advice please

eggox

Hi im getting married in august and could do with a bit of advice on a few things. Do i buy the best mans suit and page boys etc. Do i buy gifts for the mother s etc. Do you host a party the next day. Thankyou for any answers you have or any other advice

January

eggox wrote: »

Hi im getting married in august and could do with a bit of advice on a few things. Do i buy the best mans suit and page boys etc. Do i buy gifts for the mother s etc. Do you host a party the next day. Thankyou for any answers you have or any other advice

Yes to the suits and yes to gifts for mothers. Party the next day is completely optional, if you can afford it and want to go for it but I won't be doing it.

eggox

January wrote: »

Yes to the suits and yes to gifts for mothers. Party the next day is completely optional, if you can afford it and want to go for it but I won't be doing it.

Thankyou for the reply, what sort of present do you buy the mothers

January

To be honest, the most of I've seen of mothers presents is giant bunches of flowers but if you can think of something more personal that's all the better.

toadfly

Personally I don't like the flowers for mothers. We got my Mam a Pandora charm and my MIL her favourite perfume.

Yes you cover the costs of bridesmaids and groomsmen.

Penny Dreadful

Got married last year.
Didn't do the next day party. Personally I dislike them. You've already done the wedding bit, had your guests, let them go home the next day.
Paid for suits (hired) for the groom, best man, father in law - my Dad already had his own suit that was perfect.
Presents for mothers- we paid for an outfit for my mother in law. She doesn't have much money and I thought it would be nice to get her something nice to wear that she'd feel good in. Better spend than flowers IMHO. For my own mother we took her and my Dad out to dinner in a fancy restaurant after the honeymoon to say thank you for all that they had done.
Didn't have flower girls or page boys.

flikflak

It all depends on what type of wedding you are having. For the traditional full on church affair with a full bridal party then yes you probably should pay for their attire. If you are having something more laid back and casual then maybe not.

As for gifts this is something we have decided against. Its a personal choice, dont feel you HAVE to do anything you dont want to.

solerina

we paid to hire the suits for the men, bought the dresses and shoes for the girls...and paying to get their hair and make up done. We havnt thought about presents for the mothers but possibly perfume or flowers...we are not having a day after event, one day is enough !!!

Moonbeam

We had a lovely relaxed party the next day paid for by us.
We did not buy presents for the mothers or fathers and we paid for suit hire for the fathers,bestman and groomsmen.

Ms2011

Buying the grooms man & page boy's suit, page boy is our son so we would have had to dress him anyway.

We were going to dinner the next day ourselves then alot of our guests decided to join us so we are having an unintentional gathering the next day.

Not doing the mother/father's presents for personal reasons.

The way it is is it's your wedding so your rules ;-)

smaoifs

We're covering the bridesmaid and groomsman outfits. Have bought them gifts as a token of the day.
Floral bouquets for the Mammys are included in our package with the florist.

seosamh1980

I don't really understand buying gifts/flowers for the mothers? Why them and not the fathers? What exactly is it they get them for? I'm not sold on it, either presents for all 4 (which isn't happening) or presents for none.

I like the day after parties. I never get to talk to the bride and groom enough on the wedding day and I like to get a chance to mingle with more people you might miss on the day itself, so when it's possible I think it's nice. I used to think it was a hassle but the more I've hung around for the more I've liked it.

Fionn

theres no hard and fast rules these days!
It really depends on what you, the couple want and what your budget will cope with, I've seen weddings that had presents not only for the mothers but the bridesmaids too, I'm sure it can get very spendy.