Girl gave friends num instead of her own

Declan1886

Hello all,
I met this girl(Lara) not her real name on a night out with friends, she is the friend of a friend, I got talking to her casually not trying anything on and she seemed nice added me on FB.
A few weeks went pass and the mutual friend said lara asked about me and going for out sometime.
After a few months I asked her out for dinner and her number, I felt great at the time.

Upon texting the number, I found out it was the number of a friend of Lara who I don't know? This friend gave me the real number which I texted to no reply.

I wasn't a creep and hung around for ages when asking her, I would have appreciated some honesty from Lara . I can't understand it, she had shown an interest before by tapping me on the arm on a night out before.When I see her again ( it's a small town) how should act and what should I do. Feel a bit let down by her, why give me the number of a friend I don't know, I've heard of giving wrong numbers before but not like this,
we're both early 20's not kids.
Thanks
P.s I'm new to forums so I hope this is in the correct section and such

Katgurl

I'm a little confused. Can you clarify -

You were introduced to a girl you liked (let's call her girl A) by a mutual female friend - let's call her Girl B? Girl B said Girl A wanted to go out with you & passed on the number of Girl A. This transpired to be the phone number of another girl (Girl C)?

If I've gone wrong let me know.

But based on my understanding I'd wonder -

Did you & Girl B just get your wires crossed ie. you thought she was talking about Girl A but she was talking about Girl C? It sounds like a simple misunderstanding, Girl C could have liked you but discovering it was their friend Girl A, she passed on her phone number instead.

Or perhaps Girl B meant to give you Girl A's phone number but took the wrong one from her phone book?

As an aside -
Why did you wait a few months to ask her out?
Tapping your arm is hardly a marriage proposal.

Declan1886

Katgurl wrote: »

I'm a little confused. Can you clarify -

You were introduced to a girl you liked (let's call her girl A) by a mutual female friend - let's call her Girl B? Girl B said Girl A wanted to go out with you & passed on the number of Girl A. This transpired to be the phone number of another girl (Girl C)?

If I've gone wrong let me know.

But based on my understanding I'd wonder -

Did you & Girl B just get your wires crossed ie. you thought she was talking about Girl A but she was talking about Girl C? It sounds like a simple misunderstanding, Girl C could have liked you but discovering it was their friend Girl A, she passed on her phone number instead.

Or perhaps Girl B meant to give you Girl A's phone number but took the wrong one from her phone book?

As an aside -
Why did you wait a few months to ask her out?
Tapping your arm is hardly a marriage proposal.

I know it's confusing but I think you have the gist of it, girl A purposely gave me the number of girl C, who I have never met, no numbers were exchanged before me asking girl A for her own number, I'm no Casanova, fairly shy for my age cause me to wait so long. I felt enough interest was shown so I asked her out

Czarcasm

Declan1886 wrote: »

I know it's confusing but I think you have the gist of it, girl A purposely gave me the number of girl C, who I have never met, no numbers were exchanged before me asking girl A for her own number, I'm no Casanova, fairly shy for my age cause me to wait so long. I felt enough interest was shown so I asked her out

Woefully immature of girl A. I'd take her off your facebook friends list too and move on.

_dublinlad_

I would echo Czarcasm's comment, very immature thing to do indeed!

By the sounds of it she may have been a little bit interested in you a while back. Then you guys went out and she realised she wasn't keen. She then chose to take the immature route in nipping it in the bud. This reflects badly on her, not you.

As far as how you should act towards her now? Act as you would have acted before you had the date. I wouldn't bother deleting her on fb or ignoring her on the street or anything like that. Essentially unlike her - take the high road and don't give it another seconds thought.

claypigeon777

Declan1886 wrote: »

Hello all,
I met this girl(Lara) not her real name on a night out with friends, she is the friend of a friend, I got talking to her casually not trying anything on and she seemed nice added me on FB.
A few weeks went pass and the mutual friend said lara asked about me and going for out sometime.
After a few months I asked her out for dinner and her number, I felt great at the time.

Upon texting the number, I found out it was the number of a friend of Lara who I don't know? This friend gave me the real number which I texted to no reply.

I wasn't a creep and hung around for ages when asking her, I would have appreciated some honesty from Lara . I can't understand it, she had shown an interest before by tapping me on the arm on a night out before.When I see her again ( it's a small town) how should act and what should I do. Feel a bit let down by her, why give me the number of a friend I don't know, I've heard of giving wrong numbers before but not like this,
we're both early 20's not kids.
Thanks
P.s I'm new to forums so I hope this is in the correct section and such

If you are interested in a woman perhaps you should strike while the iron is hot?
You are not the only man in the world so maybe you should consider that she might possibly be getting hit on all the time by other men who don't wait weeks and months to actually do something about their attraction to her?
Perhaps she has several suitors and you eliminated yourself from the running?
She only spoke casually to you ages ago and all she did was add you on facebook so why would you assume you had any chance at all?
Nothing you did was in any way romantic.
You blew it so learn from it and don't make the same mistake with the next woman who catches your eye.

IrishEyes19

claypigeon777 wrote: »

If you are interested in a woman perhaps you should strike while the iron is hot?
You are not the only man in the world so maybe you should consider that she might possibly be getting hit on all the time by other men who don't wait weeks and months to actually do something about their attraction to her?
Perhaps she has several suitors and you eliminated yourself from the running?
She only spoke casually to you ages ago and all she did was add you on facebook so why would you assume you had any chance at all?
Nothing you did was in any way romantic.
You blew it so learn from it and don't make the same mistake with the next woman who catches your eye.

That's not fair on the OP at all. Taking any romantic inclinations out of the post, it was still pretty weird for someone to give a different friends number. Very odd. Don't think the OP blew it all. She just didn't want the same I reckon.

beano345

What age is she op? Seems immature reminds me of a friend who gave out another friends number to a girl pretending it was his or some kind of joke, the second friend is now happily married to her with kids while the other is still single

Edit: sorry just noticed early twenties!