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Do you want kids and/or marriage?

  • 24-09-2013 02:02AM
    #1
    Closed Accounts Posts: 2,574 ✭✭✭


    What age are you, and are you hoping for kids and/or marriage in the future?

    I'm unsure, myself. I've always wanted kids. But then I think about actually having the responsibility of kids, and I rethink things. :pac:

    Marriage, not sure.

    You?

    Edit: I meant to add a "not sure" option, and now I can't edit the poll. Sorry!

    Do you want kids/marriage? 154 votes

    I want kids and marriage.
    0% 0 votes
    I want marriage, but no kids.
    69% 107 votes
    I want kids, but no marriage.
    16% 26 votes
    I don't want kids and I don't want to get married.
    13% 21 votes


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Comments

  • Closed Accounts Posts: 18,299 ✭✭✭✭The Backwards Man


    I'm not entirely sure if I want toast or Weetabix for my breakfast in the morning.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 941 ✭✭✭Ciderswigger


    27, no and nope.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 915 ✭✭✭hansfrei


    Yes.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 5,825 ✭✭✭Timmyctc


    I struggled for 20 mins just now over whether or not I should set my alarm for 8.56 or 8.59. And you come here asking me what I want to do with kids and shít. What is the world coming to.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 2,753 ✭✭✭Vito Corleone


    I don't want kids and I don't really see the point in getting married. But I'm young and change my mind a lot.


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  • Banned (with Prison Access) Posts: 772 ✭✭✭Caonima


    Didn't want either, but in the last year ended up with both. Life is strange like that.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 18,299 ✭✭✭✭The Backwards Man


    Timmyctc wrote: »
    I struggled for 20 mins just now over whether or not I should set my alarm for 8.56 or 8.59. And you come here asking me what I want to do with kids and shít. What is the world coming to.
    Me and you should get married and try for kids.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 5,790 ✭✭✭confuseddotcom


    1) Deffo but am getting old now don't want to be too old having kids so may end up not having any. :( 2) Sometimes hope I will be, other times lately I think getting married doesn't amount to a whole lot.


  • Moderators, Society & Culture Moderators Posts: 12,563 Mod ✭✭✭✭Amirani


    Definite yes on children. Most likely no on marriage.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,381 ✭✭✭nbar12


    marriage is a waste of money, so are children but you could train your children to be your slaves which would be great


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  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 534 ✭✭✭Ericaa


    I'm 22, I've already created spawn and I don't know what to think of marriage.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 18,299 ✭✭✭✭The Backwards Man


    Ericaa wrote: »
    I'm 22, I've already created spawn and I don't know what to think of marriage.

    It's the union between two people.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 560 ✭✭✭markomuscle


    21. The third option, I would want to be in a relationship with the mother but not necessarily married to them.


  • Banned (with Prison Access) Posts: 5,172 ✭✭✭Ghost Buster


    Not at the moment. Im up since 6am with one of the feckers.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 5,987 ✭✭✭Legs.Eleven


    I'm definitely decided on kids (I want them) having spent the weekend with my niece and nephew. Kids are da bomb. Marriage - I have no interest but if I have to for the sake of the kids I will but I'd like to live in a country where it's not necessary.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 896 ✭✭✭Fuzzytrooper


    Got married just over 1.5 years ago. No kids yet but we do have a cat which my wife wants to dress up...DONT JUDGE US, JUST BECAUSE OUR CHILD IS A LITTLE HAIRY!!!


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 3,043 ✭✭✭MurdyWurdy


    I'm 29 and am married with a kid - so yes :)

    One if the reasons we got married when we did was because we wanted to start a family. I wanted the security if being married first. I wouldn't have intentionally had a baby before we were married.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 3,043 ✭✭✭MurdyWurdy


    Got married just over 1.5 years ago. No kids yet but we do have a cat which my wife wants to dress up...DONT JUDGE US, JUST BECAUSE OUR CHILD IS A LITTLE HAIRY!!!

