How should I thank these folks??

StrugglingSoul

Some distant non-blood relations of mine have allowed to let me stay at a vacent house that they are in charge of. My uncle was staying there before me for free as well, but they weren't really expecting me to show up.. and when I did it was initially a temporary stay. I keep the place perectly tidy and everything, but they have been very nice to let me stay there when they didn't have to. I haven't had the time recently to even call by to them as I've been so busy and thought that this might seem a bit ignorant of me. My main question now is how should I thank them without offering them money. What should I get them? All I can think of is a bottle of wine. I know they let me take them out to dinner.. and I wouldn't really know how to do that. Any thoughts?

11Charlie11

You could get them a voucher for a nice restaurant nearby

Sh1tbag OToole

Pour petrol into their car unknown to them

handlemaster

how long have go been there rent free ?

holystungun9

Sh1tbag OToole wrote: »

Pour petrol into their car unknown to them

Into the tank preferably but I don't know how much you really like these people.

Gongoozler

Throw a party for them. Strippers, coke the lot.

pebbles21

Burn the house down ...then they can get a few quid from the insurance claim

Bob Dobolina

By squatting there until you get tenancy rights...that'll learn 'em :eek:

greedygoblin

holystungun9 wrote: »

Into the tank preferably but I don't know how much you really like these people.

And just make sure it's not a diesel.

Pj!

And if you're looking for the windscreen wipers they're in the kitchen...

kneemos

You mean I'm done taking advantage of you here's a box of chocolates?

Mr. CooL ICE

Get a DNA sample of theirs and test it against yours. Escrow them a few thousand and send them a thank you with a note saying they will get the money once the DNA results return to prove you are related. Since you are not related by blood, you get to keep the money!

If however, it comes back positive, then it means you might be inbred.

Topper Harley

Bob Dobolina wrote: »

By squatting there until you get tenancy rights...that'll learn 'em :eek:

He's not squatting if he has their permission.

kneemos

Topper Harley wrote: »

He's not squatting if he has their permission.

No it's called sponging.

Topper Harley

kneemos wrote: »

No it's called sponging.

But importantly that's not enough to gain adverse possession.

Sir Osis of Liver.

Nothing says thanks like oral.

StrugglingSoul

handlemaster wrote: »

how long have go been there rent free ?

A month

thomur

A nice card + vouchers is always good

evolving_doors

Welll maybe think of it in terms of a typical 10% tip..

Months rent X 10% = gift value

Wine seems to be the first option but I would always bypass wine for a good irish whiskey..although I don't think dewimmin generally drink whiskey!

Depends what they are into really...fishing, music, travel, food, painting..

(a good oil on canvass is usually welll received! Local artist and all that!)

Ruu

Invite them over and cook the best dinner ever!

kc90

kneemos wrote: »

You mean I'm done taking advantage of you here's a box of chocolates?

kneemos wrote: »

No it's called sponging.

Must... Not... Feed...

StrugglingSoul

I'll go with the voucher idea.. perhaps with a card

I think I've seen this show on TV.

knickerbocker

StrugglingSoul wrote: »

Some distant non-blood relations of mine have allowed to let me stay at a vacent house that they are in charge of. My uncle was staying there before me for free as well, but they weren't really expecting me to show up.. and when I did it was initially a temporary stay. I keep the place perectly tidy and everything, but they have been very nice to let me stay there when they didn't have to. I haven't had the time recently to even call by to them as I've been so busy and thought that this might seem a bit ignorant of me. My main question now is how should I thank them without offering them money. What should I get them? All I can think of is a bottle of wine. I know they let me take them out to dinner.. and I wouldn't really know how to do that. Any thoughts?

Sleep with their daughter!

hfallada

Vouchers=no thought plus a good chance the business will be bankrupt before they use them. Get them something practical that they will use and hopeful end up in the house if you use it again like decent towels.

camel jockey

hfallada wrote: »

plus a good chance the business will be bankrupt before they use them.

:rolleyes: Ever the optimist, eh?

Dublinpato

hfallada wrote: »

Vouchers=no thought plus a good chance the business will be bankrupt before they use them. Get them something practical that they will use and hopeful end up in the house if you use it again like decent towels.

