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Not in love with ex anymore

  • 07-08-2013 8:38pm
    #1
    LegacyUser
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    Hey

    I broke up with my ex just over a year ago after being together for almost five years. I loved him more than anything, but circumstances (which I'd rather not get into) meant it wouldn't work long term, so I bit the bullet and went for the break up.

    I was in an awful bad way afterwards. I lost a pile of weight, couldn't sleep, cried over everything at night when I was alone. I did get out there and date after a few months, but there was nobody serious and, certainly, nobody that I felt so strongly about.

    Anyway, about a week ago, after a year, the ex got in contact to meet. I'm still not sure why. He came over and we chatted for hours about nothing - just catching up. We sat there and it felt so normal to be chatting, but it was weird that I couldn't give him a hug or put my hand on his leg. He still looks and sounds like the guy I loved for all that time, but I didn't feel those emotions anymore. I would still do anything for him (like I would with any of my really good friends), but I'm not in love with him anymore.

    It should be a good thing, but it feels wrong. I thought that if I met this guy again I would fall apart (and maybe I would have a few months ago). I suppose it just seems very sad that I could meet up with the guy who I thought was my soulmate and not feel that connection anymore.

    I'm wondering if anybody has been through similar. To be honest, most of my mates (as have I before) only got over somebody by dating somebody else. But I haven't met anybody else yet who is able to compare.


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    FizzleSticks
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  • #3
    dorkacle
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    Hey,

    I can completely relate to this. Sounds exactly like what happened with me in my last relationship.

    We were so close, and like you say I would still regard her as a friend and tbh love her.

    I have bumped into her on occasion, we say we should be friends (I think she is seeing someone now) and should meet up sometime, but I just can't have that kind of relationship with her, I wish I could but for my personal well being I can't.

    Being very honest, even two years later I still occasionally think of her, and miss her.

    I haven't had any sort of relationship since we broke up, until recently I hadn't even been interested.

    But like the last person said, you just have to concentrate on yourself, your goals and what you want to do.

    I have got stuck in with college and work and catching up with my own friends.

    You will have tough days but everyone does. I find it worst when I have had recent contact with my ex, I know its hard (I am saying this now an in my head thinking I would love to speak to my ex...), but cutting her off really is the best policy if you just want to forget move on with you own life.

    Everyday it will get a tiny bit easier.


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