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Self-conscious boyfriend?

  • 28-09-2013 10:44pm
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭


    So I’ve been seeing this guy for a few months and besides being really sweet, intelligent and kind, I find him ridiculously incredibly hot.

    He is a bit overweight though and can be very sensitive/self-conscious about it, and even though I said several times I think he looks great/his body is awesome/he feels great etc, he still tries to hide his body from me during sex by avoiding certain positions or angles. I really love the extra weight on him, I think he looks great not in spite of it but because of it, if it makes any sense. Makes him look big and strong and sexy. But he really doesn’t seem to believe it…

    It’s ironic because the parts of his body he is most self-conscious about (belly/chest) I actually find incredibly utterly sexy and I so wish he would relax and allow me to see/enjoy more of his body!

    How can I approach this issue without making him feel awkward?


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  • #2
    Obliq
    Closed Accounts Posts: 3,371 ✭✭✭Obliq


    zzzzzzzzrrrrrrr wrote: »
    So I’ve been seeing this guy for a few months and besides being really sweet, intelligent and kind, I find him ridiculously incredibly hot.

    He is a bit overweight though and can be very sensitive/self-conscious about it, and even though I said several times I think he looks great/his body is awesome/he feels great etc, he still tries to hide his body from me during sex by avoiding certain positions or angles. I really love the extra weight on him, I think he looks great not in spite of it but because of it, if it makes any sense. Makes him look big and strong and sexy. But he really doesn’t seem to believe it…

    It’s ironic because the parts of his body he is most self-conscious about (belly/chest) I actually find incredibly utterly sexy and I so wish he would relax and allow me to see/enjoy more of his body!

    How can I approach this issue without making him feel awkward?

    How can you approach this issue without making him feel awkward? Just stick around and be with him. That will help, eh?


  • #3
    R.D. aka MR.D
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 2,643 ✭✭✭R.D. aka MR.D


    Don't try to force him. If he is self conscious about his body then he won't appreciate you trying to force him into showing you.

    You say that it has only been a few months so maybe after some more time together then he will become more comfortable with you.

    Just continue to compliment him and if he mentions anything about it then tell him that you find that part of his body sexy.

    If I were you, I wouldn't bring it up directly with him because it may come across as criticism of him and if he's self conscious already, it might make it worse.


  • #4
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    Thank you very much for your replies.

    It was great to hear different opinions, as I was about to confront him about it (in a nice way though). As in, "please don't hide your body from me, you are so so handsome as you are". But you are right, I guess it would make him more self-conscious about it, hummm?


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