boyfriend sending kisses to other girl in a txt

poppy2529

hi guys,saw my boyfriend sending kisses 2 other girl in a txt sould i confront him,wat wil i saw?advice needed:mad:

king909

Does your boyfriend send your kisses in messages to you?

From personal experience I used to add them to messages to everybody. Girls, lads, family and even to 11850 a few times.

It took a conscious effort not to send them to some of my mates.

It might be a simple mistake. Just ask him about it! Let him know it bothers you. His reaction will let you know more then anything you will learn on here.

poppy2529

yes he does send em 2 me put tats all not the 1st time ive seen him txt tis girl he usually stays up after ive went 2 bed&tis is when the txtn happens

king909

poppy2529 wrote: »

yes he does send em 2 me put tats all not the 1st time ive seen him txt tis girl he usually stays up after ive went 2 bed&tis is when the txtn happens

That seems suspicious ill give you that. But you need to ask him.

Does he text this girl during the day? Maybe it's a friend who works at night (depending on your age but I started working nights at 16) maybe your boyfriend naturally stays awake later then you and he keeps himself occupied by texting this girl after you sleep until he gets tired?

Simple fact is the only way you will know is by speaking to him

Taltos

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Taltos

It could be an honest mistake, maybe not though. You could talk to him about it.

Trust is important in a relationship, why were you reading his texts?

CaraMay

I don't understand why people consistently use kisses in texts to everyone but in saying that I certainly world like it if it was my bf sending texts to a girl only when I had gone to bed...

heretochat

Definietly sounds a bit bogus to me...

I take it you are living together as you say he sends them after you are gone to bed... I would take it then that you are together a while..

So like an earlier poster I would wonder are there trust issues that lead you to read his texts..

poppy2529

wasnt a txt message on a fone was on facebook i woke up 1 mornin h wasnt in bed went downstairs 2 c where he was he was asleep with laptop on went 2 turn it off&saw the message he sent

heretochat

I think the reaction to knowing you saw that message would be quite telling..

poppy2529

i havent said anything yet i have been very quiet he hasnt even asked whats wrong why am i being so quiet

heretochat

I would hazard a guess that he knows you very well and he will know that something is up.. the lack of a question may stem from him not wanting a confrontation with you..

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poppy2529

sounds like you are right there...thank you for the advice..should i say something so

heretochat

I would suggest that it is the only way of knowing whether this is something innocent or not. You will drive yourself mad otherwise..

And watch for the initial reaction as that will tell you everything..

Chucky the tree

What did he actually say in the message? I mean if it's fairly harmless I wouldn't pay much attention to a few kissed at the end.

freshpopcorn

I wouldn't really worry about it to be honest. I know of a few guys who put's XXX's in there texts/messages for everybody.

sligoface

Sorry but I disagree, most guys including myself do not send kisses to everyone, though some girls do that, most guys do not. And while he has the right to have a chat with his mates on fb, a guy staying up at night on the laptop chatting to one specific girl on a regular basis while his live in girlfriend is in bed is not a good sign. Its probably not the only thing he is using the laptop for while yr asleep if you get me. I would talk to him about it. Unfortunately when a couple live together things can actually get less intimate because you see the person so much, the spark can be lost a bit. Let him know if you are hurt that he is communicating with another girl this way and if he says he sends xxs to everyone, ask to see some examples of texts to other ppl with xx before you believe it.

poppy2529

he doesnt send kisses to anyone else he texts only me...i think maybe he has a thing for this girl judging my the messages

December2012

I think the only thing you can do is ask him about it.

Could you ask him about it indirectly - as in ask about her, how's she getting on, has he heard from her recently?

It could be he might tell you that they were messaging and tell you what's going on - as in - the context of the messaging.

I think it's important to know the rest of what they were messaging to each other. Did you see it?

poppy2529

i dont know her at all their friends from years back

December2012

What were they saying to each other?

If its "you're so hot x" that's different to "chin up I'm sure things will get better x".

poppy2529

he had told her he used 2 fany her years ago conversation went on to general chit chat then when she was logging off he sent the kisses

heretochat

Imo if he was saying he used to fancy her he was looking for a response from her that she fancied him too.. Maybe he was looking for his ego to be massaged a bit, maybe it was something more..

Personally I wouldn't be happy at a partner staying up at night sending messages to the opposite sex while I was asleep..

Have you challenged him on it yet?

NicoleL88

Confront him. End of.