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Relationship Counselling?

  • 25-09-2013 11:34am
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭


    Has anyone tried this and did it 'fix' your relationship?

    Myself and my boyfriend are going through a tough time, and he has suggested we try counselling. In my opinion, it's all the little things in our relationship that cause the arguments (housework mainly!!). I don't know if counselling can fix the smaller issues, can it? I would really love to hear from people who have been through it, and found that it resolved their issues enough to save the relationship.


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  • #2
    Selfheal
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 118 ✭✭Selfheal


    Yes, it is really worth it in my opinion. But make sure you find a counsellor that you are both equally happy with. And keep checking in with each other on this - it won't work if one partner feels that the counsellor is in any way siding with one person over the other. Also, you both have to be equally committed to the process and to undertaking whatever self-work/tasks the counsellor gives you to do between sessions.

    Another reason it is so worthwhile is that it is very easy to lose perspective in relationships, and so you keep focussing on the negative things that really get you down. A good counsellor will enable you to restore this sense of perspective to your relationship and it can be really useful for both of you just to air your grievances etc in a safe, neutral space in front of a totally objective onlooker.

    Finally, relationships can get very habituated over time and again, a good counsellor will help you put fun and enjoyment back into your relationship so that you start to associate good times and fun with your partner again (eg making the effort to go on dates etc).

    I would say totally, if you and your partner are committed to the relationship - it's definitely worth it.


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