Changing wedding church and priest

winterwonder

Hi,

Does anyone have amy experience of cancelling a wedding in a church and booking it in a different church with less than 3 months to go after signing all the registration details? I will ring the office today but just wondering if anyone has ever had to do this? Basically we have a lot of family issues, people not talking etc and feel it would be less stressful to just get married on our own that day and still have the reception, the church we booked is a local church and really big so we would need to change to a different one, any advice would be gratefully accepted!

Thanks

pwurple

No experience of that with less than 3 months to go... but just wanted to say, please be careful. Excluding your whole family from your wedding is a very big decision and will be remembered for the rest of your lives.

lazygal

I'm not sure I'd recommend such drastic action, but any details such as witnesses and registered solemnizer, legal venue can be changed up until the wedding date that's been registered.

solerina

I have just looked at my marriage registration form...we are getting married soon...and there is space on the second page to write in any changes you need to make to whats on the actual form...our registrar expained that you just write in any changes that you need to make (she mentioned its common that priest or witness might change...not all details but there are plenty of lines so you could prob work away on your original form).

winterwonder

I just rang them today and they said we could change it on the last sheet like ye said, I know it's a bit drastic but we feel its not worth the stress the wedding day will bring, some of his family don't see eye to eye, my father passed away since the date was booked and since then I don't talk to all of my family either, mother especially, just kinda realised it at my hen night when they didn't come, I just feel its easier for everyone, we still want a religious ceremony but just ourselves and two witnesses, and then a celebration in the hotel a few days after where there will be no top table or awkward moments, any feed back positive or negative would be greatly appreciated as I don't want to rush on without being certain

lazygal

I'd try to think ahead to ten year's time and whether you'll regret not having family and friends share your day.

Jerrica

winterwonder it's you and your husband-to-be's day. If things aren't great with the family and you think you guys would be better doing it on your own, then roll with it. The only two people who's opinions you need to concern yourselves with are yours. In all likelihood people WILL be upset, but if you can make peace with that in yourself beforehand then go for it. You can always do a second celebration a couple of years down the line when things settle down.