Return gift?

Delta_Raven1

long story short, was seeing someone for a few months and became quite attched, it's over now and i quite disappointed, i want to move on, she gave me a pair of boxing shorts which are of much use to me, i havent used them yet, however i feel they'll serve as a permanent reminder of her, should i give them back? my mates reckon i should keep them an use them as motivation.

TL;DR - got shorts, remind me of her, what should i do?

Thanks!!

Aint Eazy Being Cheezy

Use them as motivation for what?

I wouldn't send them back to her. If they bother you that much, throw them out.

Delta_Raven1

Motivation to improve myself, she was quite the looker an always felt I wasn't good enough for her. Throw them out? Didn't think of that, maybe I should just man up an get over it, thanks for the reply:)

judgefudge

It was a gift, and a useful one at that, so don't through them out. You'll be over her in a month or two so just keep them and use them then!

ivytwine

Seriously what do you think she's gonna do with a pair of opened (presumably) boxer shorts????

I know it's painful when a present reminds you of an ex, but it's just a neutral object when you get down to it.

I don't get the motivation thing either unless you're gonna make them your lucky pants!!

Stavro Mueller

ivytwine wrote: »

Seriously what do you think she's gonna do with a pair of opened (presumably) boxer shorts????

I know it's painful when a present reminds you of an ex, but it's just a neutral object when you get down to it.

I don't get the motivation thing either unless you're gonna make them your lucky pants!!

This post made me laugh!

Seriously though, they're only a pair of boxer shorts. We're not talking tattoos or expensive jewellery here. She's not going to want them back and all it will do is make you look like you're throwing your toys out of the pram. If you can't bring yourself to wear them, either throw them out or give them to someone.

As for motivation, that's utter bull. Don't run yourself down because you feel your ex was out of your league. It's never good if you feel you're not good enough for someone. Girls who are "lookers' are human too.

Czarcasm

Boxing shorts lads, not boxer shorts...

OP I don't think you should look at keeping them as motivation to "improve" yourself. If that's the way you're thinking - throw them away now. As judgefudge said, you'll be over this girl soon and the shorts will be just like any other keepsake.

I like to pretend I'm not a sentimental old bastard and all, but yeah, I've gotten presents over the years from friends that both of us have moved on since and I still have them, every so often just reminds me of that person and the good times we shared together.

The feelings are just a bit raw for you at the moment, but in time that'll pass.

She Who Dares Wins

They probably will be reminder you dont need, but why waste them, put them on donedeal or ebay and make a few quid out of them.

jantheman91

ryan91 wrote: »

Motivation to improve myself, she was quite the looker an always felt I wasn't good enough for her. Throw them out? Didn't think of that, maybe I should just man up an get over it, thanks for the reply:)

Therein lies your problem.

Don't even think you're not good enough for someone.

Work on building up your self-esteem in future because its highly important.

Very hard to expect someone to accept you if you can't accept yourself.

Throw them out and move on.

December2012

Give them to a charity shop.

Feel good about yourself and work on your confidence.

Motivate yourself by all means, but do it for you.

missjm

Hilarious thread. I thought boxer shorts also and was wondering how I'd react if one of my ex's had sent me back a pair of boxer shorts. LOL