Public proposals

Crooked Jack

I heard on the radio this morning that some clown proposed to his girlfriend on a plane by getting another plane to fly alongside them with a banner. And then last week we had the Rose of Tralee bokefest.
Is it just me or are big public proposals cringeworthy, presumptive and pretty unfair on the person being proposed to.
Would you like a big public proposal or prefer something private?
Or maybe just have your other half brand you unexpectedly one day?

biko

Something private for me please.
I just find those vids really awkward.

Crooked Jack

biko wrote: »

Something private for me please.
I just find those vids really awkward.

Yeah, it's a real private intimate moment. It's like wanting to have your first shag on Croke Park at half time.
Still, those videos where the girl says "no" or "we'll talk later" are hilarious in a that's-the-job-for-you kind of way

IM0

there is a definate "all she'll never say no after I do all this big elaborate proposal for her in front of everyone" vibe off them.

They are mortifying and just make others embarrassed for you

Cringey
Especially if they sing
Even more especially if they think it's a romantic song but they clearly weren't listening to the lyrics properly

Peregrine

Whenever I see videos like that I always end up thinking "You fool! What if she said 'No'?"

Crooked Jack

bluewolf wrote: »

Cringey
Especially if they sing
Even more especially if they think it's a romantic song but they clearly weren't listening to the lyrics properly

Something by Steel Panther perhaps

IM0

reminds me of a wanker I saw on TV a few nights ago. he has to plan a secret wedding for his mrs which she doesnt know where it is till she arrives, and decides that the best way to do this is to do it in HIS favourite football teams stadium and on the PITCH [she needed football boots..not ****ting you :pac: ] selfish prick! - and she let him know about it too

Neyite

In Rome we visited the Trevvi Fountain. All you could see was about 30 tourist couples either about to get engaged, down on one knee with the box held out, or all cuddled up afterwards. It was friggen hilarious the way they all probably thought it was so romantic and original.

keith16

Didn't the crazy, former French football coach Raymond Domenech propose live on TV? She said no apparently. Can't find any video evidence.

I could have just read it on the side of a box of rice krispies.

smoking_kills

biko wrote: »

Something private for me please.
I just find those vids really awkward.

Awkward...cringeworthy i'd say. I left the room when the rose of tralee one happened.

Amirani

I'd never do it publicly, way too harsh on the person being asked.

Bananatop

Found the Rose of Tralee one very cringey, she kept saying no! Other than that I think proposals are lovely. Great to see people look so happy (I know, puke puke!), also you never know what difficulties they've gotten over to reach that point!

smoking_kills

Or hit him with a ukulele

http://d24w6bsrhbeh9d.cloudfront.net/photo/a5dZeMo_460sa_v1.gif

IM0

I find it really seedy if that makes sense and really unfair on the other partner

vitani

No matter how much I loved the person proposing, I'd be tempted to say no to teach them a lesson for proposing in public. It's putting unnecessary pressure on the person being asked, and turning what should be a private, intimate moment into a spectacle.

GLaDOS

Should always be done in private as far as I'm concerned.

Gyalist

IM0 wrote: »

there is a definate "all she'll never say no after I do all this big elaborate proposal for her in front of everyone" vibe off them.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Esr_okP5Qmo

jester77

They are sad and pathetic imo, really puts the other person on the spot. Fair play to the girl in the last video, it would have been easier to say yes and then change her mind later.

TeddyTedson

IM0 wrote: »

there is a definate "all she'll never say no after I do all this big elaborate proposal for her in front of everyone" vibe off them.

Really, you think so?
I'd of thought a bloke who proposes in public had figured she'd say yes in private, so I'll do it publicly.
It's is definitely a stupid idea though saying that.
What's romantic about turning a proposal into public spectacle!

MOC88

keith16 wrote: »

Didn't the crazy, former French football coach Raymond Domenech propose live on TV? She said no apparently. Can't find any video evidence.

I could have just read it on the side of a box of rice krispies.

The future was cloudy on that one

SEPT 23 1989

Its a private matter

Cienciano

Always seems to be a bit of an air of desperation from the blokes who do it.

Karl Stein

Only superseded by those incredibly corny scripted wedding acty-dancey things.

*puke*

MOC88

vitani wrote: »

No matter how much I loved the person proposing, I'd be tempted to say no to teach them a lesson for proposing in public. It's putting unnecessary pressure on the person being asked, and turning what should be a private, intimate moment into a spectacle.

WOW you wouldn't be delighted that the person who proposed to you want sot spend the rest of their life with you. You'd want to teach them a lesson despite being madly in love with them.

Potatoeman

jester77 wrote: »

They are sad and pathetic imo, really puts the other person on the spot. Fair play to the girl in the last video, it would have been easier to say yes and then change her mind later.

True but she would have to tell everyone she knew after that as it was on TV.

IM0

its usually the guys with money who do it too

on the other side of things, the first thing people ask is "where did they propose?" so society puts pressure on itself to make something original to satisfy the appetite of those who want to know all about this crap and the latest 'original' idea the DH came up with. cant win, damned if do damned if dont in some ways!

but there might be a few guys going "ah feck! but I was gonna.... " and changing the way they propose now..

Muise...

biko wrote: »

Something private for me please.
I just find those vids really awkward.

