Losing interest in Socialising

Iano_128

Has anyone ever had that before? I used to love going out and socialising, now it's kind of a mix between daunting and just something I really have no motivation/interest to do..

sashafierce

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ivytwine

Did something bad happen on a night out recently?

It might be just age, find I prefer meeting up with people over a few quiet drinks as opposed to clubs or mad house parties, we can actually talk and catch up that way...

YbFocus

Yeah I'm the same op, only 24 and like having a few at the house or a bbq or something.
A pub is Ok the odd time but I hate clubs.

Faith+1

YbFocus wrote: »

Yeah I'm the same op, only 24 and like having a few at the house or a bbq or something.
A pub is Ok the odd time but I hate clubs.

Im the same op. I used to love clubs/socialising but i think as u get older you just like things that extra bit quieter. Im 28.

Boofle

I definitely think it can come with age - I'm 28 and have lost a lot of interest in going to nightclubs but I still go the odd time!

I definitely prefer a few drinks and a catch up in a nice pub with friends. But then again I have friends who are ten years older than me and they love getting out at the weekend and going clubbing - dragging me along with them!

Stavro Mueller

YbFocus wrote: »

Yeah I'm the same op, only 24 and like having a few at the house or a bbq or something.
A pub is Ok the odd time but I hate clubs.

There's nothing wrong with hating nightclubs. I never liked them really and over time my friends got fed up of them as well (thankfully!). There are other outlets to socialise and it looks like you're about to become a recluse yet. You're mentioning BBQs, having a few at the house or going to the pub.

LegacyUser

i had this feeling when i was about 19, i only really socialised drunk and ended up drinking a lot and ended up with bad hangovers, so i quit, once i quit i realised i didnt relaly have any interest in socialising so i just stayed at home but that ended up with my becoming a recluse and getting serious social anxiety and unemployed for years.

So ehh, even if u dont like it, you should still socialize, but just do it for an hour or 2 make your excuses and leave. Thats the advice my mom gave me. I just wish id actually take it, i just avoid every social event now. and i mean everything.

You're probably normal so this might not happen to you i just thought id share.

LegacyUser

I felt I had to post here because I wanted to warn you about something. I got fed up of clubbing around your age and had that same daunting feeling you described. Unfortunately because I stopped going out with my friends to the clubs they stopped asking and my social life more or less ground to a halt. It didn't bother me at the time but long-term it did me no good. Just be careful, OK? I wish I'd been given the advice that I'm seeing here now - always socialise and go even if only for an hour or two.

Iano_128

Thanks everyone for your posts...

Nothing specific happened, but I did get with a girl around 10-11 months ago, and my best friends girlfriend and her don't get along, so we're seeing less and less of eachother and I don't really know how to sort it out! I don't see the 2 of them ever getting on regardless of what we do, and unfortunately, she doesn't really let him out without her (that's a different story though).

I'm glad to see that other people are having this problem anyway because I used to love going to social events, now sometimes I kind of feel daunted by all the socialising, although once I get there I'm fine, tis a bit weird.