Job and nerves

LegacyUser

Got the best news ever yesterday, ive being unemployed for the past 6 years and ive finally landed myself a job part time, I start next week but im a nervous reck I haven't worked in so long im so afraid I wont get the hang of it and im very slow at getting the hang of things I haven't one bit of confidence and I think my famly expect me to quit after the first day, I did work for 4 years in the same type of job years ago and once I got the hang of it it was fine, how am I going to cope with my nerves, and lack of confidence, please help im afaid il now show up when im meant to start as il have myself worked into a state

Typer Monkey

Everybody is nervous on their first day in a new job. It's completely natural to feel that way so instead of freaking out about being nervous and trying to stop it just accept that it's a perfectly normal way to feel and just get on with it :-)

Honestly, noone will expect you to be an expert straight away and you'll definitely be shown the ropes and be given some time to get up to speed.

Don't beat yourself up for feeling how everybody feels on their first day. Well done on getting the job and good luck (you'll be fine!)

ABajaninCork

Congrats and well done! I'm sure you'll be just fine in the new role...

*shakes hand to see if the luck will rub off!*

Zen65

Congrats on getting the job.

How did you get it? Was it an interview?

If it was an interview, then have confidence that the people who interviewed and selected you have the experience to know that you are capable of doing it. Everyone is nervous about starting a new job, so don't feel that your nervousness is unusual in any way.

Good luck with it,

Z

LegacyUser

yes an interview over the phone tho and sent in my cv, ive being sitting around the house for 3 years bored and I really want to make this work, ive being stuck in such a bad rut and ive lost any confidence ive had not that ive ever had any, im just thinking how will I work the till what about rude customers my voice goes all shakey when im nervous also.

Diziet

You'll be fine. Go in in good time, listen, engage with people, concentrate and just get on with it. Worrying is understandable, but won't help one little bit. Someone wiser that me said '80% of success is turning up'.

thefeatheredcat

Firstly, congrats on the new job!

nervousgirl wrote: »

I did work for 4 years in the same type of job years ago and once I got the hang of it it was fine

This here ^^ is what you need to remember.... that you did work for 4 years in a job like that before and you DID get the hang of it and it was fine.

If people around you expect you to fail and quit on the first day, then F them, tbh. Don't listen to them or give into their cruel expectation. Everyone gets nervous on their first day.... regardless of what job I've been in the first day, week, was always a mess. And I made loads of mistakes. Loads. But a good employer will recognise that even if you have done this sort of job before it may take time to get back into it and give you the room to make mistakes and to learn on the job. You will find your confidence as you progress over time in the job. If your first day goes really badly, then draw a line under it and start over the next day.

Stavro Mueller

Firstly, CONGRATULATIONS ON YOUR NEW JOB . Good for you!!

I know first hand how the dole can really sap away your self-confidence. Years ago I was on the dole for 7 months and it's still a time of my life I look back on less than fondly. When I did land a job I felt like an utter fraud. I even felt ashamed handing in my P45 to HR to do the paperwork. As it turned out, it was a job I got on very well with and it got my life back on track. I can't even begin to imagine how you feel after that long on the dole.

I've always found the first few days in any job are tough going. As well as trying to learn your new job, you're also trying to find your way around an unfamiliar building. You're trying to remember names, trying to find some friendly faces, working out what the office politics are. It is tough but within no time at all things settle down.

What you have to your advantage is that you did this sort of job before. You said yourself once you got the hang of it, you were fine. You got the hang of it before, you'll do so again. All that has changed is that your self-confidence has taken a bit of a hammering and you're putting pressure on yourself.

The people who gave you the job wouldn't have done so if they didn't think you were capable of doing it. Why shouldn't they give you the job. You had a job like this for four years - that in itself speaks volumes. It shows that you have a work ethic, that you're capable of holding down a job and that you're capable of doing the job that your new employers want done. You've got invaluable work experience and that straight away puts you ahead of youngsters who've never had a proper job. Once you start your training you'll soon find that what you did in your old job will come in useful. You're not starting from scratch - you're just a bit rusty. Once you find your feet you'll be grand