The Liberation of Leaving Facebook

lufties

So I decided to deactivate my facebook account nearly 3 months ago, and must say it has had a positive effect on my life. To me, It always felt strange knowing the fine details of what is going on in my 'friends' lives, most of whom I hadn't seen or been in correspondance for years.

These days I prefer my friends to be anonymous :-D

Anyone else have a similar sentiment?

Prodigious

I've been off it nearly a year now. Can't wait to get the 12 month coin.

Duff

Nah, I love having a creep on photos and being a general nosy fúck.

KeithM89

How else are you gonna find out people you havent seen in years are having a cup of tea and watching Emmerdale??

Is this the new "Oh I don't own a TV!"?

humanji

I don't f**k chickens, but you don't hear me bragging about it.

lufties

Keith wrote: »

How else are you gonna find out people you havent seen in years are having a cup of tea and watching Emmerdale??

true, i'm really gonna miss knowing about what weather's doing since I have no windows in my house

mikom

lufties wrote: »

So I decided to deactivate my facebook account nearly 3 months ago, and must say it has had a positive effect on my life. To me, It always felt strange knowing the fine details of what is going on in my 'friends' lives, most of whom I hadn't seen or been in correspondance for years.

These days I prefer my friends to be anonymous :-D

Anyone else have a similar sentiment?

I have many leatherbound photo albums, and my profile smells of rich mahogany.

lufties

Deleted User wrote: »

Is this the new "Oh I don't own a TV!"?

no....no is isn't

December2012

lufties wrote: »

So I decided to deactivate my facebook account nearly 3 months ago, and must say it has had a positive effect on my life. To me, It always felt strange knowing the fine details of what is going on in my 'friends' lives, most of whom I hadn't seen or been in correspondance for years.

These days I prefer my friends to be anonymous :-D

Anyone else have a similar sentiment?

If you hadn't seen them or been in correspondence with them in years, why were you Facebook friends with them?

Vito Corleone

I've never ever had a Facebook account. :cool:

/hipster

lufties

December2012 wrote: »

If you hadn't seen them or been in correspondence with them in years, why were you Facebook friends with them?[/QUOTE

just one example would be old school mates adding you and not making any contact afterwards.

Sh1tbag OToole

lufties wrote: »

true, i'm really gonna miss knowing about what weather's doing since I have no windows in my house

I havnt had windows in my house for years!

I use linux now.

Sir Osis of Liver.

Vito Corleone wrote: »

I've never ever had a Facebook account. :cool:

Me neither,preferring to stay under the radar.

bodice ripper

I love facebook. I do want to know what people I know are up to. Particularly since I emigrated. Also, it brings me a lot of business. You must have been doing it wrong OP.

December2012

lufties wrote: »

December2012 wrote: »

If you hadn't seen them or been in correspondence with them in years, why were you Facebook friends with them?[/QUOTE

just one example would be old school mates adding you and not making any contact afterwards.

But then you can block / delete them. There are correct ways to use these tools to see what you want.

Anyway OP, congratulations?

gugleguy

So what sort of stigma should be attached to those of us who live life without facebook? We the unenlightened ones. Is it a new kind of illitiracy not to be on facebook?

lufties

December2012 wrote: »

lufties wrote: »

But then you can block / delete them. There are correct ways to use these tools to see what you want.

Anyway OP, congratulations?

I'm just giving my opinion and wondered if anyone else had a similar experience, no need to congratulate me

humbert

Congratulations on abandoning a free easy way to stay in touch with people you seldom see that you have absolutely no obligation to ever sign into or be bothered by.

XxMCRxBabyxX

There's one thing worse than the annoying idiots on Facebook.

The ones that yhink they're so great for leaving Facebook and telling everyone about the "freedom" of it.

RedSeven7

I deleted my account last October, and it took me all day to find the "Delete" account button, as opposed to "deactivate."
My account was deactivated for the first 2 weeks and after that deleted permanently.
So if you went back on within the 2 weeks it was back to normal.
What's the point of even deactivating it, when you can just log in at any time??

Why do they make it so difficult to delete your account?
Why is facebook so sneaky?


Facebook is taking over the world and I do not like it! :cool:

There were about three parties this year that I didn't get invited to because facebook events were used and I wasn't available to put on the list!! How sad is that?
Or maybe they just didn't want me there :pac:

thee glitz

I have a facepage but barely use it. I've under 50 friends on it
and I get a nice email reminding me of their birthdays.
It'd save the day if I ever lost my phone, though I could just back up my contacts. It doesn't bother me as I'm not addicted to it. If I was, I'd consider leaving it.

lufties

humbert wrote: »

Congratulations on abandoning a free easy way to stay in touch with people you seldom see that you have absolutely no obligation to ever sign into or be bothered by.

thanks, but i've been using whatsapp for free communicating with friends,:rolleyes: cuts out the bullsh!t and nosey people.

