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  • 13-07-2013 6:39pm
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭


    I broke up with my boyfriend of five years a few weeks ago. Until now I believed (most of the time) that I had done the right thing. There hasn't been any contact since the breakup, which is probably for the best. We were actually getting along well in the months leading up to it but we had had problems before that and I was afraid we couldn't have a stable future together. Our routines, careers, educational goals and life plans are too different. He works nights, I work days, and I want to be able to travel more in the future, but not without the person I'm going out with/married to. He can't/won't do that. We're both in our early thirties and I couldn't spend any more time hoping things would change.

    I have been tying hard to keep busy and I haven't had too many bad days, but today I feel like I've been punched in the stomach. He was my best friend and I miss him, but we can't be friends for a long time. Any advice on how I might be able to make getting through this a bit easier?


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  • #2
    Emm511
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 46 ✭Emm511


    Hi OP

    You obviously put a lot of thought into the break up before it happened and as you said you both wanted different things with your future. You need to remember this and the reasons you broke up. I was in a similar position last year when my 6 year realationship eneded and as busy as I tried to keep myself there where times it was very hard. I went on holiday alone the first few days wre difficult but I was determined to enjoy myself and meet new people and I did get out there and met some amazing people and slowly things started to change for me. I didn't miss my ex as much or our routine and it was good to meet new people who weren't used to me being in a relationship people that only knew me as single and happy. Try new things something that you always wanted to di but never could


  • #3
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    Thanks for your reply. I made the mistake of watching a film earlier that didn't help my plight but I felt better as the day went on! The first thing I wanted to do when we broke up was to get out of the country for a bit. It wasn't possible straight away for various reasons but I've booked a working holiday in a country I always wanted to visit for next week and I think it will make a big difference. You're right too that I need to keep remembering the reasons why it's over and avoid idealising something that was far from ideal.


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