Am I thick?

painfullyme

I found my first love 4-5yrs ago, I fell for him 20yrs ago, we have been in contact since I contacted him on FB and I have gone as far as the other side of the world to see him. I don't think I would've gone to see him if I knew he was engaged to be married within the year of seeing him. I'm still not sure if his feelings for me a genuine but I know mine are.
I know for a fact he's full of it as 2yrs into his marriage he told me he was no longer, but within the last 6 months I have split with my partner after 17yrs together and he slipped in he was married a while ago although I never believed he split with his wife.
It confuses me why he lies so much, the latest is he's planning on moving from where he is to where I am but I'm a seeing is believing kinda women. He plays games before it was on msn messenger and now on Skype but it annoys him that I can't be arsed with it anymore. I want to cut all contact and I have tried in the past but my heart says one thing and my guts another.

Billy de Bollix

Drop that f**ker like a hot stone!!! Your values and his values are not compatible. ..sorry for sounding like spock! But I know this. After 14 years of amazing marraige two beautiful kids, my marraige has been built on our two sets of values and comprising with each other. And I know this....if he does not love you enough to under your values or at least comprimise with you....well thats your answer there. You are not stupid! It's just difficult to find someone decent these days that aren't complete me me's! Good luck!

heretochat

This is one of the easier threads to post a reply to. No you are not thick but this guy seems to think he can play you like a finely tuned harp..

I would not believe a word out of his mouth as he is a fantasist at best and a downright liar at worst..

I would drop all contact immediately.

Esoteric_

No, you're not thick. We've all made mistakes when it comes to relationships, it doesn't make any of us thick, because you learn something from those mistakes.

However, you don't really know this guy, do you? Your heart is telling you to continue with it, but c'mon, how can you love somebody who you simply don't know? How can you know him, when all he does is lie to you? You only know the side of him that he wants you to see.

You may have loved him in the past, and known him inside out, but people change. This man just wants you when it suits him, and is completely stringing you along.

Even if you think you love him, how about you love yourself? Realise that you deserve more, and block this man off. You should love yourself more than you love him.

MaggieZ

He knows you have feelings for him and he gets an ego boost from it. He can get his ego massaged whenever he feels like it. That's why he lies to you, because he doesn't want this tap to be turned off. But he definitely, definitely, is NOT planning a future with you. You are not in love with him, you are in love with whatever idea of him you have in your head. Trust me, I've been there. Don't waste any more of your precious time on this loser.