What Compliment Is Too Much For Someone in a Relationship to Say?

jessiblah

You meet someone that you fancy at a pub/club/bingo hall. They're lovely. After a bit of chat/banter/flirting they pay you a huge compliment. Later on you find out that they're in a relationship and think that the compliment they gave you was over the line for someone in a relationship to say to a stranger.

What was the compliment?


Personally I think complimenting someone's physical appearance with words stronger than 'nice' or 'lovely' (such as gorgeous, beautiful, etc) is a bit much in this situation. Commenting on their personality is sort-of okay, as long as it's not something like "you're the kindest, most generous person with the best sense of humour that I've ever met, and I've only known you ten minutes." That's creepy. I was just wondering where others think the line should be drawn.

Prodgey

If she's beautiful, there's no harm in telling her.

stefan idiot jones

I would kill your Mother just to spend another days in your arms dear.

SV

Prodgey wrote: »

If she's beautiful, there's no harm in telling her.

If you're in a relationship then yeah, there is imo.

The Backwards Man

I love you OP. You complete me.

Artful_Badger

Prodgey wrote: »

If she's beautiful, there's no harm in telling her.

Only one reason to tell a girl you just met she's beautiful though and if you're in a relationship you shouldn't be openly telling other women you want to ride them.

PizzamanIRL

The peach fuzz on your ear lobes turns me on.

Nodin

jessiblah wrote: »

You meet someone that you fancy at a pub/club/bingo hall. They're lovely. After a bit of chat/banter/flirting they pay you a huge compliment. Later on you find out that they're in a relationship and think that the compliment they gave you was over the line for someone in a relationship to say to a stranger.

What was the compliment?


Personally I think complimenting someone's physical appearance with words stronger than 'nice' or 'lovely' (such as gorgeous, beautiful, etc) is a bit much in this situation. Commenting on their personality is sort-of okay, as long as it's not something like "you're the kindest, most generous person with the best sense of humour that I've ever met, and I've only known you ten minutes." That's creepy. I was just wondering where others think the line should be drawn.

'I'll wash and tumble dry your underwear in my mouth.'

dorkacle

I think it really depends on the way something is said and the context.

Like, if its just a 'ah your gorgeous' I don't think it means anything tbh... on the other hand it could be said very provocatively, really depends in how it is said.

Fr_Dougal

You don't sweat much for a fat chick.

IM0

relationships are tomporary, were always on the lookout for something better whether we realise it or not

SV

IM0 wrote: »

relationships are tomporary, were always on the lookout for something better whether we realise it or not

I like how you add 'whether we realise it or not' at the end there. Makes it impossible to argue against you even though it's not true at all.

btw my Granny and Grandad were each others first partners and were with each other from the age of 14 until he died at the age of 86.
Fúck all temporary about that.

Gummy Panda

"I'd ride you like I stole you"

IM0

SV wrote: »

I like how you add 'whether we realise it or not' at the end there. Makes it impossible to argue against you even though it's not true at all.

btw my Granny and Grandad were each others first partners and were with each other from the age of 14 until he died at the age of 86.
Fúck all temporary about that.

divorce rate is currently running @25% or 50%, granted I cant remember which but either one is pretty shocking

downonthefarm

in the words of a philip mcgraw,if you wouldnt say it when their partner was there you probably shouldnt say it at all

lukesmom

Unbelievable what some men will say to you. Even when you are friends with their wife. They want 'a bit of fun' even though they are 'happily married'. And when I remind them I'm married myself they still try. Obviously not all married men/men in relationships are like this but I've met plenty.

28064212

IM0 wrote: »

divorce rate is currently running @25% or 50%, granted I cant remember which but either one is pretty shocking

No, it's not. Not by any measure. Why do people just make stats up on the spot when a 10 second google will give you the actual answer?

Howard Juneau

lukesmom wrote: »

Unbelievable what some men will say to you. Even when you are friends with their wife. They want 'a bit of fun' even though they are 'happily married'. And when I remind them I'm married myself they still try. Obviously not all married men/men in relationships are like this but I've met plenty.

I've met plenty of women like that too.....being this beautiful is a curse is it not?!

lukesmom

Howard Juneau wrote: »

I've met plenty of women like that too.....being this beautiful is a curse is it not?!

Yeah it's tough alright

Skybox

I don't see what the issue is here tbh!! You have no idea what the other person's relationship is like. As one poster pointed out, if they wouldn't say it in front of their partner, they shouldn't say it. However you don't know what they would or wouldn't say!! Myself and my girlfriend have a fantastic relationship but I would also be honest enough to say, Wow so and so looks amazing. We were on holidays recently admiring topless women around the pool and commenting on who looked better! I would have no issue paying someone a compliment whether my partner was there or not! Just take the compliment and say thanks!!! :-)

Orangebags

SV wrote: »

I like how you add 'whether we realise it or not' at the end there. Makes it impossible to argue against you even though it's not true at all.

btw my Granny and Grandad were each others first partners and were with each other from the age of 14 until he died at the age of 86.
Fúck all temporary about that.

Little do you know about all the affairs they had.

keith16

lukesmom wrote: »

Unbelievable what some men will say to you. Even when you are friends with their wife. They want 'a bit of fun' even though they are 'happily married'. And when I remind them I'm married myself they still try. Obviously not all married men/men in relationships are like this but I've met plenty.

You look great stepping out of the shower.

Kind regards,
Kid next door

Ush1

lukesmom wrote: »

Unbelievable what some men will say to you. Even when you are friends with their wife. They want 'a bit of fun' even though they are 'happily married'. And when I remind them I'm married myself they still try. Obviously not all married men/men in relationships are like this but I've met plenty.

