Loose End. Always

LegacyUser

Hi there,

Just wanted to get advice on here as people really seem to take time to offer great advice. Basically the past few years have been really lonely for me especially around holidays and bh weekends. On the surface I have a great job, am attractive and seem confident, but reality is am drowning. Tonight I called a good few of my friends and they alll had other plans. Went to petrol station and bought a bottle of wine which drank by myself. Not usual for me but felt urge. Am nearly 40 friends all settled down or have kids etc,

I find it more and more difficult to arrange nights out whatever due to my friends commitments. For example I might ask to meet up and I will get a response along lines of coffee in six weeks times. This weekend have been alone for most of it apart from talking to shop keepers! Feel like a total loser!

Am great fun when out but is this the way it is when you get to certain age? Weekends and holidays alone. Would love to have gone to oxegen or something this weekend but no one available. I know I seem like I am being really negative but not sure how to get beyond this over whelming sense of being alone. I have found that I have been making bad choices where men are concerned due to how lonely I am feeling. Guys who use me or neglect to tell me they are in a relationship etc but am so grateful for the crumbs...then I feel so crap about myself....and so it goes

This is not how I saw my life panning out. I have joined clubs, been really sociable etc and while I meet people all seem busy with their own lives...

Anyone else feel same and any advice apart from joining clubs which have tried.

I know I am young and have a lot to offer but feel so alone at times.....

Carlowgirl

hekomsepk wrote: »

Hi there,

Just wanted to get advice on here as people really seem to take time to offer great advice. Basically the past few years have been really lonely for me especially around holidays and bh weekends. On the surface I have a great job, am attractive and seem confident, but reality is am drowning. Tonight I called a good few of my friends and they alll had other plans. Went to petrol station and bought a bottle of wine which drank by myself. Not usual for me but felt urge. Am nearly 40 friends all settled down or have kids etc,

I find it more and more difficult to arrange nights out whatever due to my friends commitments. For example I might ask to meet up and I will get a response along lines of coffee in six weeks times. This weekend have been alone for most of it apart from talking to shop keepers! Feel like a total loser!

Am great fun when out but is this the way it is when you get to certain age? Weekends and holidays alone. Would love to have gone to oxegen or something this weekend but no one available. I know I seem like I am being really negative but not sure how to get beyond this over whelming sense of being alone. I have found that I have been making bad choices where men are concerned due to how lonely I am feeling. Guys who use me or neglect to tell me they are in a relationship etc but am so grateful for the crumbs...then I feel so crap about myself....and so it goes

This is not how I saw my life panning out. I have joined clubs, been really sociable etc and while I meet people all seem busy with their own lives...

Anyone else feel same and any advice apart from joining clubs which have tried.

I know I am young and have a lot to offer but feel so alone at times.....

Think this can happen from thirties on... I think you should try internet dating.. some people just looking for friendship in a similar situation to you.. I know people who have tried it.. and haven't met a suitable partner yet but it gives them hope... it seems to be the way to go... these days

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Yeah I was going to suggest online dating too. There's also some website meetup.com (I think that's right) that you could find people in your area to do things with, non datey, if that's what you're looking for

Merkin

Aw, I think this can happen in your 30s when you see a lot of friends settle down and have children etc. I think one of the best solutions is to expand your social circles and make sure you have a lot of fellow unattached friends whom you can call on for company. It means that on weekends and bank holidays you have a lot of like-minded people you can call on for an impromptu lunch out or a look around the shops.

I've also heard great things about MeetUp.com so you should definitely give that a whirl too as they seem to have lots of activities. I've just had a look and they even have a dinner organised in Dublin tomorrow evening, would be as good a place as any to start!! http://www.meetup.com/cities/ie/dublin/