Saying a person is too fat = rude, saying a person is too skinny = grand

rawn

Say you're at a party and you overhear someone grab your friend's waist and exclaim "Oh my god, you're SO fat, would you ever put the fork down?"
How do you react?

On the flip-side, say you're at a party and you overhear someone grab your friends waist and say "Oh my god, you're SO skinny, would you ever eat a burger?"

In my opinion, both of these comments are extremely rude but in my reality, people seem to think the skinny comment is socially acceptable.

December2012

Yes apparently it's AOK to be rude as long as you're being rude about the thing you want.

chops018

When people ask me if they are too fat I just say "Aw you're not fat! Chin up!....And the other one!".

wandatowell

If you are fat I'm guessing people generally aren't going to be discussing how bad/fat you look.

They be blown away by your bubbly outgoing personality.

whatdoicare

Eh, I have never heard anyone say either of those things fat or skinny and I'm a girl! What kind of people do you hang out with??:eek::eek::eek:

Table Top Joe

Being skinny is seen as desirable by many and a compliment, being called fat is one of the biggest insults you can give a lot of people


Tis fairly straight forward

Peregrine

chops018 wrote: »

When people ask me if they are too fat I just say "Aw you're not fat! Chin up!....And the other one!".

"Why don't you take two seats and we'll talk about it" :pac:

I've got that "Would ya ever eat a burger comment" many times. It's not welcome, to say the least.

Richard Hillman

My group of peers would destroy me if I put on a few kilos. Its probably different for women though.

mikemac1

whatdoicare wrote: »

Eh, I have never heard anyone say either of those things fat or skinny and I'm a girl! What kind of people do you hang out with??:eek::eek::eek:

The middle aged wimmins in the office and their multiple tea breaks

They can be vicious!

Any girl younger and slimmer will be a skinny bitch.

Call Me Jimmy

AH must be approaching its own moralising capacity at this stage surely!

biko

Yeah, people keep telling me I'm too good-looking.
It's offensive to my ugly friends.

A_Sober_Paddy

In recent weeks I've actually put on a few Kg(After spending ages dropping a lot of kgs:mad:) and people keep asking have i lost weight, maybe i should ask some of the overweight people if they lost/gained weight

But I've been told 3 times this week that I'm looking too thin...I'm fair from thin, now...

It kind of got on my nerves if I'm to be honest

The Backwards Man

People often tell me I'm not as stupid as I look.

**** them, let them think that what they want.

leewarden

chops018 wrote: »

When people ask me if they are too fat I just say "Aw you're not fat! Chin up!....And the other one!".

Not PC but so funny

leewarden

Whether you comment on a person being too fat/too thin/too tall/too short/pretty/ugly whatever it is not right to pass judgement on a person's physical appearance.

Ice Storm

I used to get the "skinny bitch" comments when I was younger. I always thought there were double standards around the fat/skinny thing.

When somebody is being congratulated on their weight loss there is the inevitable "don't go too far now!" :mad:

I think a lot of it stems from jealousy.

Citycap

The Backwards Man wrote: »

People often tell me I'm not as stupid as I look.

**** them, let them think that what they want.

Could anyone be that stupid?

hfallada

I ****ing can't stand that people give out to smokers. People who are addicted to probably the most addictive thing you can legally buy and very difficult to give up.

Yet it's rude to say something about someone's weight. Even through 98% it's because they eat **** food and never exercise. Being fat is a lifestyle. I don't feel sorry if someone calls you it. It's entirely your own fault. I have a thyroid problem is nearly always BS

Ilyana 2.0

I lost a bit of weight a couple of years ago, and I had women at work telling me not to 'go too far now', but others were telling me to to watch myself in case it all came back on (it did ). You'll never please everyone.