I'am sorry but this made me laugh i can see it all now (Hi i just wanted to say how much it means to me for you to let me stay in you're house rent free for a month here have a towel.) Hahaha

mlumley

Wrong place to ask for advice. I'd go with a nice bunch of flowers, delivered, and a bottle of good wine.

StrugglingSoul

knickerbocker wrote: »

Sleep with their daughter!

They don't have a daughter.. just a son, and I'm a dude

kneemos

StrugglingSoul wrote: »

They don't have a daughter.. just a son, and I'm a dude

It'll really demonstrate how gratefull you are then won't it?

Weevil

Start a small garden pretending it's your hobby, and either give them the the benefits (fruit, veg, flowers etc.), or pass it on when you leave.

The Narrator

Could always get a decent size hamper or something.
Wine, whiskey, cheeses, chocolates etc.
Sure you could find some online.

JustAThought

Dublinpato wrote: »

I'am sorry but this made me laugh i can see it all now (Hi i just wanted to say how much it means to me for you to let me stay in you're house rent free for a month here have a towel.)

Same with the wine really ; it's the absolute meanest minimum you could give & will look this way. How long have you been living there rent free? Average e400 a month for minimum saved rental income. . If its a house e800. Do you think a bottle of wine will say thank you ? For someone who was happy to live off the free house made available rent free to you by " non blood non relatives" it's mean in the extreme to say you don't want to give them money. Where would you have lived if they hadn't helped you out? In a tent? In a cave? In a drop-out shelter for homeless -even they charge by the night.

Who has been paying for the gas/Lighting/annual bin charges/ etc? If not you, you should be making BIG amends /gesture to say thank you . the bills will still be coming in & will have to be paid by someone -if you're not that is.even if your "non blood non relations" are minding the house for someone questions will be asked about the level of bills incurred. Someone will have to pay for them - & quite possibly these people who you are so anxious to distance yourself from, but who you are so willing to take from.


A box of chocolates/bottle if wine by itself is not appropriate or adequate fir this level of favour. Particularly if you arrived unexpectedly & are now not engaging with them. A proper voucher would show something - that you were prepared to put yourself out financially for them - as they have for you . All for One vouchers can be used in hairdressers/gift shops/Stores etc & for many different things -sportswear , beauty spas , cloths shops etc -these would be a really good practical gift.you can buy them in the Post Office.If they are into something specific, consider a voucher or gift around that but all for one vouchers cover more & can be used by either if the people. You don't know which one was ' on your side' to let you stay hassle free.
I would give this WITH a bittle of wine /flowers and a card.


I would also make a big effort to scrupulously scrub the place down -particularly if you are the second person to be staying there for free , unexpectedly. I would be leaving it sparkling, floirs & walls in immaculate condition & smelling of roses.

Does the place Have a garden ? Lawn cut, borders dug over, hedges trimmed & bagged etc. a big job but will cost you little except a lot of effort. even if you are working this will show a big effort & that you want to say thank you & mean it.

I would also Write them and say thank you -a few lines. .. ' want you to know how much I appreciate you helping me & allowing me to stay in your house/appartment while I was sorting myself out/going through a difficult time. /etc ... I will always be extremely grateful for what you & your family have done for me .. Sincerely yours ...X"

For a month , or the month and adjoining month of hassle for them, added bills, explanations to the real owner & neighbours, & worry about you and it all, not to mention living deposit free , bill free & rent free, this would be adequate.

Thomasmartin

JustAThought wrote: »

Same with the wine really ; it's the absolute meanest minimum you could give & will look this way. How long have you been living there rent free? Average e400 a month for minimum saved rental income. . If its a house e800. Do you think a bottle of wine will say thank you ? For someone who was happy to live off the free house made available rent free to you by " non blood non relatives" it's mean in the extreme to say you don't want to give them money. Where would you have lived if they hadn't helped you out? In a tent? In a cave? In a drop-out shelter for homeless -even they charge by the night.

Who has been paying for the gas/Lighting/annual bin charges/ etc? If not you, you should be making BIG amends /gesture to say thank you . the bills will still be coming in & will have to be paid by someone -if you're not that is.even if your "non blood non relations" are minding the house for someone questions will be asked about the level of bills incurred. Someone will have to pay for them - & quite possibly these people who you are so anxious to distance yourself from, but who you are so willing to take from.


