Getting the Parent(s) to give up fags

lufties

Hi, My mother smokes in the house and as far as I'm concerned its vile, the smell lingers around the place and basically irritates my nose etc. I have been dropping hints along with the rest of the family but she won't even try quitting anymore. Anyone have any suggestions on what to do? The smell in the house is the least of the worries, she's in her 50's and been smoking since teenage years. I feel helpless as she doesn't seem to listen.

Daniel2590

Her house, why don't you move out?

snubbleste

Move out

December2012

Accept it. She's a smoker. And she'll die a smoker.

Not a thing you can do about it.

lufties

Daniel2590 wrote: »

Her house, why don't you move out?

I am moved out, but its that my dad is a non smoker, and is exposed to this second hand smoke every evening.

snubbleste

Tell her she's poisoning her loving progeny with her second hand smoke

lufties

snubbleste wrote: »

Tell her she's poisoning her loving progeny with her second hand smoke

Yea I'm sure she's aware of that.

Fr_Dougal

lufties wrote: »

I am moved out

Then move out again.

Daniel2590

lufties wrote: »

I am moved out, but its that my dad is a non smoker, and is exposed to this second hand smoke every evening.

Tell him to move out? :pac:

tommy2bad

Get her an ecig, less smell, no smoke and cheaper!
She like smoking so this might work as a replacement for fags, it won't get her as far as nicotine abstinent but that wont kill her or anyone else.
Go read the Vaping sub forum in the giving up smoking forum.

lufties

Fr_Dougal wrote: »

Then move out again.

Thanks for that insightful contribution:mad:

lufties

tommy2bad wrote: »

Get her an ecig, less smell, no smoke and cheaper!
She like smoking so this might work as a replacement for fags, it won't get her as far as nicotine abstinent but that wont kill her or anyone else.
Go read the Vaping sub forum in the giving up smoking forum.

cheers

thecatspjs

Does she not know how bold it is to smoke? They should print warnings on the boxes or something.

Seriously, the only way she will quit is if she wants to. No amount of hint dropping will change that. It's not as easy to stop smoking as you seem to think it is, especially after 30+ years.

IvySlayer

Tell her you're pregnant :P

Put a smoke alarm in every room

Mickey H

Smoke drug cigarettes in the house. That'll teach her.

IvySlayer

Tell her you have asthma now, that'll do it

Fr_Dougal

lufties wrote: »

Thanks for that insightful contribution:mad:

You're welcome.

lufties wrote: »

Hi, My mother smokes in the house and as far as I'm concerned its vile, the smell lingers around the place and basically irritates my nose etc.

Your opening post suggests your main concern is for yourself. Your mams smoking is her own business, if your ickle nose is effected avoid the house; it's not your house. Simples.

coffeepls

As an ex smoker (and I smoked for over 20 years) I can tell you that you can't make your mother give them up, she needs to do that for herself. I personally think you should back off, she obviously knows your opinion. Be supportive if she wants to give up, find out about NRT etc, if (and only if) she wants you to. That's all you can do. Stop being the bane of her life. She knows how bad smoking is for her health and for your father's health.

davlacey

there is tablets and all now that u can get off the doctor to help u give up i know they worked for a good few people. hardly any cravings or anything.but if the person doesnt want to give up theres no point taking them.

kneemos

Douse her in petrol and dare her to light up.

tommy2bad

kneemos wrote: »

Douse her in petrol and dare her to light up.

When I smoked I would have! I used to smoke filling the car with petrol back when stuff like that was normal.

Hank Scorpio

rarnes1 wrote: »

Put a smoke alarm in every room

Cig smoke doesn't put off smoke alarms, good idea as a fire precaution though !

zcorpian88

lufties wrote: »

Hi, My mother smokes in the house and as far as I'm concerned its vile, the smell lingers around the place and basically irritates my nose etc. I have been dropping hints along with the rest of the family but she won't even try quitting anymore. Anyone have any suggestions on what to do? The smell in the house is the least of the worries, she's in her 50's and been smoking since teenage years. I feel helpless as she doesn't seem to listen.

