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  • 23-06-2013 11:37pm
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭


    Have been seeing this guy for about 8 months, on and off since he's very distant at times. I called time on whatever we had last week because I couldn't deal with being pushed away and I didn't feel like I could trust him.
    He went off with someone, on a date not a drunken thing, before anything had happened with us but at the time we had agreed we would not meet other people as we had our plans of getting together.

    I had trusted him completely prior to that, but although technically he did nothing wrong it threw me and I was a lot more upset than I ever thought I would be.

    He ended it with her a few weeks later and we ended up hooking up, again we agrees nobody else, however one night by accident I clicked onto his whatsapp and his timestamp showed him being active a lot, he would tell me he was going to bed or was busy but he'd be on his whatsapp. The night of his Christmas party he told me at 4 he was going to bed but every few mins til 5 he was on whatsapp. This was driving me insane with insecurity, so one night about two weeks later, I notice him on whatsapp every few mins after him telling me he was gone to bed. I freaked out at him and text "thought you were going to bed?" He went mad at me, took the timestamp off whatsapp and blocked me for a bit, he said he had gotten a text that woke him up and was replying to it which I know for a fact was a lie since he'd been on it properly every few mins.

    Now for months I couldn't see his activity on whatsapp, until maybe last week when I noticed timestamp back on. Every day he is on it early morning, then maybe once or twice during the day, but come 5 o clock til maybe 11, he is on it constantly.

    I ended things last week cause I said I couldn't trust him, he swore to me he'd never do that to me, and that he was sick of trying to convince me he wasnt meeting anyone else, and that he had no interest in meeting anyone else and said if I didn't trust him there was nothing else he could do to convince me otherwise. I gave him the opportunity to tell me if he was texting anyone and he said no that all he talked to was just the lads and his cousin. Most of the lads he texts would have iMessage.

    Now he wants to take a break from me and him being friends but was pretty upset when we talked over what we had and both decided not to have anything between us anymore.

    I notice all weekend he's been flat out on whatsapp. It's honestly wrecking my head. What do I do? I know I have no right but I feel like he's lying to me.


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  • #2
    Merkin
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 8,230 ✭✭✭Merkin


    I think you need to call time on this once and for all. You obviously don't trust him whatsoever so this just seems like far more hassle than it's worth. Cut ties with him and move on.


  • #3
    miamee
    Moderators, Social & Fun Moderators, Regional East Moderators, Regional North West Moderators Posts: 12,513 Mod ✭✭✭✭miamee


    Merkin wrote: »
    I think you need to call time on this once and for all. You obviously don't trust him whatsoever so this just seems like far more hassle than it's worth. Cut ties with him and move on.

    I completely agree with this. Delete him from Whatsapp and stop spending your time looking at how often he is active - as far as I can tell, you have to go into your conversation with a person to see when they were last active which means you are staring meaninglessly at an old conversation looking at a timestamp.

    Find someone you can trust and who you don't feel the need to 'watch' online - it's not this guy.

    ETA: it sounds like ye agreed to get together while he was still seeing someone else; naturally you couldn't trust that he wouldn't do the same thing to you.


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