Am I over-reacting?

Bummppd

Hi all, Advice and views much appreciated.. So my boyf and I have been together nearly three years and we have a five month old son. I just recently heard that he said to this other girl that we both know that he thought something was going to happen between them, only she got with her current boyf. This conversation happened when our son was about two months old. Numerous rows followed and I even went as far as saying that I didn't want to be with him anymore. I did calm down and we're still together, But I can't forget about it, and I can't help feeling hurt that he could totally dismiss me like that and basically tell her that he fancies her, like what else does it mean? Don't get me wrong, I understand that he'll look at other girls and think they're pretty and what-not but to actually say something like that to someone when you have a girlfriend I think is crossing a line!? Am I completely over-reacting? What yiz tink??

Meller

What did he say to you when you confronted him and argued about it? Did he deny it, apologise, explain etc.?

Did this girl get with her current boyfriend recently, or did he mean something was going to happen with them long before you two were together...?

Bummppd

Meller wrote: »

What did he say to you when you confronted him and argued about it? Did he deny it, apologise, explain etc.?

Did this girl get with her current boyfriend recently, or did he mean something was going to happen with them long before you two were together...?

He apologized profusely, and said he had a few drinks and just said something stupid without thinking, Which I don't really believe. No, we were together before she started seeing her boyf.

Lorna123

I would just put it down to drink, no more. We often say stupid things when we have drink taken. Men have the flirting gene and with a few drinks they can say things they wouldn't normally say. So if I were you I would forget about this and get on with your relationship.

Bummppd

Lorna123 wrote: »

I would just put it down to drink, no more. We often say stupid things when we have drink taken. Men have the flirting gene and with a few drinks they can say things they wouldn't normally say. So if I were you I would forget about this and get on with your relationship.

Thanks, I think you may be right, I really don't believe he'd ever cheat on me, I just feel hurt and let down more than anything. The other thing is that I've become so insecure and paranoid since it happened and I was never that type of person. But yeah I think as hard as I find it I should just let it go. Thanks again.

king_of_inismac

I'm afraid I don't agree with previous posters.

I don't think having a few drinks entitles you to tell another woman that'd you'd be with her if she was single. That's beyond flirting in my opinion.

For me, this would be *very* close to a deal-breaker. Either leave him, or make him understand how serious this issue actually is.

Lorna123

Having a few drinks doesn't entitle you to do anything but it often happens after a few drinks that you can say stupid stuff and stuff you don't mean. If the OPs b/f does this on a regular basis it would not be acceptable but for this once I would give him the benefit of the drink.

JenEffy

If it was my boyfriend I definitely couldn't forgive that. If you think you can forgive him then give it a go. It's obviously complicated by the fact that ye have a child. If you don't think you can get over it then you should leave him, because there's no point in having the same argument over and over again.