    Our cat is our other baby. I make sure he knows he'll always be my first baby. We are that sad. I've never dressed him up though but I did put one of the baby's bandana bibs on him the other day and he looked pretty smooth!


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 96 ✭✭Ulnar


    Have 2 minions and due to be married very soon, have the worst case of cold feet though :-(


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 8,058 ✭✭✭Uriel.


    If you asked me this question 5 years ago, I would have laughed in your face, took a long gulp from the whiskey glass, and maybe even have fallen down at some stage...

    Now...

    it's all so different, amazing how a mindset changes... found the girl I want, hoping to tie the knot in the next couple of years, and I want some minions down the road to do the hoovering and cleaning and what not.

    Tis a funny oul life.


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  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 7,397 ✭✭✭RobbieTheRobber


    nbar12 wrote: »
    marriage is a waste of money, so are children but you could train your children to be your slaves which would be great

    How is marriage a waste of money?

    Most self proclaimed free speech absolutists are giant big whiny snowflakes!



  • Closed Accounts Posts: 1,754 ✭✭✭Itwasntme.


    I don't want kids or marriage but I am in my twenties and everyone and their mother seems to be asking me this question these days. I don't think it will be long before my dad starts offering random men cows to marry me instead of the reverse :D.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 4,296 ✭✭✭Frank Black


    I'm not really into the idea of kids or long term commitment which is unfortunate as I'm married with 2 kids.


  • Posts: 7,344 ✭✭✭ [Deleted User]


    Marriage not an option for us here but we are as good as. Have one child already and the target is for 3 more. In fact some sudden dietry changes make me suspect we are pregnant again but I am saying nothing until she tells me. Have to act all surprised and stuff :)


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 236 ✭✭mayobumblebee


    i didnt really want either but i found my fella and i really wanted to get married
    absolutely not on the kids though. im 30


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 5,056 ✭✭✭_Redzer_


    Marriage yes, kids fuck no


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 23,646 ✭✭✭✭qo2cj1dsne8y4k


    Not really tbh.

    I used to think I wanted kids but not marriage, but the older I get the more disgusted I get at the thoughts of dedicating my life to an ungrateful little brat who'll spend my money and melt my head. For me, I don't see any positives to having kids. They're gross and they cost a fortune.

    Marriage, I don't know. I'm not as horrified at the thoughts of it as I once was, but considering I can't even commit to a perfume that I wear, I can't see myself ever being ready to commit that much to a man.

    25, btw


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 11,466 ✭✭✭✭Ush1


    I'm not married an just found out I'm gonna be a dad.

    Hope to get married after although it's not a huge deal to me.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 3,885 ✭✭✭DeanAustin


    Always thought I'd want kids and then had one and found out what hard work they are. Have to say I'd wavered on a couple of occasions over the last year on whether I believe I'm up to it but have now adapted and seeing the little fella gives me more pleasure than anything else I've ever done in life. Still hard work and I don't know how I'd have coped in my teens or early 20s with it but I love being a dad and I can't wait for him to get older to get even more value out of him.

    Marriage...yes. I'm not yet but I want to give my child(ren) the most secure environment to grow up in. I know it's not for everyone and there are arguments against it but, for me, it's something I need and want.


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  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 231 ✭✭remsburgsgirl


    Kids...9 years ago I said never....9 years ago I found out I was pregnant...

    Marriage...more the romantic idea of being his wife & him my hubby, than any other reason...

    ...Fast forward on life >>>> I am home with a 1.5 year old and 6 months pregnant, 9 year old at school

    My opinion on marriage now...I'm a lucky woman if it does eventually happen, as we are the complete opposite of that family on the ad on telly, where 'Kate' has been through 3 jobs, 4 moves and 20 bloody children & she's still 'Kate'...My hubby to be would be the 'Kate'


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