A box of chocolates/bottle if wine by itself is not appropriate or adequate fir this level of favour. Particularly if you arrived unexpectedly & are now not engaging with them. A proper voucher would show something - that you were prepared to put yourself out financially for them - as they have for you . All for One vouchers can be used in hairdressers/gift shops/Stores etc & for many different things -sportswear , beauty spas , cloths shops etc -these would be a really good practical gift.you can buy them in the Post Office.If they are into something specific, consider a voucher or gift around that but all for one vouchers cover more & can be used by either if the people. You don't know which one was ' on your side' to let you stay hassle free.
I would give this WITH a bittle of wine /flowers and a card.


I would also make a big effort to scrupulously scrub the place down -particularly if you are the second person to be staying there for free , unexpectedly. I would be leaving it sparkling, floirs & walls in immaculate condition & smelling of roses.

Does the place Have a garden ? Lawn cut, borders dug over, hedges trimmed & bagged etc. a big job but will cost you little except a lot of effort. even if you are working this will show a big effort & that you want to say thank you & mean it.

I would also Write them and say thank you -a few lines. .. ' want you to know how much I appreciate you helping me & allowing me to stay in your house/appartment while I was sorting myself out/going through a difficult time. /etc ... I will always be extremely grateful for what you & your family have done for me .. Sincerely yours ...X"

For a month , or the month and adjoining month of hassle for them, added bills, explanations to the real owner & neighbours, & worry about you and it all, not to mention living deposit free , bill free & rent free, this would be adequate.

This post was too big for me to even bother reading!

aujopimur

Sh1t in the bath when you're leaving.

Electric Sheep

Thomasmartin wrote: »

This post was too big for me to even bother reading!

You are probably the sort of ass who would stay there for months, wreck the place, and call it .."Craic"

Thomasmartin

Electric Sheep wrote: »

You are probably the sort of ass who would stay there for months, wreck the place, and call it .."Craic"

Wha? I'm just hungover!

infidel_hassan

holystungun9 wrote: »

Into the tank preferably but I don't know how much you really like these people.

hahaha. i actually thought holystungun means burn their car. thanks for clarifying. the dinner would be nice, just them, but that would obviously involve money. it's not cash, at least.

thomur

hfallada wrote: »

Vouchers=no thought plus a good chance the business will be bankrupt before they use them. Get them something practical that they will use and hopeful end up in the house if you use it again like decent towels.

Towels, u must have thought about that for ages. How about a toaster wrapped in towels

donegal_road

OP, what you could do is clear out an area of the garden and assemble some raised beds for vegetable gardening. For this you would need some wood, scaffold planks would be perfect as they are deep enough, and easy to acquire.
Then get some bags of compost, mix it with soil.. there must be some nearby, and horse manure if you can get any. Leave them ready to be planted for next year. Then paint the house.. you can get bargains on paint at the minute if you shop/ask around.

thisonetaken

aujopimur wrote: »

Sh1t in the bath when you're leaving.

and steal the lightbulbs

wazky

thisonetaken wrote: »

and steal the lightbulbs

Cling film over the toilet bowl then.

StrugglingSoul

JustAThought wrote: »

Same with the wine really ; it's the absolute meanest minimum you could give & will look this way. How long have you been living there rent free? Average e400 a month for minimum saved rental income. . If its a house e800. Do you think a bottle of wine will say thank you ? For someone who was happy to live off the free house made available rent free to you by " non blood non relatives" it's mean in the extreme to say you don't want to give them money. Where would you have lived if they hadn't helped you out? In a tent? In a cave? In a drop-out shelter for homeless -even they charge by the night.

Who has been paying for the gas/Lighting/annual bin charges/ etc? If not you, you should be making BIG amends /gesture to say thank you . the bills will still be coming in & will have to be paid by someone -if you're not that is.even if your "non blood non relations" are minding the house for someone questions will be asked about the level of bills incurred. Someone will have to pay for them - & quite possibly these people who you are so anxious to distance yourself from, but who you are so willing to take from.