LizT

lufties wrote: »

thanks, but i've been using whatsapp for free communicating with friends,:rolleyes: cuts out the bullsh!t and nosey people.

Nosey people? They can only see what you decide to put up... And there are plenty of ways to block them from seeing your pictures, statuses etc.

I love Facebook, great way of keeping in contact with friends abroad.

lufties

LizT wrote: »

Nosey people? They can only see what you decide to put up... And there are plenty of ways to block them from seeing your pictures, statuses etc.

I love Facebook, great way of keeping in contact with friends abroad.

Yes Liz, nosey people, snooping through photos etc...I keep in touch with friends through other means.

XxMCRxBabyxX

lufties wrote: »

Yes Liz, nosey people, snooping through photos etc...I keep in touch with friends through other means.

Photos that you made public and allowed them to see...

Vito Corleone

When I was a kid we'd write letters to our friends, I wonder do today's youth even know what a letter is. :pac:

RedSeven7

I think facebook is handy if you're not addicted and only use it now and again to keep in touch with real friends or show pictures to family abroad etc.

But for young people I think it's really awful. A lot of my friends are on it day in day out, even at lunch in school you'd be trying to have a conversation and they're completely engrossed in their mobile phone screens, and it does my head in!!

Also, I think it can be really damaging to young girls' self esteem.
My younger sister, for example, is fourteen; she and all her friends take dozens of pictures of themselves when they're going to the "GAA disco" or even just outside on the streets or whatever, and then they edit them on some website (photomonkey? I'm not sure)
anyway, then they upload them to facebook and see how many "likes" they can get.
My sister won't change her profile picture until it gets 100 likes! It's ridiculous.


And a lot of the time she'd show me pictures of her so-called friends and comment on each and every one
Ew
State of her hair
She has acne
That ones alright I suppose
Etc. -_-

All of their lives revolve around facebook, it's gone too far and over the top, so I suppose for those reasons I think it would be brilliant if more and more young people deleted their facebook accounts for good Or until they're older and get sense

^ Well that was longer than I planned :pac:

KeithM89

Vito Corleone wrote: »

When I was a kid we'd write letters to our friends, I wonder do today's youth even know what a letter is. :pac:

Arent you about 14?

Cee-Jay-Cee

I am glad to announce that I live a balanced and healthy life. I see my friends regularly and have a good social life yet I still manage to hold a Facebook account without feeling the need to reveal my every thought or read anyone else's for that matter. I pity those who aren't capable of doing the same, who become so engrossed in it and are so weak that they feel the need to actually deactivate their account rather than just not fucking using it so much!

lufties

XxMCRxBabyxX wrote: »

Photos that you made public and allowed them to see...

ok do I really have to explain in detail? you add photos, and you have 200 odd friends..most of whom you rarely ever contact. Regarding blocking/hiding them from people is too much hassle. I just simple found better ways of keeping in touch with my friends, simple as that.

Facebook is also a haven for attention seekers and people that I thought were sound in real life turned out to be super annoying on fb.

humbert

lufties wrote: »

thanks, but i've been using whatsapp for free communicating with friends,:rolleyes: cuts out the bullsh!t and nosey people.

I don't mean communication I mean maintaining a connection with people who for long periods you have no reason to communicate with. Facebook allows you to casually comment on an interesting photo or wish them happy birthday or see that they will be in a similar part of the world to you and suggest meeting up. People who you would otherwise completely lose contact with. Without any ongoing commitment at all.

lufties

humbert wrote: »

I don't mean communication I mean maintaining a connection with people who for long periods you have no reason to communicate with. Facebook allows you to casually comment on an interesting photo or wish them happy birthday or see that they will be in a similar part of the world to you and suggest meeting up. People who you would otherwise completely lose contact with. Without any ongoing commitment at all.

Is that you Mr Zuckerberg? we are just gonna have to agree to disagree on that one i'm afraid. if I want to get in touch with a friend I will.

LizT

lufties wrote: »

Yes Liz, nosey people, snooping through photos etc...I keep in touch with friends through other means.

Don't put up pictures if you don't want people to see them...
Or defriend the people you don't want looking at them.

ILikeFriday

Does defriending not cause offence? Are there not people who, broadly speaking you would like to stay on good terms with, but do not want having full details of your personal life, when others contact you or put up pictures of you.

goz83

Thinly veiled "i have an iPhone" thread

Femme_Fatale

Facebook is completely what you make it. I think it's great. None of the pitfalls are forced on people.

