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Divorce but money issues

  • 01-07-2013 7:47pm
    #1
    LegacyUser
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    Hi guys,

    I am a regular poster on boards however, due to the issue I'm addressing in this thread I wish to remain anonymous. For many years my parents have been in a corrupt marriage. By many years I mean 24+, by corrupt I mean mental, emotional and physical abuse. My father has inflicted such abuse on not only my siblings and I but also my mother.

    We have asked my mother to divorce this monster of a man as long as I can remember. For a short period they did separate however, due to my mothers lack of money she had to take him back. My mother does have a full time job in the public service, however by the time she pays for food and other necessities there's nothing left so paying rent isn't in the equation.

    My question is, is there any financial support for my mother to free herself from this miserable life? Is there any law that would force my father to have a financial contribution for the 3 kids? (2/3 are in full time education but are 18 and up now). My father is a very wealthy man, however it is HIS money not OUR families money, he only pays for a small amount of the bills while my mother pays for everything else despite her very low salary. My father would be earning well over €60,000 a year.


    please give as much information and input as possible, I hope there is an escape from this miserable life.


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  • #2
    daisybelle2008
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 2,403 ✭✭✭daisybelle2008


    OP, this is clearly stressful for you. But your mother is a grown woman with a full time job. The 'kids' are adults. There may be more to the situation than you would like to believe. The money thing may be an excuse not to leave him. There are women leaving abusive relationships with barely a coat on their back. OP maybe accept that your mother wants to be there more than she wants to leave. If she truly wanted to leave him wild horses wouldn't stop her, she may have used different excuses for exposing the family to it and not leaving over the years, and being short on the rent is what she may be settling on now. Don't stress yourself out and keep out of it for your own sanity.

    After all If he is only paying 'for a small amount of bills' how is she so financially dependent she can't leave him. That doesn't add up at all.


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