A box of chocolates/bottle if wine by itself is not appropriate or adequate fir this level of favour. Particularly if you arrived unexpectedly & are now not engaging with them. A proper voucher would show something - that you were prepared to put yourself out financially for them - as they have for you . All for One vouchers can be used in hairdressers/gift shops/Stores etc & for many different things -sportswear , beauty spas , cloths shops etc -these would be a really good practical gift.you can buy them in the Post Office.If they are into something specific, consider a voucher or gift around that but all for one vouchers cover more & can be used by either if the people. You don't know which one was ' on your side' to let you stay hassle free.
I would give this WITH a bittle of wine /flowers and a card.


I would also make a big effort to scrupulously scrub the place down -particularly if you are the second person to be staying there for free , unexpectedly. I would be leaving it sparkling, floirs & walls in immaculate condition & smelling of roses.

Does the place Have a garden ? Lawn cut, borders dug over, hedges trimmed & bagged etc. a big job but will cost you little except a lot of effort. even if you are working this will show a big effort & that you want to say thank you & mean it.

I would also Write them and say thank you -a few lines. .. ' want you to know how much I appreciate you helping me & allowing me to stay in your house/appartment while I was sorting myself out/going through a difficult time. /etc ... I will always be extremely grateful for what you & your family have done for me .. Sincerely yours ...X"

For a month , or the month and adjoining month of hassle for them, added bills, explanations to the real owner & neighbours, & worry about you and it all, not to mention living deposit free , bill free & rent free, this would be adequate.

I'll get round to reading this.. I actually will. But I'm just home from a hard days work and it's just not what my short attention is looking for right now

StrugglingSoul

donegal_road wrote: »

OP, what you could do is clear out an area of the garden and assemble some raised beds for vegetable gardening. For this you would need some wood, scaffold planks would be perfect as they are deep enough, and easy to acquire.
Then get some bags of compost, mix it with soil.. there must be some nearby, and horse manure if you can get any. Leave them ready to be planted for next year. Then paint the house.. you can get bargains on paint at the minute if you shop/ask around.

I'm wondering whether or not you're joking..

donegal_road

StrugglingSoul wrote: »

I'm wondering whether or not you're joking..

not joking.. maybe painting the house might be a bit of a stretch, you could do one or the other of those things.

grizzly

Thomasmartin wrote: »

This post was too big for me to even bother reading!

You'd hate books then.

StrugglingSoul

thomur wrote: »

A nice card + vouchers is always good

Should I just give the voucher to them in hand? or would it be cocky to just leave it in the letter box.. in case they mightn't accept it. It would just be awkward if they didn't accept it.

ardle1

StrugglingSoul wrote: »

Some distant non-blood relations of mine have allowed to let me stay at a vacent house that they are in charge of. My uncle was staying there before me for free as well, but they weren't really expecting me to show up.. and when I did it was initially a temporary stay. I keep the place perectly tidy and everything, but they have been very nice to let me stay there when they didn't have to. I haven't had the time recently to even call by to them as I've been so busy and thought that this might seem a bit ignorant of me. My main question now is how should I thank them without offering them money. What should I get them? All I can think of is a bottle of wine. I know they let me take them out to dinner.. and I wouldn't really know how to do that. Any thoughts?

Pay them a visit and tell them in no uncertain terms how grateful you are for their hospitality and you've been wondering how to repay them,THATS IT.. they sound like lovely people and people like that never expect anything. FOR REAL

Norwesterner

kneemos wrote: »

No it's called sponging.

Maybe the owners are happy to have them there, as an empty house invites thieves, squatters, wild animals, dampness, wear and neglect and vandals....
Heck, maybe the owners should be thanking him.
i've an empty house and would love some trusted person to live in it.

thomur

StrugglingSoul wrote: »

Should I just give the voucher to them in hand? or would it be cocky to just leave it in the letter box.. in case they mightn't accept it. It would just be awkward if they didn't accept it.

I'd give them by hand mate. It's hard to refuse vouchers as they have already been bought. One for all vouchers from the post office are good

StrugglingSoul

I've gotten the voucher for $60 but it's gotten a little more awkward because I haven't seen them in a while and every time I call, they're out or going to bed or something. I should made more of an effort to call in while they were there. The next time I see them I'll probably be in a rush and I'm afraid it will look like.. 'Hi, I don't give a **** about socialising with you, I just want to give you this to settle the score! Buy now'. Tomorrow's my last chance