beside him on that couch at the back of the hall. He said something to me. I didn't catch it, so turned around to say 'what?' and BOOM!

Threw the head at you, Oh the charmer!
Best move ever!

Muise...

astonaidan wrote: »

Threw the head at you, Oh the charmer!
Best move ever!

I have always preferred a straightforward man.

confuseddotcom

Nope. Life's a biatch and then you die. Not one person in school (well actually I digress, one girl has ended up with a guy that would be quite like the guys she would have been with then, but that's about it,) ended up with any of the guys they were with back then. They all ended up with completely different types of guys too, the complete total opposite type of guy now than most of them would have picked back then. They all changed in person completely too from quiet and timid to becoming wild and rebellious - although I guess that's part of the territory, but shure they've all had to go now and do a total reverse turn-about again now like at this phase. :rolleyes: But yet they ended up with totally different opposite partners than what it was thought the type they went for in the first place. What life does to people and how they change. It looks so fake like typically as false as it can get! That's just from the outside looking in though! But the mind boggles sometimes! :rolleyes:

uch

Man that's a big paragraph

TerrorFirmer

I was crazy about a girl when I was in secondary school, but I never thought for a second that I was remotely worthy of her, despite signs to the contrary, and nothing happened.

Years later, we rekindled it through absolute chance, and ended up going out for years, which was the just about the happiest I've ever been.

But I ended up making an absolute balls of it single handedly, which I regret to this day.

So not all these stories end up as they should, even with the '2nd chance' angle.

That's life for you.

confuseddotcom

uch wrote: »

Man that's a big paragraph

Man.