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False Hope - Help!

  • 17-07-2013 3:28pm
    #1
    Mmm Bop
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 14 ✭


    My O/H and I have been going out for the past 18 months. In this short space of time we split up a couple of times for one main reason, his Ex and how she influenced the kids...
    Despite me firmly believing that we both love eachother, things just got too much for one or other of us and we walked. But we got back together with him making bigger and better promises for the future.

    Then a couple of weeks ago as things are slowly beginning to settle down with his Ex he decides he doesn't want to be with me, and wants to take time and build a relationship with the kids without all the rowing that had been going on because I was on the scene. I was gutted, but felt that I couldn't ask him to choose so I moved aside quietly.

    So Friday gone, after missing him like crazy and trying my best not to, I phone him. Figuring that if he doesn't want to speak to me he can just not answer. We chat generally for a while and when I go to hang up he says "sure I'll phone you later" to which I reply "you don't have to, I was only calling to say hello - but do whatever you want". I can't cut the contact, but had no hope of initiating anything other than maybe a casual call now and again.

    After loads of calls where he tells me he's missing me, wants me back and makes big promises for the future we meet up on Sunday (hopes completely raised). Spend Sunday, Monday and Tuesday together. I don't bring up the us situation - don't want to rock the boat. He keeps at the I was a fool to let you go, I don't want to be without you in my life etc to which I roll my eyes slightly because I've heard it all before and this time I need action. I need to mention I'm absolutely crazy about this guy - or maybe just crazy!

    Onto last night as we were going our seperate ways I ask what now? Thinking I was going to get all the talk of the weekend backed up with definite plans for the future - I get "I REALLY DON'T KNOW WHAT I WANT"
    I didn't ask for any of the promises or false hope, I can't believe that someone that knows me inside out would deliberately set me up for a fall like this again.

    My problem is, where do I go from here??? Is there anything I can do or say? I have tried the giving him time and space bit, but eachtime seems to take us further apart and take a little bit of me with it.
    Am I been ridiculous looking for an explanation from him?


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  • #2
    Lovetochill
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 40 ✭Lovetochill


    If I were you. I wouldn't look for any explanation from him. There is nothing you can do and say. Its his place now to show you that he cares if he still wants to be with you. He is clearly not ready to commit. He told you he doesn't know what he wants. I'd just leave him alone and get on with my life. You shouldn't contact him again. Go out and date others, if you meet someone in the mean time, its great, if not, you should still be happy living your life. Don't wait for this man to commit because he might never will. If he contacted you again, let him improve how committed he is to you this time before falling back to him. If the guy really wanted you, he wouldn't have pushed you away like that.

    Say nothing, cut contact and try to move on.


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