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domestic problem

  • 12-09-2013 12:51pm
    #1
    sajid.ahmed
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 73 ✭✭


    hi guys we married 10 years ago have 3kids but life get harder now all time row arguing one minute we r ok next five minute what come her head i dont know just get started i dont know what to do if i mention my family member in conversation its like poring petrol on fire we have job not big problem with money mean we can live with it.we went for holidays i thought it might helps but was ok when we were there back same story any advice


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  • #2
    Merkin
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 8,230 ✭✭✭Merkin


    Would you consider marriage counselling?


  • #3
    sajid.ahmed
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 73 ✭✭sajid.ahmed


    Merkin wrote: »
    Would you consider marriage counselling?

    i am ready for anything to save this relationship problem is her she think she alright she doesn't need any help she think she knows every thing and she think she is always right even she is not


  • #4
    Elmer Blooker
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 6,194 ✭✭✭Elmer Blooker


    PM sent.


  • #5
    Taltos
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 20,830 ✭✭✭✭Taltos


    Elmer please read our charter - we ask posters to do a few things but key among them - if you have no constructive advice don't post and don't solicit or offer PMs.

    Thanks
    Taltos


  • #6
    Nymeria
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 173 ✭✭Nymeria


    Hi OP, I know it sounds basic but have you sat down with your wife and asked her how she feels, told her how you feel etc. With three kids under 10 I'm sure its hard to find time to just connect with eachother, but it is so important not to let yourselves drift away from basic communication and understanding. That is really the beginning of the end of a relationship.

    I would advise firstly asking her for some time alone when the kids are in bed. Kindly, and without blaming her, ask her if she is unhappy, what is bothering her etc. The next bit is really important: listen to what she says. Try to take on board what she says. Then its your turn, tell her what is bothering you, and what you would like to change about the current situation. Ask her to try and understand your point of view etc.

    From there you can both try and establish whether the relationship is working and if it has a future.

    Unfortunately, ignoring the problem will not help.


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  • #7
    Aseth
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 423 ✭✭Aseth


    OP, you didn't really explain what is the source of the rows between you and your wife.
    If she doesn't see there's a problem then counselling won't work.
    Does she think it's normal - the amount of time you spend quarelling? All couples do - the only difference is how serious it gets, how hurtful to one or both sides and if they see how bad it is and that there's a need to work on the issues.


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