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  • 17-07-2013 2:19pm
    #1
    LegacyUser
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    So.. I was single for just over 2 years before I met my current partner. It suited me to be single then as I was finishing up in college. I've been with the current partner a bit under 2 years now. I always said I didn't particularly want children, or necessarily to marry, but then I met him and that changed and after we got together I'd have gotten married and started a family at the drop of a hat.

    Since then, things have cooled off a little and I'm just feeling at a loss as to what I want to do. There's a part of me that is trying to plan for the future, and how I'm going to provide for my future kids as best I can and set myself up in a good area and good job etc etc. Then there's the other side of me where I would like to just head off on my own and do my own thing and I think I'm reverting to the status of couldn't be bothered with kids. They're nice, but nice to hand them back to their parents...

    I also don't feel as passionately as before about the relationship. I still love and adore him, but there are a few "but"s. I'm not sure it's necessary to get into them here. I was away by myself recently (work related) and pottered about on my own and was thinking how much I enjoyed it. Yet at the same time I'd be devastated if our relationship ended.

    There's nothing hugely wrong with our relationship - a few things aren't hugely right either, bit on the whole it's fine. Yet I find myself wondering if I'm just better suited to a life doing my own thing by myself.


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  • #2
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    Seems like you are mid 20s? Maybe early?

    I don't think you have to make decisions re marriage and children now or anytime soon. If the time is right you will know.

    Regarding doing your own thing, I don't think you can get any advice from here that will help that much. It's up to you what you want to deep down. What is it exactly you want to do on your own? Travel? Meet other guys? Are the things you refer to maybe things you could actually do with your bf?

    It sounds like you might be just a bit bored, in need of something new in your life, which doesn't necessarily mean that has to be without your bf.


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