Sam Brick, that you?

Orangebags

lukesmom wrote: »

Unbelievable what some men will say to you. Even when you are friends with their wife. They want 'a bit of fun' even though they are 'happily married'. And when I remind them I'm married myself they still try. Obviously not all married men/men in relationships are like this but I've met plenty.

That's what happens when you force a species not meant for monogomy into a monogomous culture.

Imagine it was decided in our culture that eating food was immoral. People would still so it because sooner than later their instincts would become too powerful too ignore.

Frosty McSnowballs

"I'd say you taste great"

gosplan

Orangebags wrote: »

That's what happens when you force a species not meant for monogomy into a monogomous culture.

Imagine it was decided in our culture that eating food was immoral. People would still so it because sooner than later their instincts would become too powerful too ignore.

Complete load of rubbish. You may as well say we weren't built for farming, but rather as hunter gatherers.

If you're sitting out climbing around trees with fcuk all to do all day but eat bamamas and shag, monogomy makes little sense.

In today's world where raising your own family is such a lengthy undertaking, and especially nowadays when building a home is so often a joint venture, monogomy makes lots of sense and comes naturally enough.

Czarcasm

Orangebags wrote: »

Little do you know about all the affairs they had.

Said with such authority as if you yourself are any the wiser! :pac:

Orangebags wrote: »

That's what happens when you force a species not meant for monogomy into a monogomous culture.

And who forced anybody to accept monogamy? Let alone forced them into a relationship? People have the freedom of choice, but those same people must realise that everyone else has freedom of choice too, and they can choose not to be in a polygamous or polylandrous relationship too if they want to.

To answer the OP, for me personally there are no limits, but that'll depend on context. People are free to say what they want, it's their actions I'd be judging, not so much their words.

SV

Orangebags wrote: »

That's what happens when you force a species not meant for monogomy into a monogomous culture.

Imagine it was decided in our culture that eating food was immoral. People would still so it because sooner than later their instincts would become too powerful too ignore.

Manwhores and Sluts are always breaking this line out.

Mr. CooL ICE

I once told a girl "your pants are too big. you look a disgrace". She had lost a lot of weight and was looking extremely healthy, but I couldn't bring myself to make a compliment

Howard Juneau

LordChessington wrote: »

I once told a girl "your pants are too big. you look a disgrace". She had lost a lot of weight and was looking extremely healthy, but I couldn't bring myself to make a compliment

Only right, keep her on her toes & she'll lose a bit more chunkyness. You have a career as a motivational speaker ahead of you sir!

uch

That was lovely but don't suck so hard please

Mickey H

uch wrote: »

That was lovely but don't suck bite so hard please

There. FYP.

Gin77

Nice shoes, women like shoes.

MadsL

Sound like the OP is settling an argument? Or starting one?

kfk

jessiblah wrote: »

You meet someone that you fancy at a pub/club/bingo hall. They're lovely. After a bit of chat/banter/flirting they pay you a huge compliment. Later on you find out that they're in a relationship and think that the compliment they gave you was over the line for someone in a relationship to say to a stranger.

What was the compliment?


Personally I think complimenting someone's physical appearance with words stronger than 'nice' or 'lovely' (such as gorgeous, beautiful, etc) is a bit much in this situation. Commenting on their personality is sort-of okay, as long as it's not something like "you're the kindest, most generous person with the best sense of humour that I've ever met, and I've only known you ten minutes." That's creepy. I was just wondering where others think the line should be drawn.

You may want to rethink that! Last night I complimented my wifes best friend with "You've got really nice baby feeders". My wife and her friend went nuts! I think I should have just said "nice" instead of "really nice".

anncoates

jessiblah wrote: »

You meet someone that you fancy at a pub/club/bingo hall

"It's so nice to meet a woman that still has all her teeth".

sbsquarepants

lukesmom wrote: »

Unbelievable what some men will say to you. Even when you are friends with their wife. They want 'a bit of fun' even though they are 'happily married'. And when I remind them I'm married myself they still try. Obviously not all married men/men in relationships are like this but I've met plenty.

NEWSFLASH - lukesmom is a milf eh, I mean yummy mummy:D

gramar

If it's along the lines of you 'have a lovely cock' or ' a sweet fanny' then things have probably gone to far.

MugMugs

I always find this works well.

"You're nice............ Nice and fat....."

Dravokivich

The only compliment that'd be over the line, is if they were to start ridin' me.

Which being honest, I'd take as quite the compliment.

Itwasntme.

Gin77 wrote: »

Nice shoes, women like shoes.

I see what you didn't do there .

Carrie Madshaw

kfk wrote: »

You may want to rethink that! Last night I complimented my wifes best friend with "You've got really nice baby feeders". My wife and her friend went nuts! I think I should have just said "nice" instead of "really nice".

Or milkers instead of baby feeders..

jessiblah

MadsL wrote: »

Sound like the OP is settling an argument? Or starting one?

Neither actually. I was just curious what other people would deem as too much.

KwackerJack

Say absolutely nothing, because the next time she's asks it will be the wrong answer!

Am I fat.....

No Darling....

Your lying so you don't hurt my feelings......

Ok your fat.....

Your only a prick, is that why you look at at the skinny bitches :rolleyes:


Does my ass look big in this........

No hunny.....

Yes! yes it does it's huge......

Well if it's so big why ask for a second opinion!


You see the best thing to do is just say ' you look great, if you feel comfortable, wear it'

After that your losing an already defeated battle!