Get your mother on an electric cigarette, my mam has been on it a year and has converted a number of relatives of mine too, as well as my dad, you can use them to cut down or quit altogether.

They are a lot cleaner as the smoke doesn't have the many toxins that a cigarette has. No smell of them at all really. The smoke is more of a vapour, my mam, dad, some aunts and uncles and my nan are using it. My mam more than any swear by them and she has been a smoker for 30 years.

You can buy them at some local markets depending on where you live (perhaps ask around), but online is a bit cheaper and they dispatch them quite quickly and do good deals on refill liquids. Its not quite like anything she would have used before as my folks gave up many times using gum, patches, and all that other nicorette shyte. You can also use intellicig electric cigarettes but the battery life on them suck so I would stick with the ones on the site below.

http://www.healthiersmoker.ie/en/14-starter-kits

Pumpkinseeds

You can't stop someone from smoking. I, my husband, my dad and my mum all smoked. My mum is 60 and she's the only 1 of us who still smokes. She doesn't want to quit and she won't, it's her life, she's an adult and as such can make her own decisions, realistically if you don't want to live in a house that smells of cigarette smoke, well then you're going to have to move out.

Real Life

My mother just started smoking again after 25 years off them. im not even going to bother trying to get her to stop at this stage. besides im in no position to be telling other people what substances they shouldnt put in their body

rustedtrumpet

Move her out. Problem solved

heyheyhey1982

I think your meant to use the term Gay.

kneemos

rustedtrumpet wrote: »

Move her out. Problem solved

You my friend are a problem solver.

xzanti

I hate smoking OP, I find it vile too.. but unfortunately, unless she wants to give them up then you're really wasting your time.. I feel sorry for your Dad having to breath in the smoke.. not nice..

Has he expressed a dislike for it? Or is he happy enough with the situation?

lufties

Pumpkinseeds wrote: »

You can't stop someone from smoking. I, my husband, my dad and my mum all smoked. My mum is 60 and she's the only 1 of us who still smokes. She doesn't want to quit and she won't, it's her life, she's an adult and as such can make her own decisions, realistically if you don't want to live in a house that smells of cigarette smoke, well then you're going to have to move out.

I live in another continent, just back on hols, just drives me mad to see her sucking on those f@cking things.

Fr_Dougal

lufties wrote: »

I live in another continent, just back on hols, just drives me mad to see her sucking on those f@cking things.

Ya know chances are she sucks on other things when you're not there...oooohhhh...now there's a thought. :P

OneArt

Fr_Dougal wrote: »

Ya know chances are she sucks on other things when you're not there...oooohhhh...now there's a thought. :P

Like Werther's Original. Yum.

It's just like the ad!

lufties

xzanti wrote: »

I hate smoking OP, I find it vile too.. but unfortunately, unless she wants to give them up then you're really wasting your time.. I feel sorry for your Dad having to breath in the smoke.. not nice..

Has he expressed a dislike for it? Or is he happy enough with the situation?

I'm not really sure, but he used to always drop hints about it. I can't believe she smokes in the house, is it me or is it very selfish? I hate smoking with a passion.

.Henry Sellers.

My mam used to smoke, probably over 20 years, 5 to 10 a day. She'd be off them for one or two months doing great sometimes and then fall back on them. We already have a family member suffering with emphysema through heavy smoking and previous work life, a truly horrible condition so I wasn't going to have someone else possibly getting ill from those lovely fags.

She's off the cigs now around 8 years, here is my advice for you. Every time you are around your Mam rob her packet of fags and run them under the tap, I didn't give a sh1t if it was a freshly bought twenty pack of smokes or if there was a just few left, I washed the sh1t out of them and squeezed and mashed them up and left them on the kitchen table for her to find, ha. I used to get killed for doing it but if she wanted to smoke it was gonna cost her. She quit on her own will power but I like to think I just helped her a little on the quitting journey. We laugh about what I did now so give it a go.