I know a girl who is naturally quite thin, and is a bit sensitive about people pointing it out to her, even in good nature. Just because somebody's thin, it doesn't mean they want to be that way (same as being overweight really), so I'd steer clear of commenting on somebody being thin.

leewarden

You are right OP, there is very definite double standard but not just about fat/ skinny


Hey, you are so fat not ok
you are so skinny grand


Shut up you black f***er racist
Shut up you white f***er nobody would complain

Do you want a drink you disabled twit OMG!!
Do you want a drink you able bodied twit no comments be passed

Radiosonde

Table Top Joe wrote: »

Being skinny is seen as desirable by many and a compliment, being called fat is one of the biggest insults you can give a lot of people


Tis fairly straight forward

Not quite. Being 'slim' is a compliment, being 'skinny' is a criticism. There's a slight difference, slim is thin and just right, skinny is too thin. But too thin is more socially acceptable than being fat, which exposes the hypocrisy. Except for health reasons, people really should MYOB about people's weight.

Table Top Joe

hfallada wrote: »

I ****ing can't stand that people give out to smokers. People who are addicted to probably the most addictive thing you can legally buy and very difficult to give up.

Yet it's rude to say something about someone's weight. Even through 98% it's because they eat **** food and never exercise. Being fat is a lifestyle. I don't feel sorry if someone calls you it. It's entirely your own fault. I have a thyroid problem is nearly always BS

In fairness though,its not like you can catch fat off them like you can get cancer from being around a smoker(or just stinky clothes and a sore throat)


I wouldn't eat junk food if you paid me it doesn't matter a damn to me if someone else does, every adult knows the dangers, its a personal choice

rawn

I'm a slightly underweight female, and I get the "oh eat a sammich" comments and people grabbing out of my waist mostly from strangers, but the odd time from friends (male and female) When I ask would they say the opposite to a large person they'd be like "oh no, that's rude!"

rawn

Table Top Joe wrote: »

Being skinny is seen as desirable by many and a compliment, being called fat is one of the biggest insults you can give a lot of people


Tis fairly straight forward

I'm not talking about "Oh you lucky cow you're SO skinny" I'm talking about "Oh my god you are SO skinny would you ever just eat something" or my personal "favorite"

"A real man wants a bit of meat, only a dog wants a bone"

That phrase is seen as an endorsement for being larger/curvier while being completely, unnecessarily nasty to skinny women. If someone said "A real man wants a slender lady, only a dog wants a fat cow" (put in more "eloquent" terms ofc) there'd be uproar :rolleyes:

Singularity 1

And then you have 'fat chance' and 'slim chance'. What's that all about?

leewarden

rawn wrote: »

I'm not talking about "Oh you lucky cow you're SO skinny" I'm talking about "Oh my god you are SO skinny would you ever just eat something" or my personal "favorite"

"A real man wants a bit of meat, only a dog wants a bone"

That phrase is seen as an endorsement for being larger/curvier while being completely, unnecessarily nasty to skinny women. If someone said "A real man wants a slender lady, only a dog wants a fat cow" (put in more "eloquent" terms ofc) there'd be uproar :rolleyes:

It's a thing people say as a put-down because they think all skinny women are like posh spice starving themselves to look good. There are plenty of women who are naturally very slim but people are often envious of them.

jackstapleton

If you haven't got anything nice to say, don't say anything at all

Cee-Jay-Cee

Nimrod 7 wrote: »

"Why don't you take two seats and we'll talk about it" :pac:

I've got that "Would ya ever eat a burger comment" many times. It's not welcome, to say the least.

Particularly for vegetarians.

onlyrocknroll

The Backwards Man wrote: »

People often tell me I'm not as stupid as I look.

**** them, let them think that what they want.

Screw them, Backwards Man, I'm sure you're just as stupid as you look.

leewarden

onlyrocknroll wrote: »

Screw them, Backwards Man, I'm sure you're just as stupid as you look.

Well his name is Backwards Man................

Woofstuff

Hate it when people say "have you lost weight".

Thanks for reminding me for what a fat c*nt I was.

Shut the f*ck up

bettybarlow

Woofstuff wrote: »

Hate it when people say "have you lost weight".

Thanks for reminding me for what a fat c*nt I was.

Shut the f*ck up

Aw, you lost weight.
Poor you.
And people make you feel worse by noticing.
Life can be so bad for some people.

Gummy Panda

did we not do this thread recently?