I agree with the person who said it's not great for young teens though. Thank fuk I was in my late 20s when it started. I'd say it causes problems for people up to at least 25.

humbert

ILikeFriday wrote: »

Does defriending not cause offence? Are there not people who, broadly speaking you would like to stay on good terms with, but do not want having full details of your personal life, when others contact you or put up pictures of you.

The privacy options are highly customisable. E.g. you can create a list, say "People who think I'm vegetarian" and exclude them from any posts/pictures of you tucking into a nice juicy steak.

ILikeFriday

humbert wrote: »

The privacy options are highly customisable. E.g. you can create a list, say "People who think I'm vegetarian" and exclude them from any posts/pictures of you tucking into a nice juicy steak.

Fair enough, but it sounds like too much work for me on a social site. What if X tells Y she saw on facebook that you're doing such and such. Y is also your facebook friend but she didn't see this. She knows she's been kept out of the loop on that one.

I used Facebook for a good while, felt a bit overwhelmed by pictures of people's dinners, duckface photo's and useless information. I felt too obligated to add people I really didn't care about, and too bad about defriending people. When I'd talk to people in person or on the phone they'd remark on something I'd supposed to have seen so I felt I couldn't block them. One day I got a message from someone I'd left behind for very good reason, and that was it. I realised the people that matter to me are in constant contact anyway without it. I deleted it, it just didn't suit me.

Time reclaimed, offence averted, obligation to comment on nonsense removed, don't miss it.

Flawless victory.

MonkstownHoop

ILikeFriday wrote: »

Fair enough, but it sounds like too much work for me on a social site. What if X tells Y she saw on facebook that you're doing such and such. Y is also your facebook friend but she didn't see this. She knows she's been kept out of the loop on that one.

Y now knows her place in your social circle and should act accordingly

my my my

Deleted User wrote: »

Is this the new "Oh I don't own a TV!"?

is that a question?

RedSeven7

humbert wrote: »

pictures of you tucking into a nice juicy steak.

What has the world come to! :pac:

humbert

ILikeFriday wrote: »

Fair enough, but it sounds like too much work for me on a social site. What if X tells Y she saw on facebook that you're doing such and such. Y is also your facebook friend but she didn't see this. She knows she's been kept out of the loop on that one.

Well I'm male so my social circumstances just don't get that complicated but I'll agree that aggregating your friends and associates from different circles is sometimes less than ideal and would probably be my main problem with social networks in general.

The little nerdy guy from 4chan gave a good talk on how we are different people in different situations/environments and how it would be better if social networks reflected this better/at all.

For Forks Sake

RedSeven7 wrote: »

What has the world come to! :pac:

If that bothered you, don't ever sign up for Instagram

LizT

ILikeFriday wrote: »

Fair enough, but it sounds like too much work for me on a social site. What if X tells Y she saw on facebook that you're doing such and such. Y is also your facebook friend but she didn't see this. She knows she's been kept out of the loop on that one.

Do you honestly care?

bnt

Is it better to have Facebooked and left, than never to have Facebooked at all? I guess I will never know ... :cool:

Legs.Eleven

I simply cut down my usage. I use it mainly to meet up with large groups of people via PM, to share photos, stick up stupid status updates that my parents (god bless them) love and to see what family and friends are up to at home. Dappled with the idea of deleting it a few times but the cutting down on usage was a better move for me.

mackg

Femme_Fatale wrote: »

Facebook is completely what you make it. I think it's great. None of the pitfalls are forced on people.

I agree with the person who said it's not great for young teens though. Thank fuk I was in my late 20s when it started. I'd say it causes problems for people up to at least 25.

The problems for younger people that are associated with it were always there just so happens that that facebook is the modern format for this kind of stuff. Before it was camera phones, before that phones, before that the walls in the toilets in school.

I'm not a whole lot older than my teenage nephews and they talk fairly openly with me about that craic and it sounds like there isn't a huge difference between now and when I was their age and in turn between that and when their moms were that age.

I'm not a massive user but think facebook is great. Even just getting to see photos of the lads in Austrailia instead of them landing back having lost all of them.

April O Neill

I like Facebook.

April O Neill

RedSeven7 wrote: »

I deleted my account last October, and it took me all day to find the "Delete" account button, as opposed to "deactivate."
My account was deactivated for the first 2 weeks and after that deleted permanently.
So if you went back on within the 2 weeks it was back to normal.
What's the point of even deactivating it, when you can just log in at any time??

Why do they make it so difficult to delete your account?
Why is facebook so sneaky?

It took less than a minute for me to figure out how my boyfriend could permanently delete his account.

If it took you all day to do, the problem is you, not Facebook.

As for the two week thing... just don't log in for 2 weeks...