I just don't get smoking, it's a filthy habit, now Chocolate cigarettes on the other hand.........

thecatspjs

.Henry Sellers. wrote: »

My mam used to smoke, probably over 20 years, 5 to 10 a day. She'd be off them for one or two months doing great sometimes and then fall back on them. We already have a family member suffering with emphysema through heavy smoking and previous work life, a truly horrible condition so I wasn't going to have someone else possibly getting ill from those lovely fags.

She's off the cigs now around 8 years, here is my advice for you. Every time you are around your Mam rob her packet of fags and run them under the tap, I didn't give a sh1t if it was a freshly bought twenty pack of smokes or if there was a just few left, I washed the sh1t out of them and squeezed and mashed them up and left them on the kitchen table for her to find, ha. I used to get killed for doing it but if she wanted to smoke it was gonna cost her. She quit on her own will power but I like to think I just helped her a little on the quitting journey. We laugh about what I did now so give it a go.

I just don't get smoking, it's a filthy habit, now Chocolate cigarettes on the other hand.........

****ing hell, that's a lousy thing to do. Imagine I smashed your CDs because I don't like you listening to them, or threw all your food out because I don't like the smell of it.

.Henry Sellers.

thecatspjs wrote: »

****ing hell, that's a lousy thing to do. Imagine I smashed your CDs because I don't like you listening to them, or threw all your food out because I don't like the smell of it.

Well if was ingesting CD's and injecting food into my veins and all this practice was affecting my health in a serious way I'd probably thank you.

Chattastrophe!

lufties wrote: »

I'm not really sure, but he used to always drop hints about it. I can't believe she smokes in the house, is it me or is it very selfish? I hate smoking with a passion.

But it's HER house! If there's one place she should be able to smoke in peace without getting lectures or being called selfish etc, surely it's in her own house!

To me, you seem the selfish one, that you expect her to stop smoking in her own house just because you don't like it.

If her husband (who actually lives in the house) has a problem with her smoking, let them sort it out between themselves.

By the way, I'm not a smoker and never have been. I still think you're being unreasonable.

spank_inferno

A thing I notice about Irish men, many seem to be married to smokers despite being non-smokers themselves.

How can they tolerate it?

deco nate

spank_inferno wrote: »

A thing I notice about Irish men, many seem to be married to smokers despite being non-smokers themselves.

How can they tolerate it?

In a word..... Blowjobs

Super-Rush

Mickey H wrote: »

Smoke drug cigarettes in the house. That'll teach her.

:pac:

thecatspjs

.Henry Sellers. wrote: »

Well if was ingesting CD's and injecting food into my veins and all this practice was affecting my health in a serious way I'd probably thank you.

This is how I picture you, probably speaking English though.

freshpopcorn

You might get some helpful information here.

http://www.quit.ie/en/help_someone_else_quit


It can be a hard job to do to be honest, if she is stuck in her ways.

tommy2bad

Anyway she has been smoking for 30 years, you shouldn't have to put up with her for much longer!

Galwayguy35

.Henry Sellers. wrote: »

My mam used to smoke, probably over 20 years, 5 to 10 a day. She'd be off them for one or two months doing great sometimes and then fall back on them. We already have a family member suffering with emphysema through heavy smoking and previous work life, a truly horrible condition so I wasn't going to have someone else possibly getting ill from those lovely fags.

She's off the cigs now around 8 years, here is my advice for you. Every time you are around your Mam rob her packet of fags and run them under the tap, I didn't give a sh1t if it was a freshly bought twenty pack of smokes or if there was a just few left, I washed the sh1t out of them and squeezed and mashed them up and left them on the kitchen table for her to find, ha. I used to get killed for doing it but if she wanted to smoke it was gonna cost her. She quit on her own will power but I like to think I just helped her a little on the quitting journey. We laugh about what I did now so give it a go.

I just don't get smoking, it's a filthy habit, now Chocolate cigarettes on the other hand.........

A clip around the ear is what you should have got.