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how often should you contact someone between dates

  • 29-09-2013 09:19PM
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    Banned (with Prison Access) Posts: 8


    women are terrific yet complex , early stages of dating need to be managed correctly

    I had a date with a girl I like yesterday and it went well , were keen to see each other again and I plan to bring her to the cinema this time , wondering how often I should text her in between the first and second date however , is one day after the first date to soon to say a quick hi via text

    btw , I met this girl online so that's why I ask , different to conventional dating in that I only met her for the first time yesterday so were relative strangers to each other , different ettiquite to online dating I think


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  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 11,889 ✭✭✭✭For Forks Sake


    Every two minutes. At least.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 9,396 ✭✭✭Frosty McSnowballs


    If you followed her home, you should text her from her front garden.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 560 ✭✭✭markomuscle


    twice a week would do


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 3 Check_Yourself


    Text the day after, leave it open for an easy reply. Then you'll cop onto it by how often/if she replies to your messages, wont ya?


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 25,947 ✭✭✭✭Neyite


    If you followed her home, you should text her from her front garden.

    And tell her you like her pajamas.


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  • Closed Accounts Posts: 13,925 ✭✭✭✭anncoates


    How did the human race actually manage to propagate itself before the internet?


  • Banned (with Prison Access) Posts: 8 samuel_spuds


    Text the day after, leave it open for an easy reply. Then you'll cop onto it by how often/if she replies to your messages, wont ya?


    I text her an hour after I got home yesterday evening just to say I enjoyed our date , she replied in kind

    as such im wondering if the following day is too soon


  • Banned (with Prison Access) Posts: 5,368 ✭✭✭IvaBigWun


    Every two minutes. At least.

    Do this.

    Lots.

    Women love a needy guy


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 3,009 ✭✭✭Tangatagamadda Chaddabinga Bonga Bungo


    Every two minutes. At least.

    Or just stay with them until they have you 'removed' by 'authorities'.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 9,396 ✭✭✭Frosty McSnowballs


    Neyite wrote: »
    And tell her you like her pajamas.

    ....on the floor!


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  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,910 ✭✭✭OneArt


    anncoates wrote: »
    How did the human race actually manage to propagate itself before the internet?

    Some string, plum-juice, a gas-powered time machine and an android called Siegfried.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 3,068 ✭✭✭Specialun


    Defo at least 50 times a day.and if she doesnt reply ring her and leave vm's

    Women love being wanted


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 4,179 ✭✭✭hfallada


    When you text her and if she doesn't reply within 2 mins. Make sure you call her and if she doesn't answer facebook. Make sure she knows you LIKE her. Drive it him you like her. If she changes number and blocks you on facebook your doing the right job


  • Banned (with Prison Access) Posts: 8 samuel_spuds


    ok , looks like I teed thinks up nicely for the hysterically witty people at after hours

    thread can be closed anytime

    thanks


  • Banned (with Prison Access) Posts: 8 samuel_spuds


    ok , looks like I teed thinks up nicely for the hysterically witty people at after hours

    thread can be closed anytime

    thanks


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 25,947 ✭✭✭✭Neyite


    ....on the floor!

    And that she looks real purdy in your night vision goggles. Green really suits her.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 3,324 ✭✭✭BillyMitchel


    If it was last night I hope you text today and said you had a good night and want to do it again. See how she responds. No matter how good it feels you must resist hounding her. If she's a texter, don't reply straight away. Texting every 2 mins can become a right pain. Play it cool. It's a bad thing to start.

    Do text a small bit, just don't make a habit of it. Random cheeky funny texts will do. She won't care what your having for lunch or that someone is cleaning your windows.

    €100 please


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 937 ✭✭✭newbee22


    If she doesn't reply make sure you call her....to let her know that your phone isn't working because you don't seem to be getting her replies.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 228 ✭✭PingO_O


    ok , looks like I teed thinks up nicely for the hysterically witty people at after hours

    thread can be closed anytime

    thanks

    You'll get a few good replies once the witty people have gotten it out of their system :pac:


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 3,068 ✭✭✭Specialun


    ok , looks like I teed thinks up nicely for the hysterically witty people at after hours

    thread can be closed anytime

    thanks

    Thats not how you close threads mate


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  • Banned (with Prison Access) Posts: 8 samuel_spuds


    If it was last night I hope you text today and said you had a good night and want to do it again. See how she responds. No matter how good it feels you must resist hounding her. If she's a texter, don't reply straight away. Texting every 2 mins can become a right pain. Play it cool. It's a bad thing to start.

    Do text a small bit, just don't make a habit of it. Random cheeky funny texts will do. She won't care what your having for lunch or that someone is cleaning your windows.

    €100 please


    like I said earlier , I text her an hour after our date ended to let her know I enjoyed the date , hence why I didn't text her today , was thinking of texting her tomorrow evening to see how her work day went and then ringing her Wednesday to ask her to cinema on Friday

    as for texting every two mins , im not a secondary school female student


  • Banned (with Prison Access) Posts: 5,368 ✭✭✭IvaBigWun


    thread can be closed anytime

    thanks

    We're not finished yet ;)


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 11,889 ✭✭✭✭For Forks Sake


    ok , looks like I teed thinks up nicely for the hysterically witty people at after hours

    thread can be closed anytime

    thanks

    Oh no, you're not getting off that lightly.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 13,925 ✭✭✭✭anncoates


    ok , looks like I teed thinks up nicely for the hysterically witty people at after hours

    If ever a post could flounce off and slam its bedroom door, it's this one.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 11,255 ✭✭✭✭Esoteric_


    What's with all the games? I'll wait x amount of time, I'll text such a day and ring on such a day.

    Jesus, just send her a text if you want to chat! If she likes you, she'll reply when she's ready. You can gauge from how often/quickly she replies whether or not to ease off or continue as you are.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 228 ✭✭PingO_O


    like I said earlier , I text her an hour after our date ended to let her know I enjoyed the date , hence why I didn't text her today , was thinking of texting her tomorrow evening to see how her work day went and then ringing her Wednesday to ask her to cinema on Friday

    as for texting every two mins , im not a secondary school female student

    Leave the text and just call her on Wednesday, for no other reason than you seem to be mulling over it a bit.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 3,068 ✭✭✭Specialun


    Before you ask her to the cinema you should ask her when her next period is...tell her that your expecting the roide and you dont wanna find out the hard way

    Women love men that plan ahead


  • Banned (with Prison Access) Posts: 5,368 ✭✭✭IvaBigWun


    You should open her letter box and keep flicking your tongue in and out of it.

    She'll love that.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 228 ✭✭PingO_O


    Specialun wrote: »
    Before you ask her to the cinema you should ask her when her next period is...tell her that your expecting the roide and you dont wanna find out the hard way

    Women love men that plan ahead

    Ok now can we close the thread :(


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  • Closed Accounts Posts: 3,971 ✭✭✭Sh1tbag OToole


    It is hard to know. I will usually let texts fester for a few hours or a day but sometimes this will make the girl think im not interested.

    Tis a shame really that women can be so judgemental about something like this. They wil tell you to 'just be yourself' as usual but this is bad advice, they just dont want you to thwart their internal "creep detector" so definitely dont be yourself.

    I am tired of the messing tbh and try not to think about the optimum reply rate for success anymore, so just text back when i feel like it keeping in the back of my mind that too frequent is bad. If they think i take too short or too long they can go away and f*ck themselves (even if that means I'l have to do the same)


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