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Doesn't want me to know his friends...

  • 04-08-2013 12:57am
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭


    The other day myself and bf were in town. He's recently made a small group of new friends. He got a text and it turns out they were in the same area. They were literally round the corner from us and I said we should go say hi for a minute.
    I know one of the lads already so thought my bf would be like "yeah sure why not?" like he usually is but he went pale and really, really didn't want to go near them. Almost panicking at one point. This set off alarm bells in my head as we'd been having a lot of problems recently. I couldn't help feeling like something was wrong. We're together 5+ years and have kids.

    He went over then anyway and was chatting for a minute and just seemed really awkward and uncomfortable. The others seemed fine. He didn't introduce me to anyone, kept his back to me the whole time and then we just left. Totally out of character and tbh rude and annoying.

    I asked him later what was up with him and he said something about how he's worried one of his mates would "try it on" with me or some crap like that. Maybe I'm just overthinking it because things have been rocky but I can't help that it just doesn't sit right with me.

    I find it a bit strange he didn't want to go near them when he's with me but is perfectly fine when I'm not around. I'm not like that with him. I can't help thinking maybe he's hiding something...

    Honestly would this bother anyone else or should I just forget it?


Comments

  • #2
    Lorna123
    Closed Accounts Posts: 1,116 ✭✭✭Lorna123


    He could be just shy, and just didn't know how to pass himself when introducing you. That could just be all it is. Maybe if they are new friends he just doesn't want them knowing too much about him at this point in time. I would not read anymore into it tbh.


  • #3
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    I'd agree with sunflower27. You're with him five years, you know when something's not right. Ask him for a bit of honesty.


  • #4
    Meller
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 436 ✭✭Meller


    I agree with sunflower about not letting it go. However, maybe his excuse did hold some truth. Perhaps he thinks some of his new friends are more appealing to you than he is - a worry that he may be having if your relationship is rocky at the moment. You never know, maybe he thinks you'd get on well with some of them in particular and is scared of you having that opportunity. A bit silly, but there are lots of potential explanations like this that don't really make sense. It's not necessarily terrible. I would ask him again though.


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