Are we just recycling threads now?

yore

A_Sober_Paddy wrote: »

In recent weeks I've actually put on a few Kg(After spending ages dropping a lot of kgs:mad:) and people keep asking have i lost weight, maybe i should ask some of the overweight people if they lost/gained weight

But I've been told 3 times this week that I'm looking too thin...I'm fair from thin, now...

It kind of got on my nerves if I'm to be honest

Just break into tears and tell them you're dying.

Then tell them you didn't mean it and you're not dying and run out of the room. And as you're leaving shout back at them with tears in your eyes and say "see you in hell ya fat cunt".

FreshKnickers

CJC999 wrote: »

Particularly for vegetarians.

Fat veggies! :eek:

Table Top Joe

Most veggies ive met have been fat tbh......I always think of it as a super healthy lifestyle but for a lot of people it just means they eat the same rubbish as everyone else...just not meat(though some of these eat fish...which doesn't count for some reason)

BrianD3

Yes, people will comment on your weight and how much you're eating if you're "skinny".

I am 5'9" and currently about 12.5 stone with low bodyfat, a 43 inch chest and 30 inch waist. Am regarded as skinny by many people. Recently when a co worker saw me eating a big pizza she commented that I "must have worms". Wasn't sure how to take that. Have also gotten similar comments when people saw me eating large amounts "where do you put it" etc. I have also been asked if I'm a jockey :rolleyes:

Stheno

BrianD3 wrote: »

Yes, people will comment on your weight and how much you're eating if you're "skinny".

I am 5'9" and currently about 12.5 stone with low bodyfat, a 43 inch chest and 30 inch waist. Am regarded as skinny by many people. Recently when a co worker saw me eating a big pizza she commented that I "must have worms". Wasn't sure how to take that. Have also gotten similar comments when people saw me eating large amounts "where do you put it" etc. I have also been asked if I'm a jockey :rolleyes:

I'm five eight, 9 and a half stone, 32 inch chest (female) 27 inch waist, and put up with skinny bitch comments every day

carzony

Stheno wrote: »

I'm five eight, 9 and a half stone, 32 inch chest (female) 27 inch waist, and put up with skinny bitch comments every day

I'm 6 1 and only about 11 and a half stone, It's funny but I eat like a horse. All through my life people have always commented on how 'little' my body is.. Fair enough i'v not a bit of muscle on me but I look in the mirror and like what I see...

In all fairness I would like to get a bit of meat around my arms though

EoghanIRL

carzony wrote: »

I'm 6 1 and only about 11 and a half stone, It's funny but I eat like a horse. All through my life people have always commented on how 'little' my body is.. Fair enough i'v not a bit of muscle on me but I look in the mirror and like what I see...

In all fairness I would like to get a bit of meat around my arms though

I'm about the same height but much lighter on the scales . Damn you high metabolism !!!

carzony

EoghanIRL wrote: »

I'm about the same height but much lighter on the scales . Damn you high metabolism !!!

How much lighter?:p I think it's great somtimes, I can eat as much as I want and really never have much problems weight wise

rawn

carzony wrote: »

I'm 6 1 and only about 11 and a half stone, It's funny but I eat like a horse. All through my life people have always commented on how 'little' my body is.. Fair enough i'v not a bit of muscle on me but I look in the mirror and like what I see...

In all fairness I would like to get a bit of meat around my arms though

I'm 5"5 and 7.5 stone, I already know that's under the ideal weight but I've tried weight gain shakes in addition to what I already eat and I eat a LOT!!! I'm trying to learn to just accept that this is the weight I NATURALLY am and am trying to be happy with it but with the constant criticism it gets me down sometimes. I would ideally love to be a size 12 but am stuck at a size 8 (a skinny looking size 8 not a nice looking size 8) but sure... fk it :P

carzony

I know a lad from my road who is mad into the football, gaa ect.. Little ****er is build like a brick wall. I seen him there today and he has a 6 pack and arms and legs are ****in huge but he never works out only football and gaa once a week. I suppose some people are just lucky.

FreshKnickers

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dub_skav

Gummy Panda wrote: »

did we not do this thread recently?

Are we just recycling threads now?

Must have lost all the posts and then put them back on again

Handsome Bob

Interesting comparison OP that I don't think has been made in AH before.