PM sent.

xoxo

vitani

MOC88 wrote: »

WOW you wouldn't be delighted that the person who proposed to you want sot spend the rest of their life with you. You'd want to teach them a lesson despite being madly in love with them.

I'd be tempted to, yes.

I'd also hope the person who wanted to spend the rest of his life with me would know me well enough to know that a public proposal would make me very uncomfortable.

kfallon

Did some bint get proposed to on The Rose of Tralee last week?

Ihatecuddles-old

I think they're lovely I saw a guy propose to his girlfriend in a restaurant in America once, thought it was the sweetest thing ever!

Ihatecuddles-old

kfallon wrote: »

Did some bint get proposed to on The Rose of Tralee last week?

Yeah, she was mortified. Kept saying 'no, no, please dont!'

kfallon

Ihatecuddles wrote: »

I think they're lovely I saw a guy propose to his girlfriend in a restaurant in America once, thought it was the sweetest thing ever!

It was staged just so you and other customers would hang round for dessert......however if you had every intention to anyway then it's 1-0 to you

kfallon

Ihatecuddles wrote: »

Yeah, she was mortified. Kept saying 'no, no, please dont!'

Really??? Was it one of those "No, no please don't" but she really meant, "Oh yes, go on" or was it a "get the fook out of me face you wankbag!"

I think it's madly passive-aggressive.

'If you turn me down, everyone will think you're a bitch so you're cornered!'

Ihatecuddles-old

kfallon wrote: »

Really??? Was it one of those "No, no please don't" but she really meant, "Oh yes, go on" or was it a "get the fook out of me face you wankbag!"

I think it was a oh **** now I have to say yes but i dont really want to!

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=yarRxERRFxY

TeddyTedson

Ihatecuddles wrote: »

I think it was a oh **** now I have to say yes but i dont really want to!

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=yarRxERRFxY

"I got tissues" Just in case the answer was no I guess -_-

Toto Wolfcastle

I'd hate the attention. It should be a private moment. The worst is when people do it in front of family. That's hardly fair.

Having said that, I was proposed to in a public place but it was done quietly so no one even noticed. It was lovely.

kfallon

TeddyTedson wrote: »

"I got issues"

We know Ned, we know :pac:

Dolbert

IM0 wrote: »

on the other side of things, the first thing people ask is "where did they propose?"

Makes the answer of 'in bed' a bit awkward... so I've heard ¬_¬

dm09

Ihatecuddles wrote: »

I think they're lovely I saw a guy propose to his girlfriend in a restaurant in America once, thought it was the sweetest thing ever!

Are you sure you really hate cuddles??? Go on, Ya'll have one?!?

Ihatecuddles-old

dm09 wrote: »

Are you sure you really hate cuddles??? Go on, Ya'll have one?!?

Cody Pomeray

For the record, the girl on the radio who was proposed to (she accepted the proposal btw...) seemed pretty delighted about the whole thing. She's been dating this guy since they were 16. They were childhood sweethearts. She has a child with him.

So the guy who proposed was not a "clown" OP. It's safe to say he knows his fiancé better than any of us, and knows the kind of marriage proposal she would have got a kick out of. I'm not a softie but that story this morning was sickeningly romantic.

Plenty of people aren't into public proposals. Grand so. Chances are your fiancés wouldn't propose in public.

haters everywhere!

lahalane

I think that it is attention seeking of the highest order.

'Hey everybody, look how in love we are'.

So in love that you felt you had to share the most intimate moment of your relationship with a bunch of strangers rather than with each other? I'm truly jealous of your love.

Some peoples idea of romance is very...different to mine...

starlit

No I'd want it private if I ever happen to be proposed to which have no expectation that it happen. I be mortified if it were public like that should be private and special shared with each other. Ye share news of engagement and wedding with others why not have that moment only with each other from prying eyes.

I don't like being centre of attention so public proposal no.

certifiedcrepe

I love to watch them for the awh factor but I would never want something like a flash mob or a marching band if it was me.

Crooked Jack

Candie wrote: »

I think it's madly passive-aggressive.

'If you turn me down, everyone will think you're a bitch so you're cornered!'

Did you see in the clip someone put up the way the basketball mascot raises its hands to the woman when she said no and was all "what the fuck, bitch."

Crooked Jack

IM0 wrote: »

its usually the guys with money who do it too

on the other side of things, the first thing people ask is "where did they propose?" so society puts pressure on itself to make something original to satisfy the appetite of those who want to know all about this crap and the latest 'original' idea the DH came up with. cant win, damned if do damned if dont in some ways!

but there might be a few guys going "ah feck! but I was gonna.... " and changing the way they propose now..

Really? I've never heard this be asked of anyone outside of shitty rom-coms

Eeden

Public proposers could be said to be manipulative, which is what makes me uncomfortable about them.

MurdyWurdy

I also hate public proposals, I told my husband not to do it, especially in the restaurant.

It turns out he never really proposed to me anyway, we discussed it while on holiday visiting his family and decided to get engaged and then got a ring. Worked for us. Loads of people wanted to hear my engagement story because there's competitiveness as to how romantic your man was (taking you up in a helicopter etch). They were always disappointed when I said I didn't really have one.